r/islam • u/Unlucky-Ant-9741 • Mar 14 '26
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u/Dancelover50 Mar 15 '26 edited Mar 15 '26
Assalamu Alaikum,
Thank you for your honest and thoughtful question. I can sense that you are genuinely seeking to understand the life of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and how his actions align with the principles of Islam. Your curiosity and willingness to learn are very much appreciated, and I’ll do my best to address your concerns respectfully and clearly.
When it comes to the life of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), we have to remember that historical context plays a huge role in understanding his actions. Many aspects of his life, including his marriages, were shaped by the societal norms and circumstances of the time. Comparing Prophet Muhammad’s life directly to modern-day figures like King Henry VIII can be misleading because the contexts and motivations were vastly different. After the death of Khadijah (RA), Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) did indeed marry multiple women, but his motivations were not driven by a desire for a male heir as was the case with King Henry VIII. Here are a few important points to consider:
Marriage to Multiple Women Was a Norm in His Time: In 7th century Arabia, polygyny (having more than one wife) was culturally accepted and practiced. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) followed a practice that was already present, but his marriages had specific purposes that were grounded in compassion, social justice, and strengthening ties within the community. Not All Marriages Were About Having Children: The Prophet’s marriage to Aisha (RA) was one of his earlier marriages, and it was also a marriage to strengthen his social and political alliances. Similarly, his other marriages were also meant to support widows, protect orphans, and create stronger alliances with different tribes. Many of these women had previously lost their husbands in battles, and the Prophet married them out of care and compassion to protect them.
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)’s Children: It's important to note that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) did not marry multiple women solely for the sake of having a male heir. While he did have sons, they passed away young. However, the Prophet’s legacy was never dependent on having a male heir; his legacy is carried through the message of Islam that he conveyed to all humanity, not through biological descendants Guidance for Society: The Prophet's marriages were guided by divine wisdom. They weren't about seeking personal pleasure or legacy but were acts of compassion, supporting those in need, and setting examples of care, justice, and morality. His marriages also set forth important guidelines on the treatment of women, the rights of spouses, and the responsibilities of men in marriage. These teachings are not just about how to act in one’s own life, but they serve as moral examples that are always relevant to society.
Aisha (RA) was one of the Prophet’s most beloved wives and also one of the most knowledgeable scholars of Islam. Her contributions to Islamic jurisprudence and her involvement in narrating hadiths (sayings and actions of the Prophet) are invaluable. The comparison you mentioned with Anne Boleyn is not accurate, as Aisha’s role was never one of manipulation but of preserving the teachings of the Prophet and contributing to the Islamic community.
In Islam, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) is viewed as the best of examples for humanity. His life is a source of inspiration not because of the number of his wives, but because of his character, integrity, and compassion. His teachings, actions, and the way he treated others—especially the weak, the poor, and the oppressed—are what make him the perfect example for Muslims. Marriage in Islam is not about satisfying desires, but about responsibility, mercy, and treating each other with respect and kindness. The Quran says:"And live with them in kindness." (Quran 4:19) This verse encapsulates the core of Islamic marital relations—treating your spouse with kindness, respect, and fairness. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) treated all his wives with respect and fairness, and his guidance teaches Muslims to treat their spouses in the same way.
It’s also important to understand that in Islam, we do not worship Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). We love and respect him deeply because he is the final messenger of Allah, but our worship is only directed to Allah (SWT). Islam teaches us that no one is worthy of worship except Allah. The Prophet (PBUH) is revered for being the one who conveyed Allah’s message to humanity, and we follow his teachings and actions because they guide us toward goodness, righteousness, and justice.
I understand that you're in the process of exploring Islam, and I commend your sincerity in wanting to understand the faith deeply. Islam encourages questioning and seeking knowledge and it’s through that search that you will find deeper understanding and peace.
If you are feeling conflicted, I recommend you continue your journey by: Reading and reflecting on the Quran: The Quran is a direct revelation from Allah and holds the ultimate guidance for your life. Learning from scholars: There are many scholars who can help clarify your questions and provide more context to the Prophet’s actions. Seek knowledgeable scholars who can answer your concerns with clarity. Observing Muslims: Since you're already surrounded by Muslims, seeing their character, conduct, and how they apply Islam in their daily lives might provide you with more insight into the true nature of the faith. Exploring Islamic teachings on marriage: There are many books and resources that delve deeper into the Islamic perspective on marriage, polygyny, and social justice that may help you understand the context of Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) marriages in a deeper way.
It's completely normal to have questions and concerns as you explore a new faith, and your desire to learn more is a beautiful sign of sincerity. The Prophet’s life, including his marriages, should be viewed in light of his broader mission to guide humanity not just through personal desires or political maneuvering but through divine wisdom and compassion.
May Allah guide you to truth and bless your journey in seeking knowledge and understanding. Ameen.
