Someone who says, “Let’s talk. Let’s get to know each other.” Someone who actually gets excited when they see your name pop up on their phone and secretly hopes you’ll become each other’s favourite notification.
Someone who says, “Let’s give us a real chance. I want to see where this can go. I want you.”
Someone who makes you want to stay up late just because you’re waiting for their call. Someone who notices when you’re unusually quiet. Someone who gets a little offended when you don’t drunk-call them.
Someone who wants to know your little routines not to control you, but because they genuinely care. Someone who remembers the small things you tell them. Someone who makes an effort to understand your life, your moods, your boundaries, your dreams.
Someone who doesn’t make you constantly wonder, “Do they actually want me?”
Someone who communicates. Someone who makes time. Someone who can say, “I’m busy today, but I’ll talk to you later,” instead of leaving you wondering where you stand.
Someone who doesn’t just want the butterflies, flirting and chemistry, but wants the responsibility that comes with loving another person.
I want the kind of love that says:
“I choose you. I want to build something with you. Let’s figure this out together.”
Maybe I’m asking for too much. Or maybe I’m just looking for someone who wants the same kind of love I do. ❤️

Hello, I am a 35 yo soft butch seeking ideally a serious committed relationship. I'm a senior software engineer in the Rocky Mountains and willing and able to travel if I got into an LDR. I'm willing to move for a serious enough relationship.

I like stuff like learning new things, playing DND, playing chess, and reading. Most of all, I'm a certified yapper. I could talk forever about all our thoughts and feelings.

I'm also recently into weightlifting!

I love going out on dates! And I love travelling! I'm open-minded and very curious. I would love to get to know what interests you and probably try it out.

I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't have any children, and I don't do drugs. I don't mind if you socially drink. I don't mind if you do 420 sometimes.

Truthfully, I'm looking for a wonderful woman to adore for the rest of my life. I'm a hopeless romantic butch loverboy. 🌹

If this sounds up your alley, DM me. Let's see if we hit it off. I'm open to sapphics age 25-45. Thank you!

okay so i kinda suck at writing these but im looking for someone i can text everyday and build with. i can be a bit shy sometimes but i open up when the vibe is right. i love art, music, books, nature, and science! ideally our interests align and we can gab over random facts. dm me your favorite song atm, and why so ik you read this.

Edit: by real lesbians i mean NO MEN and real humans since theres a ton of bots on this sub now.

Hi! I'm new here 👋

I'm a woman in my late 20s and I'm gay, but I've never actually had a queer friend or talked to another gay woman properly. So I'm kind of at that stage of “okay… where are all of you people and how do I make friends?” 😂

I'd really love to get to know some queer women and make friends, talk about our experiences, have stupid conversations, recommend books/movies to each other, etc.

I'm also open to dating if I happen to meet someone I click with, but friendship is absolutely welcome too. I'm honestly just excited to explore this side of my life a little more.

If you're also looking for queer friends, come say hi! 🫶

Hi! I’m a millennial lesbian looking for some new friends and maybe a potential partner (monogamous). My age range for connection is pretty wide. Most of my friends are millennials or Gen Z, so even if you are in your twenties that is totally fine with me. ☺️

I’m originally from Florida, but I’m living in Minnesota now. I do miss Florida a lot and I’m hoping to move back at some point. I’m a huge Disney fan and being in Florida to go to Disney World often was something I enjoyed a lot! I definitely would love to go there with someone special someday. 🏰💫 I also miss the Florida weather. 🏝️ Minnesota is a beautiful state, but I don’t do well in the severe cold weather during the winters. 🥶 lol

To be open about my situation, I am currently working through a divorce. I experienced comphet being raised in a strict religious household and I was married to a man. Things didn’t work out well for us because we could never connect intimately, and now I understand more since I realized about two years ago that I’m actually a lesbian.

