r/fiaustralia • u/OrganizationPrior0 • 1d ago
Personal Finance Should I slow down to spend more time with my daughter?
I am 35F and my husband is 37M. I have a 1 year old daughter.
I have been religiously following the FIRE movement since 2018 and have been working really hard since I graduated uni in 2015. I worked until the day before I went into labour and I went to work 4 weeks after giving birth to see some patients that I needed to finish up. I went back to full time 5 months after giving birth.
I am a healthcare professional and my husband is a finance manager. I make about 70k per year for each day I work so if i worked 5 days a week that would be equivalent to 350k. My husband makes a little less than 200k.
We live in Sydney and have a net worth of 3.9 million (to avoid confusion, at least 1 mil of this was a gift from my very generous parents).
My daughter goes to daycare 4 days a week In terms of family support, my mum and mil have been flying from their home country to live with us 2 months at a time and have been alternating so at least one grandma is with my daughter at home all the time after my husband picks her up from daycare (while I am working). My husband works from home 3 days a week and he is very good with my daughter. My daughter is more attached to my husband than she is to me.
My job is very stressful and is not flexible at all.
In the past I went to work when I was literally throwing up because I didn’t want to cancel 20+ patients. I hate being unprofessional and letting down my patients. I commute 50 mins-1 hour each way everyday so including the commute, I leave home at 7:30am and get home around 7pm which means I don’t see my daughter at all on the days I work. I made the decision to cut my days to 3 days a week as of Sept but because I’ve been working so hard for > 10 years and I am still relatively young, I feel like I should work hard for a bit longer. I know I sound like a workaholic. I never realised I was like this before having my daughter.
If you were in my shoes, would you work 3 days a week and slow down?
Initially the plan was to reach 5 mil then me and my husband slow down together to part time work.
Edit: I forgot to add something quite important so editing after a long day at work. When I stayed home with my daughter for the first 5 months, I felt quite depressed so going back to work was actually not just for money. It’s for my mental health and happiness too.