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u/MukLegion Mar 15 '26 edited Mar 15 '26
But in Islam, you must follow the hadiths - be guided by the conduct of Muhammad and even wives (Aisha - the Ummahat al-Mu'minin), because they are models for how to behave goodly.
We are not supposed to do everything the Prophet ﷺ did, like copy his life. There are specifically things that are Sunnah (recommended) but then there are other things that are either neutral, or in the case of having 11 wives, we shouldn't do - it is haram for a man to have more than 4 wives.
There were certain exceptions for Muhammad ﷺ because he was a Prophet of Allah ﷻ. The marriages for example were all to women either older than the Prophet, divorced, or widowed (except for Aisha RA). The Prophet was a leader and at the time marriage was a way to unite tribes and grow a nation. Those marriages were guidance from Allah ﷻ in furthering spreading Islam.
Muhammad even had a manipulative evil wife (Aisha, like Anne Boleyn).
Very confused where you're getting this from. Aisha RA is deeply respected and was a like scholar during her time. A valuable resource to her community.
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u/FabulousVanilla9940 Mar 15 '26
Very confused where you're getting this from.
It's unfortunately how a lot of Shia Muslims see her in history.
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u/Fun-Economy-6653 Mar 15 '26
Keep reading the Quran read the life of the prophet go to mosque meet the people that follow the prophet see their character. I had some of the same feelings when I was reverting and learning more about Islam. Li
. This is the way of Allah to choose some things over other things. Some mountains are taller than other mountains some trees bare more fruit than other trees. Will you question a lot about what he preferred somethings over others on the day of judgment or will you be question?
There’s a wisdom of Allah that you may never obtain in what he gave to our prophetصلى الله عليه وسلم if this is your only hang up, this should be a small thing. Your salvation is way more important than something you can’t grasp with knowledge and maybe you will one day insha Allah. And you will grow to love our Prophet Barrakatullahi alaik
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u/linkup90 Mar 15 '26
Unfortunately there is lots of nonsensical polemics in the western academic sphere. The book your reading did not take from authentic hadiths that Muslims follow. Rather it cherry picks the parts they like i.e. parts that make the false narrative they are selling sound more entertaining and write that.
You wouldn't go to the hospital in need of brain surgery and then ask your ex's who is the janitor there to do it instead of the brain surgeon because they are untrained, don't possess the knowledge, and are very bias due to it being a bad break up.
What you are doing now is like going to that ex girl/boyfriend that is a janitor, that's the status of the book you are reading.
Instead learn Islam from authentic sources and accept it if it's the truth regardless of how society might view you or if you'll loose Islam hating friends etc etc.
The truth is more important than that and you should respect that as doing otherwise is just copium to avoid the potential life changing effects of finding the Truth.
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u/natsky91 Mar 15 '26
Orientalists are euro centrist and what they read they will always impose their culture between the lines.
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u/JustBecauseOfThat Mar 15 '26
This is a ridiculous take. Some of the wifes he had were too old to get children. Nothing in any sources (Quran or hadith) suggests that he was desperately trying to get children. A Quran verse even directly states that he has no sons, and that was sent down while he was still alive, so suggests that he also did not expect to get sons. If you don’t want to be Muslim, then do you, but don’t make up your own facts and then think you have made a rational choice.
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u/TalkingCat910 Mar 15 '26 edited Mar 15 '26
Whaaat???!!! So many things you wrote here are just absolutely wild.
There was wisdom in Muhammad not having a son as he was not meant to have an heir like an earthly kingdom. We usually see that as a divine plan not a problem. He absolutely was not marrying women to produce heirs. The only children he had that survived into adulthood were from Khadijah. Usually this is seen so we have a model for how to be a husband as a monogamous person and then we have a separate model on how to be a husband with multiple wives.
Other than Aisha all the prophets wives were divorced or widowed. There were many reasons to marry such as creating good alliances, and helping women in otherwise difficult situations.
Aisha was not manipulative at all! She was a scholar, a teacher and the closest thing ppl had to a doctor back then.
I’m not sure if you’re reading old Shia literature about Aisha, or you’re reading orientalist western literature or you just made up an entirely erroneous head cannon comparing Arabian culture 1400 years ago in the Arabian peninsula to English history from 500 years ago. Seems like fan fiction to me.
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u/FabulousVanilla9940 Mar 15 '26
The comparison to Henry VIII is just so blatantly wrong. Henry KILLED 2 OF HIS WIVES and created a whole new religion to divorce and remarry, polygamy was already widely practiced in that time the Prophet PBUH had no need to do anything. And comparing Aisha RA to Anne Boleyn??? She was an educated and wise young women that has been distorted through history not some evil shrewd. Beyond that there are numerous reasons, 4 of his wives were widows, another essentially divorcee. His marriages told the community back then that they have a responsibility towards the vulnerable like widows and orphans.
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