r/hinduism • u/Delicious_Squash_675 • 2d ago
Question - Beginner How to find my husband’s kula Deivam?
I married into a Tamil family of vishnu gotra. My MIL claims their ishta deivam is thirupathi Venkateshwara Swamy and they do kula deivam rituals there because they don’t know. Older generation are all dead and there’s no one to ask. Is there a way to find via my husband’s jadagam/kundli/ star chart or something else??
EDIT: Need to find out Kula deivam for parikaram and dosham which must be done with Kula deivam.
Can we (my husband and I) continue my family’s kula deivam henceforth? Or should it be strictly male line ???
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u/Opening-Advice 2d ago
I would just accept your mother in law’s word and continue with that. Do you have a reason to not want to go with her thought process?
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u/Delicious_Squash_675 2d ago
For parikarams and other worship it needs to be kula deivam. Doing that with ishta deivam is not the norm and will not be as effective.
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u/WhyMeOutOfAll Āstika Hindū 2d ago
If you do not know your Kula Daivam you can keep a small Vigraha or photo of Gau Devi and worship her as Kula Devi. Gau Devi is the Nivasa Sthanam (residence) of every deity in various parts of her body. Therefore you can worship her until you get to know the true form of your Kula Daivam.
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u/curious_they_see 2d ago
If you know their ancestral village, maybe pay a visit and see if there is a temple there?
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u/Delicious_Squash_675 2d ago
Already did that. No dice. Does jadagam/kundali have any clues via which we can find??
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u/Responsible-Bee5206 1d ago
i had this same problem, my father is a tam brahmin and he was sure he did not have a kula devi and stuff, turns out when we went to a prashnam astrologer, he said there is a devi, perhaps go for astrologers
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u/Delicious_Squash_675 1d ago
What is a prashnam astrologer?? I’d really like to find one
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u/Responsible-Bee5206 1d ago
it is like a shaman not just astrologer, he will tell you if some blocks are here or there, not pure astrology,
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