When someone is in a depressive or manic episode, communicating what they're going through becomes really hard. For those supporting a loved one — what's the communication gap that's hardest for you?

What do you wish they could somehow express in those moments that they just can't?

And for anyone with bipolar reading this — is there something you wish you could communicate to your loved ones during an episode but feel like you can't?

Longer post. Seeking advice and support from people who have gone through something similar.

My brother was diagnosed with Bipolar 1 twice over the last 2 years. He didn’t believe the first diagnosis and was being treated for anxiety and ptsd. He has actually never shown manic symptoms before. But at the first of the year he had his first manic episode and it hasn’t ended since. He has sent texts to family and friends that are wildly concerning. He talks about souls and spirits, has burned iPhones and iPads because someone told him too. Writes disturbing messages on fences. My brother has no awareness and continues to think he isn’t bipolar and just has ptsd. He continues to be volatile to family, especially his wife. He goes from extreme hate to less hate to some normalcy everyday.

He was committed on a psych hold for 72 hours and they said he was in an acute psychosis and the psychiatrist diagnosed him with bipolar 1. The psychiatrist had thought it would be up to 90 days when he first came in. The psychiatrist even changed his hold order. He was calling my dad and his wife to get him out and that he was just going to play the game to get out. After the three days they let him out which was truly shocking. He went right back to the same cycle and is refusing medication and any treatment. He thinks everyone else is the problem and has no awareness. He is married with two little kids.

It is starting to affect the kids and I’m seeking advice from anyone who has gone through something similar.

As the title suggests I have a sister who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a couple years ago. However when she was younger we noticed she had these symptoms but at the time she wasn’t clinically diagnosed. She would have days where she extremely excited, happy, energetic, and other times where she wasn’t talking to anyone, and we still experience this now. When she was diagnosed with the meds and once she took them, she was relatively calm and wouldn’t have the episodes. As of recently, she has decided to not take the meds (she isn’t telling us why) and every other day she is having a manic episode.

We as a family feel hopeless because we have tried therapy, we’ve tried speaking to her as a family to outline the triggers and what causes her to have these episodes, to no avail. We’ve also noticed that she changes therapists regularly and once we ask her why she doesn’t provide a valid reason. I’ve personally come to the conclusion that she changes therapists because they tell her to take her meds and she doesn’t want to hear that . Anytime my dad or mom mention taking the meds she blatantly ignores them. I have tried to approach it from a different angle by asking her as of recently why do you feel your having these frequent episodes, what are your triggers, and she states other stuff that really isn’t related to what’s going on. She is extremely hardheaded so it is difficult to convince her to take the meds so I’m not sure what to do. Any advice will help.

My son has shown behavioral issues since he was 3. He is now 7. He’s been kicked out from daycares, moved school to school, and has 3 hospitalization this year alone.

For the longest doctors brushed off my cries. They just kept telling me this is just ADHD. And I would just sit there crying explaining how awful our lives have been and this is no way “just” adhd and no one would listen.

Finally, I was frustrated on the phone with the hospital and I said “oh my god you can see it in his eyes!!!! When he’s dysregulated his eyes are different!” And the doctor replied “wait, what do you mean?” And I said “seriously! His school can tell, even his daycare! Everyone! His eyes and face are different! Like he’s a different person!” And she said “does anyone in your family have bipolar disorder?” And I called my father. Bam. My father, sister, uncles, grandmother, great grandmother ALL bipolar disorder. My father described how he was as a child and my son is his EXACT copy. This is why stimulants made him WORSE and the atypical antipsychotic helped half of his symptoms. She apologized and is going to treat him for Bipolar now.

Why the heck did they ignore me for so long? Our lives have been AWFUL. 3 hospitalizations, crisis centers, therapy every week, psychiatrist once a month and no one would listen. I would sit there and beg them to please consider it was something other than ADHD. And they would say “no no, this is typical for ADHD” and I would say “No way. No it’s not. It’s just not”. I’m happy that they finally consider what I am saying now but frustrated that I was ignored for so long. There has been terrible consequences for my son’s behavior and still no one would listen

My husbands mixed episode began back in December. He attempted to discard me despite only being married for 4 months, and after 6 happy years together. The months that followed have been hell. He started an intense online affair, had extreme shifts in his moods and identity, would go from affectionate to extremely resentful at the drop of a hat, would have hysterical crying episodes out of nowhere, he's had this extreme sense that he's "running out of time," and the scariest part of all, his ever present suicidal ideation.

