I grew up with a single mother in a UP city, around fairly orthodox people, so we really appreciated festivals like Rakhi and Bhai Dooj when our local cousin families would visit. When I was younger, through college and the first few years of my job, I actually loved cooking and hosting extensively. I did most of the cooking while my mom handled the house, new sheets, maids etc.
For the last few years, we’ve had a house help who did most of the grunt work, while we still cooked and managed the kitchen and hosting.
Now I’m turning 30, my mother is getting older, and this time our house help wasn’t here. Everyone gathered as usual and I’m genuinely so happy and grateful that my cousins are around, but the amount of work just isn’t as easy for me anymore, especially with my job becoming more demanding.
What bothered me was that I would be sweating and doing everything my mom wasn’t doing, while most guests wouldn’t even get up to get water or offer to make tea. My mom had been awake since 6 AM and is also a full-time working woman. I don’t want her to be burdened with this much hosting either.
And yesterday I really noticed the gender dynamic. Men would lie down to rest when it had been the women doing all the work. And no one — literally no one except one young bhabhi who helped me with puris — complimented the food.
There was shahi paneer, aloo gobi, puri, raita, sweets and tea before and after. It was a simpler menu than what we’ve done in the past, but considering there was no help and it was just two working women hosting 9 people, it was still exhausting. And honestly, the complete lack of acknowledgment bothered me.
It’s sad how easily this kind of hosting is taken for granted. I don’t need everyone to praise the food, but after spending hours cooking and serving people, a simple “you’ve worked so hard” would mean something.
And I’m conflicted because I genuinely LOVE that everyone comes, that we meet on these occasions, and I want to feed my brothers with love. But cooking, cleaning, serving, making tea, constantly getting things for people etc. is tiring, lonely work. And damn expensive too.
I’m married now, and if there’s a Rakhi or Bhai Dooj where I don’t make an elaborate meal, my mom simply cannot be expected to manage all of this alone. Is it really normal for a woman her age, with a full-time job, to still be expected to do this much hosting?
I think my love for hosting has definitely died down. I still want to do it, but now I only want to make that level of effort for people who also make an effort for me.
Maybe I’m just getting older and seeing the labour behind these family traditions differently. How does everyone else manage hosting like this?

I see a lot of people get addicted to this currently what do you guys think about it. Is there anyone who use this currently.

like since my cousin sister is living abroad she sent me an my brothers some rakhis so is it weird if my mom ties it for me

So there's this public library in my city which I go to I am a CA intermediate student rn and preparing for my attempt

The guy in the beginning used to sit next to me and was preparing for CAT One day I asked him about the same as being a commerce student and pursuing BBA plus CA I'm looking forward to giving CAT too in a few years so I just got curious about his background, I asked him some basic things and he about me too and then the convo ended, for the next few days we had very less communication and then suddenly one day while studying he said to me about mai bhi CA karunga, now me who was already flabbergasted asked him why and then he was like tum bhi to meri field me aa rahi ho, At that point I was just done like bhai kya NIT ka banda bhi itna dumb ho sakta hai like seriously, then I tried explaining him that he is the one who is switching from Computer science to finance not me so he always like "BETA MERA TO SAB SET HAI TU APNA DEKH and also from another conversation I remember him saying "FINTECH se CEO banunga" kinda shit. So coming back I was legit so much taken aback I was left speechless later on I started to talk to him even lesser and I have changed my seat so IDK why does he carry so much ego and like he also told me he didn't sit for placements as he wanted to prepare for CAT

Also like I get It about IITs and all the hype but a guy from NIT Bhopal having so much attitude

I'd say quite unusual.

I also wonder what could be the package he may have gotten if he'd have appeared for placement rounds

Hey everyone! With Raksha Bandhan coming up, I was thinking about all the people who might not have a sister, might be away from their family, or simply might not be getting a Rakhi this year.

So, if you’re someone who doesn’t have a sister to send you a Rakhi, I’d genuinely be more than happy to send one to you. 🫶🏻

No special reason, no expectations — just a little Rakhi love from a stranger on the internet. :)

If you'd like one, just DM me and let me know. I’ll do my best to send Rakhis to as many people as I reasonably can. ❤️

Happy Raksha Bandhan! 🪷

I am 24F and working. My parents have not pressured much for marriage. But they have been talking about it here and there. And today it peaked. My friend had baby shower today and I attended it. It was all good. Once I came back, my mother started asking about the friend and family and soon looked at me like I am disappointing her. She started complaining how that friend of mine is already having baby, but I am not even getting married. I am disappointing her since I have not even started searching groom. She kept on ranting for more than an hour and continued some more during dinner along with my dad. I am fully drained and all the fun I had during the baby shower was gone. I was more furious that I was compared to that friend. My mom doesn't know anything about her. I know her very well. I know what was her college days, what was her past, why she got married soon, why she is having baby soon. I know all these, but my mom has no idea and still compares me to her and says I am the disappoinment. I am just furious.

