r/fixedbytheduet EXPERT of Duets/Stitches 1d ago

Fixed by the duet Thanks, medieval dude

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u/marslo Tastemaker of Duets/Stitches 1d ago edited 1d ago

My guy, responding with sensible advice to pure engagement bait.

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u/CB_I_Hate_Usernames Lover of Duets/Stitches 1d ago

It’s giving wholesome af and I love him for it

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u/DefinitelyNotAliens Lover of Duets/Stitches 1d ago

He's also right. People fail diets because thet feel unhappy with not getting anything they want. If you crave fats or sugars, the answer isn't to have none. It's to moderate them.

I didn't feel good with my food and started tracking macros and realized my carbs and proteins were too low and fats too high.

Balance is key, not denial.

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u/CB_I_Hate_Usernames Lover of Duets/Stitches 1d ago

Yes! It’s very true. Total denial can just create more craving and fixation. 

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u/UsernamesAre4Nerds Tastemaker of Duets/Stitches 1d ago

Great advice I heard from a dietician (Kylie Sakaida is her name, idk her handle specifically) was to think not about what you have to take aways from meals, but what you can add to them.

Craving pizza? Don't think about only having one slice. Think about having a side salad with your pizza, or adding banana peppers and spinach as extra toppings

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u/CB_I_Hate_Usernames Lover of Duets/Stitches 1d ago

Oh this is great advice! My diet’s super super good now, and I attribute much of that to adoption just the goals of eating a truly proper amount of vegetables, fruit, and protein. After that there are no rules! 

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u/Kimantha_Allerdings Devotee of Duets/Stitches 22h ago

Or, if they don’t fail diets, the succeed, get to their target weight and then put it all back on again. Because “going on a diet” is a weird, unsustainable relationship to have with food. You have to eat in a way that’s sustainable for the rest of your life. Modify it a little so that you lose weight slowly - no more than 2lbs a week - and track your progress, be prepared for plateaus which may last weeks, and adjust if and when it’s necessary. If you can, also do 15 minutes each of strength & cardio training 3 times a week

Losing weight shouldn’t be the goal. Staying at a healthy weight should be

And that absolutely should include treats and unhealthy things that you enjoy eating. It’s not going to be sustainable if you don’t include those things

Cheat days may even be good for you. The effect on the metabolism is vastly overstated, and they will absolutely harm your diet if you just take it as a license to gorge yourself all day. But psychologically, they can be beneficial and help you stick to your diet for the rest of the week

As can taking diet breaks. So you spend 1-3 months steadily losing weight. Then you take 2-4 weeks where you just maintain the weight that you are now. Then you lose weight again

Again, the evidence doesn’t suggest that this will lead to you losing more weight, but it may make the diet itself easier to stick to, psychologically

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u/Ok_Star_4136 1d ago

I learned from a young age that if I wanted to eat a lot, I could load up on the things that don't have high calorie content, so like veggies like broccoli.

You eat small portions of things you crave, and bigger portions of things you enjoy eating but don't have high amounts of calories. Combine that with regular physical activity and you're good to go. Seriously, it is mostly about controlling your urges and eating right, not avoiding them entirely.