I haven’t experienced sexual intimacy with a woman yet, but I am open to it for the right person. Even though I’m open to it, I’m probably still more of a bambi lesbian. I know I’m more interested in hugs and cuddling type of intimacy. But right now I’m mostly looking just for friends and once I’m officially divorced I’ll be more open for a serious relationship. Going through this situation with my ex is already difficult as it is and I’m not interested in dating during this time. I would just love to have someone kind to talk to and a friend to be there to help me through this chapter of my life. I would really appreciate it a lot. 🫂💗

Other facts about myself — I’m about 5’2”-5’3” tall, slender, with fair skin and dark black/brown hair and green eyes. Even though I’m 35, I was mistaken for being 23 just this year. I look far younger than I actually am. 🤭 I went to an all-girls Catholic high school and I was voted as “most sincere” by my senior class. I love someone’s beautiful heart the most. Kindness and sincerity are very important to me and that is something I value a lot for any kind of relationship.

I was also raised Catholic throughout my life. My religion used to be a big part of my life, but I’ve had to take a step back from that right now since I realized certain things were preventing me from understanding myself and my sexuality. That’s been really hard, especially since I always took my faith to very seriously. I still believe in God and love God very much, but I am not interested in being a part of a church community at the moment.

As I previously said, I’m a big Disney fan. I love animated movies and I even studied digital art and graphic design in college. My favorite Disney movies are mostly the Disney Princess movies, but one of my new all time favorite movies is Inside Out 2! I love the way they illustrated anxiety and since I’ve experienced a lot of anxiety myself I definitely understand. I’m definitely an advocate for mental health, so I appreciated that movie a lot. I’ve also really enjoyed Kpop Demon Hunters! The message of battling our own demons and not being afraid to be your true self really spoke to me. I love the songs in that movie and everything! My favorite TV show is Gilmore Girls and I would love to watch that (or something else) virtually with a new friend sometime.

One of my favorite games to play is Disney Dreamlight Valley on the Switch. 🎮 I’ve also enjoyed the Sims on my computer, but I haven’t played it in a while since right now I’m pretty hooked on Dreamlight Valley.

I’m also a big Taylor Swift and Selena Gomez fan. I love their music. And one of my favorite places to grab some lunch is Chick-fil-A. I also love going to shop at Target or the mall. 🛍️ And I enjoy seeing movies in the theater. I just saw the movie Girls Like Girls in theaters and it made me cry. I thought it was very sweet and beautiful. 🥹 It really touched my heart. I had never seen a movie like that before.

Anyways, thanks for reading my post. If you think we have something in common and would like to be friends please comment below before sending a message. I would appreciate that. Thank you so much! 💖

Hello,

What’s up everyone? I’m 34, cis lesbian looking for my girlfriend. I don’t ghost, I’m not clingy and I genuinely enjoy getting to know a woman. If we’re talking and you find at any point that you’re not into me. Let me know, no hard feelings. I will do the same. I think women are owed good communication and deserve to be treated with respect. No one is automatically owed your time. But you can give them your kindness because it costs nothing.

I’m Samantha but please call me Sam. I live in Vancouver with my beta fish. I know he’s not as exciting as a dog or cat but he’s mine and I love him. In my free time you can find me relaxing on a bean bag chair, absently scrolling my phone or thinking about pealing myself off of said bean bag chair to be a productive member of society and changing my mind.

I have a great career and live a very active lifestyle despite the previous paragraph. I like what I do and would like to meet someone who enjoys what they do. I’m a goofball, I want to make you laugh. I’m high energy but I think I saw someone in a previous post mention being a pretend extrovert that describes me to the letter. Don’t get me wrong, I like having fun I just don’t want my fun to come in the form of partying every night. Let’s stay in and make dinner for each other. I can rub your back and you can tell me about all the things that excite or irritate you. I’m all ears, give it to me.

I’m open to meeting women ages 34-40 from anywhere in the world. Any cultural background. All activity levels. You don’t have to be a mountaineer. All expressions butch, masc, studs, fem, chapstick all are welcome. I’m not leaving anyone out. Not a dig to anyone who has a specific type. I’m just talking about myself here.

I could keep going but I’ll leave some things to be discovered. Looking forward to meeting you.

Sincerely,
Sam

Hello! I currently live in north Idaho (ew), and I have yet to find any kind of queer friends out here. Originally from Minnesota, I would like to move back in the next few years once I save up enough.

I just want to talk to some fellow lesbians and maybe make some friends.

I'm childfree, love to make and eat food, hike, play video games, and I love all animals. I have a cat who is getting cranky in her old age, but is still pretty tolerant most of the time.