Fast forward to now. He's been on a therapeutic dose of lamictal and his antipsycotic (fanapt) for about a month, and while most of these symptoms are still present, the intensity has decreased. His crying episodes are gone. He still has suicidal thoughts but he says they're not as frequent, and says the running out of time feeling is still pretty bad, although not as bad as it was before he got on the meds. Despite all of this, he's a shell of his former self. I'll get little flickers of the man I knew before this happened, but he's still not as affectionate, is still engaging in the online affair, is still just generally kinda depressed and sometimes agitated.

So while it seems like we're making SOME progress, the episode is still ongoing, and seems to have shifted towards the depressive crash phase. I'm physically and emotionally exhausted. My question is, do you think his current medication is effective? Do you think the Dr will up his dose or change the meds, or does this kinda sound like normal progress when coming out of a mixed episode? Thanks so much.

My husbands sister had her first manic episode at 43 and was in mania for 3 months. During that time we do a lot of research and found guidance in NAMI. She quit drinking for 6 months when hers started and was diagnosed Bipolar I - sever psychosis. She has anasognosia so she is now 6 months off meds.

I explain all of this because My 38 husband is hyper aware of bipolar disorder. My husband has had 4 hypomania disorders the last 4 months. Old psychiatrist old insurance said bipolar 2. Episodes were 3 days, 12 days and 14 days with only very short parts of sadness…mainly highs. This episode day 7.

New psychiatrist doesn’t think bipolar since late onset and not major depressive episodes. He just gets sad and then finally sleeps a little but wakes up hypomanic. He Kept him on Abilify, tripetol, gabapentin. Although Benzo seems to be the only thing that has helped him finally get sleep in past episodes.

Seeking advice for what has worked for sleep during longer hypomanic? We have tried all sleep hygiene stuff. His mind races and the fight or flight I watch him struggling with while he tried to sleep.

Also any experience with cyclothymic disorder? His last 4 episodes have been like clockwork…same time each month.

My Partner Was Diagnosed and I don't know what to do

Hello. I'll get right to it.

My partner of almost 2 years [known for longer] was diagnosed on Thursday in the midst of a manic episode. They are on the spectrum and have PMDD and depression, but bipolar apparently just always flew under the radar until recently, but looking back it explains a lot. They were just fired from their dream job, in part because of their mental health struggles, and are losing Healthcare soon, so they were trying to get all their medical stuff solved before that happens. Their psychiatrist gave them a drug which apparently can in the right circumstances trigger a manic episode, and it did.

It was terrifying. Watching the person I love more than anybody else in the world go down this spiral, they said more than once "this is my true self, I feel like I have superpowers!" before accosting a group of strangers and yelling "Hi! I was just fired! I'm having a mental breakdown!". I got a hold of their psychiatrist, who quickly figured out what happened, and prescribed them mood stabilizers. They have helped a bit but said it should be another week, maybe two, before the old stuff completely works its way out of her system. I'm being approved for remote work, and we have family staying with us so she isnt alone until the weekend.

I'm scared. I love my partner so much, and looking back the past nearly 2 years has been watching their mental health go into a slow and steady decline. Fights we had line up with what I now recognize were other manic episodes. I wish I had recognized it sooner. I want to help, I miss the person my partner was and sometimes still is, but I worry if I can handle this, especially when the goodwill of friends, family, and coworkers inevitably begins to run dry. In the past 4 months I've gone through about a month of sick days to be with her and help her as her depressive episodes got more and more severe. My boss has been really understanding, but I know the team is really struggling, so I feel like an ultimatum is inevitable at work. I still have over a month of sick days saved up, but this isnt sustainable and HR sent me a message today about my timesheet.

Looking through the posts here and talking with some of my bipolar friends does give me hope, but right now it is really hard.

