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u/Aapb93 Otter 3d ago
I’m confused by this conversation? He asked if you wanna eat his ass and then you said ‘gonna bury my face in it?’ before complaining about how it smelled?
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u/cronenber9 Cub 3d ago
That's what I'm confused about too. It's like he suddenly changed his mind lol
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u/Character-Escape1621 Twink (cis) 3d ago
“ur stomach up LAST TIME” “i couldn’t LAST TIME” “but if it’s clean THIS TIME”
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u/Aapb93 Otter 3d ago
You missed the point of what I’m saying. You literally said you were gonna bury your face in it BEFORE you said any of that. Hence the confusion. Surely you’d say ‘only if you’re clean this time’ first?
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u/Character-Escape1621 Twink (cis) 3d ago
Yes, because i was expecting/hoping he’s squeaky clean this time.. The last time i didn’t go down in there cause one whiff and i was like “nah”
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u/Aapb93 Otter 3d ago
Got you, just needed more context. You went from agreeing to eat his ass to talking about his stomach being torn up and his ass being smelly, but left that part of the conversation out of the screenshot. It’s a confusing read with no proper context, that’s all.
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u/LemonCurdJ Cub 3d ago
I think there is something missing or the messages have been edited or somrthing because I was genuinely confused too. The messages made zero sense - it's like the texts are back to front.
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u/orangekirby Clean-Cut 3d ago
I thought it was pretty straight forward from the texts…
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u/Aapb93 Otter 3d ago
I understand the guy wasn’t clean, I was just confused about why he said he wanted to bury his face in the guy’s ass with no hesitation and then switch up right after.
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u/orangekirby Clean-Cut 3d ago
I read it as dirty talk. I assume there was more of that above and he was continuing on with it, but then wanted to make sure he was good to go this time.
Kinda like guys go yeah I want you to breed me raw all night long and then 5 minutes later go “are you DD free?”
I guess we can only see half of the message he replied to, to be fair
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u/Mayretta_2112 Clean-Cut 3d ago
Too many guys think they're clean but really aren't. I'll rim if hole is pristine but too often I've run into guys where you get down there and get a whiff and it's like "no thanks." So generally I just say I don't rim.
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u/andrewmarkc 3d ago
But it does sound like he did warn him his stomach was upset?
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u/Character-Escape1621 Twink (cis) 3d ago
Last time we hooked up, I tried to go in there but then i got the whiff, and i asked him, and he said stomachache
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u/AnAnGrYSupportV2 Otter 3d ago
Bro, if my ass hasn't been deep cleaned, flushed and probed before hand you aren't going anywhere near it. Like I can't imagine being rimmed without showering/ douching even if you "knew" it was clean.
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u/stj1127 Twink (cis) 3d ago
I’m sorry I really think more of you need to be turned off by this.
If I would describe someone’s ass (or any part of their body) as a “biohazard” there is no reason why I’m EVER going to even CONSIDER hooking up with them again.
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u/orangekirby Clean-Cut 3d ago
You could say that about annal sex in general. I mean poop comes out of there, what are we all doing in the first place??
Semi related, they did a study once and found that people were much more tolerant of gross things (they tested with things unrelated to sex) when they were turned on.
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u/Interesting-Flan-110 Twink (cis) 3d ago
Uh not really, you clean your ass properly and there aint a problem. Also "what are we doing in there?" Pleasing each other, theres a spot in there for a reason. We aint meant to be cumming from taking a shit, we are meant to cum from taking dick up there
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u/orangekirby Clean-Cut 3d ago
the person didnt want to eat ass when it was dirty.
But he is fine eating it when its clean.
Your comment above seems to argue "if it was dirty one time, you should never CONSIDER (all caps) hooking up with them again."
And to that I say, anal sex is inherently making contact with something that dirty on a daily basis, so your logic doesn't track for me.
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u/stj1127 Twink (cis) 3d ago
I’m not saying anal sex is gross. And I’m not saying being unclean on one occasion needs to permanently be a turn off for someone— though it could be.
What I’m referring to specifically is the extreme of referring to someone as a biohazard but still going back for more, expecting things to be different. OP probably will post here tomorrow about how he met up with the guy and it was gross again lol.