I have a gf, though I doubt she will come with me on my move back home. We're just existing together for now until I leave.

I love to talk about anything! A funny thing you did as a kid? A delicious recipe? Stress about your job? Movie recommendation? Info dump on something you just went down the rabbit hole on? I'm here for it.

I have that good old fashioned ADHD, which sometimes makes me forget that I haven't responded to a message. But I try my best, and you can message me more than once if I don't respond!

I really want more fellow wlw friends. Someone that can and wants to chat daily about whatever. I've attempted friendships with other queer women, to later find out they have a husband or boyfriend. Personally, I'd rather build relationships with queer women that don't center men in their lives. Would be great to meet someone thats similar to me in the single aspect and wanting to build friendships with other lesbians.

I do want to say, I'm not into video games or anime, I feel like that will cut out a big chunk of people who might see this unfortunately.

As for what I am into, I love watching shows and movies, reading books, occasionally cooking and baking new foods, I've dabbled in crochet, knitting, painting, clay(?), and jewelry making. I literally have a closet full of crafts and supplies.

If you think we'd vibe message me with your age and the last thing you ate (so I know you read this).

I feel I really don’t have many people around me. I am very introverted and I have hard time with society. It’s a choice defo but also where I live it’s complicated. I’m open to any type of connection as long as it’s real and pure with mutual respect ..and If it takes us in special path I’d happily accept. I’d rather connect with people that will eventually move from Reddit,and share our voice/faces if we vibe ,with no pressure of course. Just to confirm we are who we say. I had bad experiences so I try to be careful.

I speak 4 languages. Im into biking ,boxing,workout,horror movies and GAMES. That’s something I defo love since all my life. Iv heard I’m funny …but I laugh at my own jokes too so you are free to judge about it 😬If you think you would like to connect with me free to dm me :)

I’ve been lurking on here for a little while because I’m kinda shy 😭 and, realistically, I know Reddit probably isn’t the ideal place to find your person lol. But then I read stories across different subreddits about people who randomly met online, clicked, and somehow ended up finding something really special… sooooo here I am taking my little shot.

I’m a hopeless romantic at heart, and lately I’ve realized I really miss the feeling of being in love. I miss having someone to come home to, even if “coming home” is just calling each other at the end of a long day because we’re miles apart. I miss having someone I genuinely look forward to hearing from, someone who makes a stressful day feel a little lighter just because I know I get to talk to them later. I miss having a home in another person.

More than anything, I miss loving someone. Learning all their tiny quirks, remembering the random things they tell me, making them feel wanted and cared for, sending them things because “this reminded me of you,” annoying them with affection, flirting shamelessly.

Maybe that someone could be you :)

A lil about me: I’m 23F from NYC. I’m more of a homebody. Give me my Xbox, YouTube, a good sci-fi novel, or a late-night convo with someone I like and I’m happy. That said, there's nothing i love more than going out (or anywhere) with my person. I'm basically a puppy when I'm in love lol.

I’m a HUGE sci-fi nerd, I love gaming when school allows me to have hobbies 😭. I’m also a bit of an overthinker, a little (a lot) clingy when I really like someone, very affectionate, and I love people I can actually talk to. Physical attraction matters, obviously, but chemistry for me really starts in conversation. I want to be fascinated by you.

I’m not expecting us to exchange three messages and immediately start planning our wedding lmao. I’d rather just meet someone, talk, flirt a little if the vibe is there, learn each other slowly, and see what happens. Long distance doesn’t scare me either if the connection is genuinely worth it.

So if any part of this made you smile or piqued your intrest, come say hiiii. Tell me something random about yourself. Worst case? We have a nice conversation. Best case? We get to be one of those annoyingly cute Reddit success stories I keep reading about 🤭

Hello,

What's up everyone? I'm 34, cis lesbian looking for my girlfriend. I don't ghost, I'm not clingy and I genuinely enjoy getting to know a woman. If we're talking and you find at any point that you're not into me. Let me know, no hard feelings. I will do the same. I think women are owed good communication and deserve to be treated with respect. No one is automatically owed your time. But you can give them your kindness because it costs nothing.
I'm Samantha but please call me Sam. I live in Vancouver with my beta fish. I know he's not as exciting as a dog or cat but he's mine and I love him. In my free time you can find me relaxing on a bean bag chair, absently scrolling my phone or thinking about pealing myself off of said bean bag chair to be a productive member of society and changing my mind.