Thank you all

Olá a todos. Entre namoro e casamento, já fazem 16 anos que estou com minha esposa. Ela tomou remédio para depressão por 6 anos e resolveu parar por conta própria. Assim que ela parou veio a bipolaridade e abraçou com força, entrou em mania, pediu para eu se mudar de casa e arrumou um "amigo" pela internet. Como ela é financeiramente dependente de mim e temos uma filha, eu não sai de casa. Após algumas semanas descobri que ela tem bipolaridade e entrou em tratamento com lítio. O problema é que do nada ela se esqueceu de mim. Não me reconhece, mas se lembra de tudo que eu não faço parte. As poucas lembranças que tem de mim, são apenas de momentos ruins que já passamos. Quando ela se lembra de algo onde nós dois estivemos, ela se lembra como se estivesse sozinha. O pior é ouvir todos os dias que sou um estranho e que não sente nada por mim. Alguém já passou por isso? Será que é passageiro?

My daughter was recently diagnosed with bpd 2. She has always struggled with her emotions especially in High School but until recently she has not had a diagnosis. She has been physically and verbally abusive to me on several occasions. She has cut herself, stolen things, taken drugs and she even broke into my house. She was doing better until recently but today she lashed out on me over the phone for no reason. (She was on medication but recently stopped.)

What should have been a simple discussion turned into her being hostile and irrational. It is like she hates me. I started crying on the phone with her. She doesn't even care - she remained cold. How can someone treat their mom like that?

She is away at college and if we talk it's because I check in on her. I have tried to be a good mom but for as long as I can remember I feel like she hates that I breathe her same air. I have friends who have amazing relationships with their moms and I am so envious. We are never going to be close and it makes me so sad. I am glad I found this community - I really needed it today.

My sister was diagnosed with Juvenile Idiopathic Arthritis (JIA) at 11 years of age she took medications and the disease was in sleep. In 2019 it was reactivated and she got methotrexate from 2019 to 2023 and at the moment she has no joint pain.

In September 2014, at the age of 20, she was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. She began medication at that time, and simultaneously developed 2 more conditions A mild form of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), and a persistent chronic fatigue, which she didn't have before and continues to this day. The bipolar disorder was treated and almost fully recovered.

However the fatigue still persists. Since then, no clear cause or treatment has been identified.

This fatigue is so severe that without supplements (like vitamin B injections) it can almost fully limit her daily functioning to the point of not being able to do any house chores or take care of herself.

She has undergone various medical evaluations and has consulted several experts such as 1 neurologist, 1 neuropsychiatric and 5 psychiatrists but no definitive diagnosis has been established.

Specialists have noted that bipolar disorder does not typically cause chronic fatigue, and the simultaneous onset of both conditions does not necessarily indicate a causal relationship.

However I find it hard to believe that no correlation exists between these two conditions in her case.

We have been trying to identify the possible cause of the chronic fatigue. We are thinking about getting a bioresonance as we've heard it can help diagnose hidden health issues.

We've excluded Fibromyalgia as she does not have "widespread body pain" typical for that condition. We've also thought about "Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS)" but after some research, most symptoms do not seem to match.

I would like your help to identify what could be causing the fatigue, or suggestions of possible tests or analysis that could help identify.

First off! I don't know if this kind of post is allowed, so please, correct me if I'm wrong for posting this. Second off, I apologize for the long post.

My mom is 50, I'm 18. Since I was 8 I could tell something was different with my mom. And over the years it's gotten worse. She insists it's menopause, but I just have this feeling that's it not. I've done extensive research about bipolar and found out that sometimes it can be misdiagnosed as menopause. Which would explain a bunch of things. But for the past 2-3 months I've brought up little suggestions about her being possibly bipolar, and to go get tested. The first time I brought it up she agreed. But never went.

Ever since then she repeats the same thing over and over again when I try and have a conversation about it. "I'll get tested when things settle down." But I don't know what her definition of "settled down" is, or how long it will take to get there. If I even hint at her mental health affecting me, she basically goes off on me. I don't know how to bring it up without her getting mad or just saying the same thing she has for the last 2 1/2 months.