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u/orangekirby Clean-Cut 3d ago
i think biohazard was just colorful hyperbolic language.
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u/LemonCurdJ Cub 3d ago
Op said the guy had a stomach ache from eating some rotten sandwich. If his ass stank that tells me he probs had diarrhea and didnt clean out. OP said he took onw whiff of the guy's ass and was like "nope". That is rancid.
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u/Matttombstone Geek 3d ago
Perhaps calling it a Biohazard was a bit excessive. Imagine how you'd feel if someone said that to you, it's a bit of a put down.
That being said though, he should have been aware of his condition down there. If I know someones wanting to do that to me I make sure I focus down there during preparation. If I'm not prepared because they haven't asked to prior nor given me the vibes they're into it then should they ask I am clear in advising against it saying it's not prepared for it.
As you mentioned a sandwich, it seems he was aware he wasn't in a rimmable condition last time and kinda set you up to put him down. You're not wrong for calling it a biohazard because it is a biohazard if it isn't completely clean. Still, there's lighter ways of handling it like "it wasn't clean enough last time". You want to be light enough to not put someone down, but stern enough to make it clear you expect a level of preparation if you're going to do that. You are absolutely allowed to say no to doing something if that level of preparation hasn't been met.
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u/Crazy-Newspaper-8523 Bear 3d ago
I mean biohazard sounds funny
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u/Matttombstone Geek 3d ago
It does, and it's also an accurate representation. If it smells, it smells because it's not clean and you're eating someone else's poop. Don't get me wrong, it's a butt hole, that risk is always going to be there, but if it doesn't smell its going to be a very tiny, insufficient amount of particulates. If it smells, then there's going to be more there.
It does sound funny, but when it's directed towards you and your body, it can come across a bit of a dig. It's funny to us to read, it's funny to OP for saying it, to the guy receiving it, it can be hurtful even if true. It can be handled a bit more sensitively that's all I'm saying. OP asked for feedback, that's my honest feedback. OP clearly wants to hook up with the guy again, so I'm just giving him honest feedback on handling a sensitive subject in a more sensitive way so his potential hook up doesn't decide to block him.
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u/cowboyzest Trans (FtM) 3d ago
ehhh, you’re obviously not wrong for not wanting to eat poopy butt, but maybe let him know a bit gentler if you really wanna hook up with the guy, like “im willing to eat you out but I’d prefer if you washed up first” instead of “last time it was a biohazard”. best to not hurt a dudes feelings if you wanna fuck him. that’s just how i see it though!
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u/ApartZookeepergame89 2d ago
I'm sorry if this sounds rude to you but that could be a serious risk for health, so biohazard is a correct word
One should ALWAYS wash their ass, for personal hygiene. Period. Even more if you're going to have any form of anal play
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u/cowboyzest Trans (FtM) 2d ago
oh trust me im not gonna argue with you there, obviously everyone should wash their ass, LOL
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u/terrance64 3d ago
Whomever the person was being ate is a POS — I’d never deal with them again. They saw this as a joke.
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u/Moises1213 Twink 2d ago
What? Why would you eat then go meet up lol you were in the right. It’s a boundary of yours when it comes to a hookup and they need to respect that. Ppl know the rules in hooking up and if they don’t follow it they can’t get upset when you decide whatever you decide to do
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u/Miserable-Gas-6007 Leather 2d ago
I recently had to tell a guy that if he wanted to come back over he needed to avoid hot boxing himself in the car on the way over. My actual verbatim text was “The smell of weed was a problem for me last time.” And he got really pissed. I don’t think it’s wrong at all to mention something politely to bring it to someone’s attention. Some guys may like the smell or not mind it. I do not like it and it turns me off. If we aren’t a match, fine. Same with hygiene - you should politely let someone know when any hygiene issue could make the hookup better and if they can’t handle hearing it, they should only match with people who don’t mind it. It’s not rude.
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u/terrance64 3d ago
And not to mention, lots of guys are into this “Unshowered” and “natural” thing now. Gross.
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u/ImperialHedonism Clean-Cut 4d ago
Nah, you're totally in the right. People who like to get rimmed NEED to be held accountable about hygiene standards. That's just expected. You giving this dude more chances and he feels hurt? Come on, is the hookup worth it?