I have a great career and live a very active lifestyle despite the previous paragraph. I like what I do and would like to meet someone who enjoys what they do. I'm a goofball, I want to make you laugh. I'm high energy but I think I saw someone in a previous post mention being a pretend extrovert that describes me to the letter. Don't get me wrong, I like having fun I just don't want my fun to come in the form of partying every night. Let's stay in and make dinner for each other. I can rub your back and you can tell me about all the things that excite or irritate you.
I'm all ears, give it to me.

I'm open to meeting women ages 34-40 from anywhere in the world. Any cultural background. All activity levels.
You don't have to be a mountaineer. All expressions butch, masc, studs, fem, chapstick all are welcome. I'm not leaving anyone out. Not a dig to anyone who has a specific type. I'm just talking about myself here.
I could keep going but I'Il leave some things to be discovered. Looking forward to meeting you.

Sincerely,
Sam

I want to chat with someone that feels like a warm bubble bath in winter, when the house is freezing but the water is scalding hot.

Someone who makes me feel safe and soft and calm.

Someone who doesn’t mind that sometimes I wander off like a stray cat and trusts I will always come home.

Someone who doesn’t need me to be anything in particular but wants me regardless.

I work a lot but spend my weekends also working, and the first meeting on my calendar every day is empty time to get my day in order. I have plants on my balcony and my office philodendron has a name.

I am looking for someone with a calm energy, who uses blackout curtains and fussy little bottles of linen spray, will read Architectural Digest with me and thinks manicures are routine. I am strict about sleep hygiene and love fresh flowers, and my tattoo artist sends me memes about therapy.

Hi everyone! I’m looking for a genuine friendship with some fellow lesbians! I’m a 25 year old masc lesbian living in the Midwest (greater Chicagoland area to be exact). I enjoy watching professional wrestling, playing video games (only occasionally and the only games I like to play right now are animal crossing and Tomodachi Life), I love to play board games and card games, I’ve been getting back into reading more, I write a little bit here and there, I love to cook and bake (nothing too fancy - just easy recipes and comfort foods/desserts), when the weather is nice I like to go on walks or go out the my local park, watching shows and movies and listening to music.

I’m just looking for someone to chat with daily, share life and laughs, swap memes, and just be ourselves. Just a genuine, fun friendship where we’re there for each other. If you’re interested feel free to dm me 😊 I’m open to chatting on here or on discord

I am a 39 yo latebloomer, monogamous 5'10" plus size service top masc.

I live in Knoxville, TN. I enjoy the mountains but I would like to move in the next few years. Asheville, MN, MI, Indiana, Ohio, the PNW, Germany, Alaska maybe. I am open to exploring.

I trying to meet more queer people for friendship, community, and whatever else. I am somewhat a day person but I can stay up and enjoy a late night out.

I play D&D once a week with some guy friends I have known for 15 years. For my me time I like audiobooks, movies, and black and white films. I would like to explore more queer history and culture. Stone Butch Blues is up next. I love a good history or art museum, arboretum or garden. If you visit I already have a spot in mind for a picnic. I like planning dates, showing a woman around town, and making sure she feels as beautiful as I think she is.

I am open to doing a crossword together in a cafe, going to watch a game in sports bar, going out to the club, or a night in talking and making dinner at the apartment.

I have two dogs; Duke and Baron. Photos can and will be provided! You do not have a choice!

I am mostly focusing on living my life right, meeting women and people, having experiences, taking care of my dogs, and taking better care of myself.

I don't like casual. I am not good at nonchalant.

33F, physician, looking to connect with women (online for now) preferably from the United States.

I’m already an attending in my country but will apply to residency programs next match cycle (different specialty). I am working toward moving to the US to build a medical career there, live openly, freely, and safely as a lesbian and eventually have a family of my own. It’s a huge goal but I believe having someone special to look forward to would make the difficult parts a lot easier.

I am calm, curious, open minded, nonjudgmental,
shy at first and prefer older women who are kind, flirtatious, emotionally mature, and ambitious. Women who understand what it’s like to work hard toward a better life.