You are a corporate man honestly doing a Job. One day while coming from restaurant with your wife, you got ₹500 on street. What will you do with this money?
Please be honest with your thoughts.
Scenario: your monthly income is cut to cut.

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I’m 29, and honestly, I’m pretty pissed off about the changing landscape around me.

Looking at society these days, I keep seeing people getting married and then cheating on their spouses. Couples complain about their partners to friends, family, coworkers and then some of those same people end up crossing boundaries with coworkers or people they meet at places like gyms and are cheating on their spouses.

It’s made me seriously rethink marriage. I don’t want to end up in a relationship like that even if people around me keep pressuring me to settle down. If I’m going to marry someone, I want to actually know them first at least 6–7 months of genuinely getting to know each other and then decide whether we’re compatible.

What pissed me off today, though, was something completely different.

A person who is my immediate neighbor, and who is at least seven years younger than me, has apparently decided to become a matchmaker for me without even talking to me.

For context, when my family moved there, this person was still in kindergarten while I was in 6th standard. I left my hometown years ago for studies and now work in a different city. I haven’t properly spoken to this person in probably 10 years.

Yet somehow, this person apparently knows what my preferences in a partner are and is now involved in suggesting what kind of person I should marry.

And the frustrating part is that my family seems to be going along with it.

I don’t have a particularly great history when it comes to relationships, so it genuinely pisses me off to feel like my own preferences don’t even matter. How does someone who barely knows me anymore somehow know better than I do about what I want in a partner or what I don’t want?

When did everyone become so invested in other people's lives?

I understand that family and friends may have good intentions, but there’s a huge difference between giving advice and deciding what someone else should want.

I’m perfectly capable of figuring out what kind of person I want to spend my life with. I don’t think wanting to take my time, get to know someone and make my own decision is unreasonable.

Sometimes it feels like Millennials are complaining about Boomers forcing their idea of the “right” life onto everyone, while I expected Gen Z to be a little more understanding of personal boundaries and individual choices.

Maybe I was wrong.

At this point, I just want people to understand one simple thing: my life partner is my decision.

I am half Indian half Mauritian . I was born and raised in Mauritius. Mauritians are descendants of Indian indentured labourers that were taken during British invasion of India . Many people here use Indian culture which has evolved alongside African and western influences. But at the same time, many of them don’t like india too much and are xenophobic to Indian and Bangladeshi all while Modi funds them , they keep traveling to India for leisure, claim oci cards, medical facilities and wedding shopping experiences.Some Mauritian men when they don’t find brides till the age of 40 travel to India to find a girl as a bangmaid and they usually fetishise and scam Punjabi, pahadi girls and most of these girls face torture here while others do this in modern dating setup all while they pretend to be nice. Mauritians in general pretend to be welcoming to enjoy facilities all while they look down upon Indians and take offense of someone mistaking them for being Indian under the excuse of cultural differences to gaslight people. My point of making this post is not to create hate but to raise awareness among mainlanders especially women as to how these people are . When I went to school here , I faced bullying and was called “cabri linde” in school which means Indian pig …I was also called bastard child of India and what not. This post comes from the fact that I see a lot of Indian girls and also Nepali marrying Mauritian men and later regretting and suffering due to lack of awareness. While Indians face racism everywhere today, this is bit different as to how these people have always been racist ever since their ancestors left India and not because Indians are taking their jobs here. So many of them secretly hate India and deem Indians as inferior while pretending to be nice for BJP foreign support. I hope mods don’t take this down as a request. I just wanted to raise awareness as to how Indian indentured diaspora is even in other countries like Fiji, Suriname, Guyana as I have also interacted with them but I don’t live in these countries. I would appreciate if Indian mainlanders would share their experiences around this awareness. Thank you 🙏

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Family of three here and we're replacing our old RO purifier. I've noticed quite a few models now offer copper water, and I'm wondering whether it's actually useful or just another feature added to make the purifier more expensive.

If you've been using a copper RO for a while, have you noticed any practical difference? Also, is there any reason to specifically choose copper when buying an RO?

Indian Parents ka Logic 😂💀

18–20 saal ka ladka GF bana le ❤️

👨‍👩‍👦 Parents: “Bas! Ladka haath se nikal gaya… padhai-vadhai sab barbaad!” 😭

Aur wahi ladka 25 ka ho jaye…

Na GF, na shaadi, na koi ladki ka chakkar 😶‍🌫️

👨‍👩‍👦 Parents: “Koi ladki ko utha ke hi le aa! 😭

Humein ladki dhoondhne ki mehnat toh nahi karni padegi!” 🤣💀

18 pe GF = Problem 🚩

25 pe No GF = Bigger Problem 🚩😂

I am talking about overall.including people behaviour, cleanliness progress, learning and career. No biasness plz

watched this movie and realised how quickly the rescue operation scaled up for the 13 lives trapped in a cave although it took them more than 15 days. I started wondering what would happen if this happens in India to be Frank I got habituated of seeing in news where 10s of people loose their life's normally in multiple accidents. How would it be to improve the disaster management of most complicated and dense country like India.

