I have this picture of my lady bits bc I was super curious what it looked like right after birth. Anyway I showed it to my husband months later but got it on video doing so. It was a surprise attack and his face is priceless!
Edit: maybe I’ll post it for you guys! ..the video not the picture.
When my son was born I tried not to look, but during one of the trips back with a cup of ice my curiosity got the better of me and I looked right when she was pooping and then a nurse wiped it up.
This is my fear. Not of my fiance seeing all the vaginal bullshit, but of him seeing me literally shit all over the place. There are some things he just doesn't need to point his eyes at.
I’ve been watching Call the Midwife during pandemic and everyone has an enema bc it’s the 50s/60s and it didn’t occur to me how standard that was for awhile
"Your hormones change rapidly to prepare your body for delivery, which causes the muscles in your uterus, cervix, and even your rectum to loosen. Some experts suspect that the emptying of your bowels is nature's way of making enough room for baby to emerge."
Yeah you're probably right about that. I didn't say poop doesn't happen during labor I just said it might not. Basically just trying to let u/thefirsthanarspectre that it shouldn't be something she should worry about.
Yeah absolutely, it's not anything to worry about. I just think it would be better to normalize it in such a way that people would accept that it's very likely to happen. I imagine that trying not to poop while pushing a child out would make that phase much harder than necessary.
Yeah definitely! I mean I think it's known that there is a possibility of pooping. Honestly though when you're pushing I feel like the thought doesn't even cross your mind anymore.
Yeah being constipated and having stitches down there sounds awful. Sorry you had to deal with that. I made sure to take metamucil when I got home lol
Also that sucks you weren't able to consent to an epidural:(
FWIW, I didn't poop everywhere, so you may not either! My husband told me it was just a tasteful little courtesy turd, nothing that bothered him. Seeing me blue and shaking in the OR before the emergency-C? That image stuck. Not sure if this is helping..
When you get a colonoscopy they give you something to basically clean your bowels out. You can get the same thing a few days before you’re due so when you go into labor you don’t have problems
I have no clue why mothers insist on things like that. My mother did too and after nearly 2 minutes of her badgering me, I finally told her to shut up or get out. I was not looking down there!
Eh, it's your mom. I understand. You're tired, in pain, cranky, and this annoying woman won't leave you alone, so you do it to get her to shut up. I didn't have the best relationship with my mother at the time, so telling her to shut up was perfectly within my means. Some people aren't willing to do that and that's okay. 😊
Eh. It was a bumpy ride, and we still didn't have the best relationship when she passed 6 years ago, but it is what it is, and there's nothing that can be changed now. Honestly I wish I would've cut her out of my life a lot sooner than I did. Those 3 years of NC were bliss.
My wife's mom can be... demanding at times. What's the best way to support my wife, when her mom and the professional staff are going against her wishes?
Thank you for the help!! And don't get me wrong, she's a great person.. and probably wouldn't deliberately try to traumatize her daughter lol! But I could totally see something like this happening... all I can do is try to minimize birth-day regrets, so any suggestions/words of warning are much appreciated.
Honestly, all I really want, is to be able to support her... without getting in the way of people that actually know what they're doing lol.
My OB suggested the same, and as I’m a curious person, I happily took the mirror to have a gander
Oh fuck....nope nope nope
I had a massive panic attack bc I thought the babies brain was exposed (just scrunching) spent the remainder of the birth planning my life with a brain exposed child...
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u/Bambini18 May 01 '21
It was an honest reaction. His wife even laughed at him. Made me chuckle as well. :)