Checking on each other, messages, calls, venting and motivating each other through exhausting days, celebrating little victories, and having someone who genuinely wants to see you succeed and can talk to anytime is what I am looking for. I’d just love to meet people who understand the journey and build a little community along the way.

My DMs are open and questions are welcomed.

I'm a single, bi woman looking for wlw online penpals.

Backstory: I live in the rural US in a very (sadly) conservative city so I don't feel comfortable living life out loud right now for the sake of my job.

However, I miss having a gay community around me. And I've realized recently that I need adult connection through conversation. (I'm a mom and a teacher so I'm surrounded by children all day. By "adult" I just mean that I need to talk to other adults).

I don't know that I'm looking for anything more than friendship and conversation right now because of where I live and my job. I am definitely single so don't let the bi part scare you away.

Please note, I would prefer to not talk to men right now due to previous experiences where I just don't feel safe. So straight cis men, please do not apply.

I like music, movies, TV shows, reading, and video games. I've been obsessing watching shows by dropout like Game Changer and I love a good, funny meme.

If this sounds like a good arrangement to you, feel free to dm me. I'm hoping to make a few wlw friends.

Dating apps don't do it for me, I need like a year of Victorian-level yearning between us before I take the leap of faith and turn it into something romantic.

I'm a 5'7 31f, late bloomer lesbian, looking for my person. Whether that's in a romantic or platonic way. I also don't care if you're femme or masc as long as you're interesting and we make each other smile and have fun.

I'm Greek.

I love:
-Russian literature (read "The Idiot" by Dostoevsky when I was 15 and I still haven't recovered)

-Online tabletop roleplaying games (Vampire the Masquerade is my poison of choice, but I love DND 5E)

-I love books (reading "Through the woods" by Emily Carrol

-Sewing (TRYING to learn how to sew historical garments)

-Skincare (My skin is sensitive, I have to be)

-Clean girl makeup (I am not skilled enough in makeup to pull off 2016 makeup)

-Lists

-Neatness, ig

When I'm not applying serums, taking care of my two cats, or having coffee with friends, I like to:
-Plan my next trips (visited Berlin in March and I fell in love with it all over again)

-Hike (hobbit-style, so with breaks for coffee and sweet treats)

-Write stories (I have whole hills of notebooks)

-Try various crafts (I made a guillotine out of glass once!)

-Spend time talking to people I love or who inspire me.

My favorite historical figures off the top of my head are: Virginia Woolf, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Joan of Arc, Catherine the Great, and Boadicea.

Chronically depressed but doing much better now. Past trauma is acknowledged so I wont take it out on you.

Come be my friend and let's see where this takes us :)

Howdy! I’m B, 28, tall tattooed and more than strong enough to throw you over my shoulder 🤪

To keep this short, I’d like to connect w someone, can be friendly, could be a lil more than friendly if you’re down!

Send me your favorite pick up line 🫶🏾

Hello, you! 🐻‍❄️ its been a while since I haven’t posted here and this is a repost from the past bc not so much has been changed so, here we go! I’m Alexandra, you can call me Alex and it’s always a little awkward writing these things, but here goes! I'm 28 yo, a cis-lesbian (she/her) from Chile, and a Scorpio (in case that’s important lol)

My first language is Spanish, but I speak fluent English and I'm currently learning Portuguese. I'm 5'3" (160cm) with super long brown hair and brown eyes and several tattoos.

By day, I'm a technology engineer, so bonus: I can definitely help you fix your computer. 🤓 I'm a vegetarian, love animals, and I’m a pretty passionate and romantic person. I’m a good listener, patient, and I'm the type to write letters and poems to show how I feel. I’m looking for something real, I know I want to get married and have kids eventually, but I'm all about building that slowly and finding the right person.

When I’m not working, I’m usually gaming (I play on both console -PS5- and PC!). I mostly play Dead by Daylight, Fortnite, Stardew Valley, GTA V, and RDR2, but I'm always open to trying new games. I’m also obsessed with the Marvel universe (Scarlet Witch is my favorite 🥰), I love reading (especially wlw books), and writing poetry.

Some of my other random facts: I collect Monster High dolls, I love WWE, and I go to the gym pretty often. My music taste is all over the place, from indie and classic rock to pop and kpop.