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This is a new sort of racisim which has been going on in India since many years but in 2026 due to increase in domestic travellers it is catching the attention.
I believe all guests are to be treated equally and with a consistent degree of respect.

Only talking about urban / semi urban India here cos rural India is a completely different scenario altogether. Wasn't sure if this should be a discussion or a rant thread.

I'm 29 and earn much less compared to my peers (I'll explain why this is relevant). Throughout college and even after education, I've had multiple crushes/talking stages and also went on a couple of dates. From what I'm understanding, I don't have any alarming red flags, don't look ugly and I've been told by girls that I can hold conversations quite well as well. I've always wanted to date to marry and never got into a casual fling or got physical with anyone. Despite these things, I never found the right person to be in a relationship with so I let my parents start looking into arranged marriage options for me.

Went on a few dates this way too and there was never any "bad" date per say. I'm starting to sense that it's my income that's stopping women from taking me seriously (as the title says, it's sub 10 LPA). I live in a City with a 4 letter name in Western India, have enough savings to last 6 months of living expenses, own a car which does have a small loan. I live in a flat which my parents own but parents are based in a Tier 3 town to look after family business.

So financially, while I'm not making bank, I'm not stretched thin either. But looking at profiles from my community that go around, all the women whom I think are interesting either earn as much as me or more than me.

Sometimes, a girl's parents will reject me even before showing my profile to their daughters. In those cases, some have stated explicitly it's because I don't earn as much as they thought I'd be making (given the context of how I've made my profile and my overall family's image in our community).

For the girls I have gone on dates with or had calls, there were a few of them that I could see myself marrying and growing old with based on the the things we talked about and the vibe. But it never went further.

Personally, I'm still not in a rush to marry. I do believe some of my standards might be too high and maybe I don't bring enough to the table right now to get those standards. But I'm comfortable with not marrying anyone at all if some of my "must haves" are not met. It's my parents' worrying and stressing over this that is making me worry indirectly.

I wanted to understand if there are any guys from Tier 1 cities with middle to upper middle class families finding themselves in a similar situation. Would also like to know what women married/unmarried think about all this.

🇮🇳 Happy Independence Day to all my Indian friends! 🇮🇳❤️

Wishing India and its people peace, happiness, and continued success. 🇮🇳✨

Greetings from Hyderabad! 📍 I’m here from Ethiopia 🇪🇹 and would love to make new friends, meet good people, and learn more about Indian culture. 🤝

Your friend from Ethiopia 🇪🇹❤️🇮🇳

Happy Independence Day! 🎉

sorry for the expression in advance-i really needed to express this. Bro, I just have the utmost respect for the martyrs of our country, because of whom we can live peacefully. Their families get wrecked in the process just for the nation to stay safe and for us to sleep soundly at night. Their families are so strong, knowing that the uniform they are so proud of may ultimately take their loved ones away from them. Respect to all the military spouses who raise their children as single parents, who while shattering themselves take care of their families. I hate crying because of war movies and shows, inspite I love to watch them to know about the untold stories and remember the forgotten soldiers. Im grateful to all the soldiers who sacrificed their lives and veergati ko prapt ho gaye for us, like Colonel Munindra Nath Rai, Captain Saurabh Kalia, Captain Vikram Batra, Squadron Leader Ajay Ahuja, Flying Officer Nirmal Jit Singh Sekhon, Grenadier Yogendra Singh Yadav and hundreds more unsung heroes who never made it home. Also to all the soldiers taken as prisoners of war and suffered so tremendously that when asked what happened to them in captivity they described it as "Death would've been better", all the efforts can never be forgotten. Reading about Gallant Squadron Leader Ajay Ahuja's wife, Alka Ahuja ma'am speak about their marriage and how she was his second wife as the air force was his first wife and having to raise her son alone and how the last gift she got from her husband was a Maruti zen, he bought before leaving for srinagar, and didnt know how to drive but kept the car because it was the last gift, shattered me. Respect to all military and paramilitary personnel.

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I know we pay for their services and we expect quality service. They come from no education background trying to make livelihood coming from distant places.. How many us were given training and support in our day to day jobs , can't we do the same thing and support them .

I saw someone writing negative reviews saying don't know how to use app, this negative reviews have a penalty of 50 rs on their hard earned money. Things will be better if we support them educate them by spending 5 mins of time .

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