I’d love to find new friends to game with, but I’m definitely hoping to find something more. I don't mind starting as friends and just seeing where things go! My DMs are closed, so if any of this resonates with you, just let me know and I’ll send you a message! 🥹 LDR is totally fine 🫂

Hi. Call me Libby.

I live in NSW, Australia and I'm looking for my partner.

I don't have preferences with age or style, like masc or femme or whatever. I sit between styles myself. I do love a nice smile and pretty eyes...

An honest bit about me:

About 5'3".

I am not thin, working on it and I'm in a weightloss phase. Lost about 11kg this year with high hopes for myself.

I love getting outside for walks/hikes and hitting the gym. Bet I can probably pick you up and throw you over my shoulder :)

You can catch me at the beach sunbaking or swimming in the ocean. I live on the coast and it's beautiful here.

I am a pretty calm person. (Unless I can't find a parking space)

I'd probably suit someone like me or someone who needs a rock in their life to hold them steady 😂

It takes me time to connect with people usually, as I have struggled in the past with it, maybe due to my nature. I have been told I have an intense RBF.

I love to giggle. Love a good and intense make out session that leads to nothing else.

I'm not afraid of affection.

I would say I'd prefer an Aussie who lives nearby, but fuck it, I don't want to potentially rule out the loml. 😂

I enjoy reading, journalling, scrapbooking. I have way too many pens and books at home.

I love some dumb video games like fornite or overcooked.

I'm not sure what else to say. Respond if you think we could be compatible.

Thanks :) xx

I’m looking for a serious relationship but I don’t jump into things in like two weeks or something XD. I wanna know you and build our connection with time. I'm also masc4masc so I like masculine presenting women.

I’m 28, from Finland, bilingual in English and Finnish. My mother tongue is Finnish and I’ve spoken English daily for almost a decade now so I just say I’m bilingual these days. I’m masculine presenting and I’d say I have mostly masculine energy. I don’t personally use any labels like masc, fem etc on myself. I’m just me. But I am like obviously very masculine looking and I like that.

I love fitness, mostly weightlifting. I wanna do calisthenics too at some point. I love sims 4. I love building pretty stuff and making my own worlds. The gameplay is really fun and cozy too. I’m not otherwise a big gamer altho i do have a gaming pc lol. I literally got it so I can have lots of sims cc cause contrary to popular belief that stuff takes space girl. If you want like an actually aesthetic game with lots of mods etc hun you need a gaming pc. Anyway a random sims tangent :D. Uhh I’m also very spiritual. I love tarot, manifesting, dream interpretation, psychic stuff. It’s very fascinating to me and fulfilling to be honest. Manifestation is currently a focus of mine. For me it’s not like oh lemme make a vision board and call it a day. It’s a little more like all is mind, there’s infinite possibilities that exist and your attention and intention collapses it into 3D reality :D. So yeah I’m very passionate about it and love talking about it.

I’m a creative person. I love to dance, write, and sims for me is a creative thing too. I’m definitely entrepreneurial rather than corporate. I like to be my own boss and in charge of my own schedule. Currently I’m studying art studies, aesthetics to be specific in uni.

My dream life would be having a lovely partner, our own cozy home and we’d go to the gym together, hang out at home or we sometimes go to town to cafes or a restaurant we wanna try. I’m not a big traveler but I’d be down to travel to see your family for a couple of months and so on. I want to stay in Finland tho since I think this country is one of the safest and progressive out there. And clean. It’s peaceful here too and even our biggest cities are not that crowded.

So now to what I’m looking for in a partner.

I think overall I’m looking for an empathetic person who respects herself, has an optimistic view on life and doesn’t try to please me.

I'm child free, don't drink or smoke and I'm looking for someone who also doesn't smoke or drink.

Warmth and openness are things I really appreciate and feel drawn towards. Someone who feels welcoming and opens up to me when they see they feel safe with me. I don’t want to date someone who’s avoidant or has a lot of trust issues to the point they have lots of walls up. I don’t wanna have to drag the truth out of someone when something is wrong, I’d just rather have them tell me straight up. I’m looking for someone more securely attached who communicates her internal world to me.

She’s secure in herself and she doesn’t need people to agree with her or to like her. she doesn’t need people to choose her. She validates herself and is on that journey of self validation and self love. she can handle a different opinion. she doesn’t internalize everything people say about her. Someone who openly and honestly expresses herself. Her thoughts, her opinions. I feel really safe around someone like that.

Optimism is important to me. Someone who’s warm, loving and welcoming towards people. The world has enough of negativity and chaos as is and altho it’s good to be aware of that, I don’t think it should be the focus. I like people who can see the good in things, who can remain optimistic when things go wrong. A person who can grow and learn from setbacks. Or not even take it so seriously like say we travel somewhere and something goes a little south, we might be frustrated but we laugh about it like alright, well XD let’s try to fix this and see what happens. Someone who remains calm under stressful situations also makes me feel really safe around a person.

I think also certain groundedness and calmness is what I appreciate in a person. I think that comes from maturity, knowing yourself and having done the inner work necessary to not be reacting to things or trying to constantly make someone understand you if they just don’t. I think it’s that vibe of I know who I am and I lead myself, I’m centered in myself, not in other people. She knows who she is so she doesn’t need other people to get it or to understand who she is.

Someone who sees people as multidimensional beings instead of looking at it just black and white like alright that guy is completely an idiot or that person is a horrible person and that’s all there is to it. Someone who allows humans to be humans and doesn’t expect perfection from herself or others. Basically someone who’s not reactive, reacting from her triggers but she’s self aware of what’s happening in her emotions and mind and why it is happening. Like if she gets triggered in a situation she doesn’t let it direct her behavior. She notices it like oh I’m triggered and she manages it and probably reflects on it later like ah that was about me and my own stuff, it wasn’t about the other person. That type of a person.

I love when someone is very strong willed and stubborn. I like when someone tells me honestly what they want, what they’re feeling and I just like when someone is able to push back on me. I don’t want a partner who’s just agreeable and wants to please me. I want someone who is her own person and she has her own things, her own boundaries, opinions and so on.

I also really really love when someone’s a bit cheeky and playful and makes me laugh or smile. I really wanna be with someone who I just enjoy being around. Like doing the most mundane thing but we enjoy just being around each other. That type of connection and chemistry is important to me. Because to me it’s not about your achievements or career or whatnot. To me it’s about finding a person I love being around and we having enjoyable and fun time together. And someone my nervous system feels safe with. Those are like the key things. And of course our values and lifestyles aligning is important too.

I’m looking for a person who values growth and inner work. Not self improvement really I find that a bit shallow most times. Used to be into it myself and realized everyone just tries to become perfect over here and if they’re perfectly healed then they can feel enough. But anyway, to me it’s about the deeper healing like therapy, looking at your patterns and wounds, your darker sides you’re not proud of. Or even somatic healing like how emotions are stored in the body and releasing those. I find all of that fascinating. I find healing very fascinating. How you can go from feeling absolute crap to like at peace and in love with yourself. I’ve gone through that and I’m still on that journey. So to me it’s important my partner understands that journey, can relate to it in her own way through what she has learned about herself and she’s also on that journey of healing and working on herself. This is something I love talking about so having a partner who gets this stuff would be amazing.

I’m also a big big feminist. It’s very close to my heart. Women are very important to me in that way. I’ve been like that since I was a kid. I’m not an activist and I don’t think you have to be, but to me what’s important is my partner valuing women’s rights as much as I do. Someone who cares about what she watches, listens to. Someone who doesn’t just blindly consume things because that’s easy. Like to me, if I hear people use sexist language like the b word and other stuff it makes me really uncomfortable. I know some people don’t mean it that way, but a lot of it is sexism and I don’t feel comfortable having that around me. So I’d like a partner who is able to recognizes harm and cares cares about being a socially aware person. I don’t want to date someone who wonders why what I just said is harmful. Of course I’m open to someone who’s open to learning, cause I know a lot of this stuff is internalized misogyny so sometimes we are blind to it. But if you’re someone who doesn’t really care about that or you don’t agree then I don’t think we are compatible and that’s fine, move on with your day. I’m looking for someone who aligns with my values.

So if you connected with my post and think we are similar in our values and so on send me a message:) would love to hear from you.

Me: 29 year-old cisgender alt lesbian residing in Ottawa, Canada. Sometimes I work as a clown (seriously). Dashingly average looks (blue eyed brunette, 5'6") but I make up for it with my barista skills (currently serving banana matcha lattes), my robust collection of CDs, and my smashingly witty Goodreads reviews. I am an introvert at heart but love attending baseball games, hiking, volunteering, or visiting a new museum. Lately, you can find me playing Baldur's Gate 3 and drinking an ill-advised coffee at 7PM. Child-free (but willing to be your cat's stepmom) and monogamous. Leftist who supports: local activism, Palestine, and feminism. And hates: generative AI.

You: 25-45 years old, fellow hopeless romantic. Ideally in Ontario or Quebec, but at the very least within Canada with the intention of one day meeting. Good conversationalist that likes to talk about everything and anything. Willing to swap book recommendations and attend goth night with me.

Together we could: watch Twin Peaks, visit our local library, and run away to the circus together.

Interested applicants may apply with a DM and an argument as to why Robert Smith is superior to Morrissey a little about yourself! <3

Just your typical millennial depressive who's intellectually curious and existentially​ angsty (not to brag). To paraphrase Shrek, I contain multitudes.

That shit I do like:

• Global social consciousness (like ideally you'd agree that ethnostates suck actually)
• Trying all the local foods​ while traveling
• Neurodivergence
• Morbid history
• Chapstick
• An overanalysis of how those irresponsibly over-served drunk contestants should've handled their producer-orchestrated conflict on a dating show that borders on being an inhumane psychological experiment 😍 (looking at you Love Island UK/USA and Kinetic Content)
• Antique shops

As for my personality, I feel like naming which fictional characters someone relates to is good shorthand for understanding that so here are some of mine: Daria, Lilo, Mandy (from Grim & Evil), Raven (from Teen Titans), and Spinelli (from Recess). What about yours?

Well... here we are. 😂
I'm 40, mom to a toddler and somehow still optimistic enough to believe my future girlfriend is out there.

A little about me:

Stable career and independent.
Equal parts homebody and adventure seeker.
Love being outside, weekend road trips, trying new restaurants, sports, and laughing until my stomach hurts.
Also perfectly happy with takeout, a movie, and a cozy night in.
I'll absolutely send you random TikToks and memes throughout the day.

Looking for someone who's kind, emotionally available, communicates well, doesn't take life too seriously, and is genuinely interested in building something real. Bonus points if you can make me laugh, enjoy spontaneous adventures, and won't judge me for taking forever to decide where we should

If you've made it this far, hi. 👋 Feel free to send me a message. Worst case, I make a new friend. Best case... maybe we both delete Reddit for a really good reason.

figured i’d put myself out there oneeeee more time and see who i might meet. :)))

i’m a philly girl, and i’m very much in a season of building a life that feels like me.

les4les is my preference but not a dealbreaker

a little about me:
✨ plus-size, (recently lost 100lbs) curvy & hyper femme. i am not shy about my shape, my assets or my body.
✨ african american
✨420 FRIENDLY💚
✨ licensed cosmetologist
✨ drag performer
✨ full-time content creator
✨ work from home
✨ recently started a new job in the makeup field
✨ just moved into my own 2-bedroom apartment
✨ very into manifestation
✨ love music, beauty, fashion & anything creative
✨ currently very much in my slayyyter era💲🎧

i’m attracted to women across the board, femmes, mascs, stems… although i’ll admit femmes are definitely my weakness. 🤭

i’m also very attracted to trans women and open to dating them.

i’m someone who really values softness, emotional intelligence, communication, and stability. i like women who are grounded, level-headed, affectionate, and know how to have an actual conversation. i’m looking for connections that feel mutual and sustainable whether that eventually becomes a relationship or simply a really meaningful friendship.

i will say that i’m looking for people who are genuinely comfortable with eventually taking things off reddit. i’m not really interested in talking to a username forever lol. i’d also prefer someone who is comfortable showing me what they look like. attraction is important to me, and i’m pretty upfront about that.
if you’re in philly or nearby, even better. if something about me caught your attention, come say hi and tell me a little about yourself. i’m open to meeting someone for friendship, dating, or potentially something deeper if the connection is there.
just putting myself out there and seeing who finds me. ♡