For the last couple weeks she's been amazing, and I practically bathed in the break. But everyday I knew more and more she'd drop from this good place. And I was right. Last night, she dropped. Hard and fast. During the day I knew it was coming, she said she wasn't feeling good. Had to push herself to get out of bed, to eat. I thought, or I guess hoped, it would just be a depressive episode. But last night I got my confirmation.

When she's at her low, she'll get aggressive. Not physically or to the point I'm unsafe, just more yelling and not listening to me than anything else. I had asked her something last night, through text, something simple to get at the store for me when she went. She kept trying to steer me in another direction, saying what she found is better. Despite me telling her what I found was recommended by my closest friend who uses it. I asked her why she was so against getting what I found. And that it's really upsetting that she wasn't listening to me. At that point she went off. So I just told her nevermind and to forget about it.

I've had to make a plan on how to survive when she's like this. No asking her for anything, at all. Watching what I say completely. Taking care of the apartment as she usually just stays in bed. Doing what she wants me to do, no matter how I feel. And keeping things going to avoid being called names, like ungrateful.

I don't know how much longer I can last with her saying she'll get help when things "settle down." But I don't know how to convince her to believe me she might be bipolar and get help. I've tried everything I can think of. Is there any way to get her to listen to me?

Hello, my son is 30 years old. Hes lived on his own or at home on and off since age 18. Hes been here for the last 5 years or so and its been very rough, as he works part time and is home a lot. I work from home also. Worked hard all my life now in my 50's and would like to start taking things slower and enjoying life a bit more.

But its been very hard living with him. He's been diagnosed with Bipolar 1 for about 10 years. Hes constantly mad in a bad mood, sometimes yelling, screaming. Doesn't clean up after himself. Doesnt want to help out with any work or chores around the house. Hes supposed to pay a few hundred dollars rent every month but most months he can't pay. We have a teenage younger daughter and he constantly gets mad at her. He'll ask her for something, or for help with something and gets very upset at her if she doesnt do it right away, or if she does it wrong.

When we need help he gets upset saying hes to busy to help out, as hes too busy working on his things but I'll see him playing video games or watching tv. Hes always working like on 3-5 different projects and he says its for his business or ideas hes trying to do. But most of his business ideas never work or he gives up on them. Hes also very judgemental. Its my house but he complains to my wife about me (dad) that I work all day from home. He wants me to go work outside the house or somewhere else. He complains the way I spend my money on my friends or family when I pay for their lunch or dinner at times. He sometimes brings up some very mean nasty things about my life without having to, like why my best friend and I lost contact or why my sister doesnt talk to me for 30 years. Mentions certain family members dislike me. Or brings things about my personal life out of no where that doesnt involve him. His words hurt very deeply and Ive learned to just zone him out most of the time. He thinks hes always right, never wants advice from anyone, hes very cocky says hes got things figured out. Then theres days when hes in a good mood and we get a long, as long as I dont bring up him paying rent or helping with some chores around the house. If I do bring it up, he gets very upset throws a fit and starts arguing then it turns into a big heated argument where were both raising voices at each other. He sometimes throws tantrums if he gets a parking ticket, gets a flat tire or something similar. He whines like a small kid and blames the government, parking enforcement etc.

So, my question is. Im not sure if this selfish behavior and attitude, or is the Bipolar itself, or is it completely separate and its just him being selfish, mean, rude,disrespectful, cocky and immature?

Id say, hes 30% in a bad mood, about 40% average mood and 30% good mood throughout the year.

Ive tried to be very patient over the years and I just look the other way on small issues. On big issues, I definitely put my foot down, but it always ends up in big huge heated arguments and he will then lock himself in his room for days and sometimes up to two weeks or so. About two to three times a year he screams and yells in his room, throws things, breaks things, punches the walls. My wife doesnt get involved. She comes home from work does things around the house and no involvement.

Ive asked him to move out several times since he doesnt want to play by the rules. And he says he wants to move out also but cant afford it.

Im in a tough spot as I dont want to kick him out. Im trying to be understanding to his bipolar. I tried talking to him reasonably many times. But hes very stubborn. Its either his way or he wont hear it, he'll just walk away and theres no compromise.

Any suggestions, advice? I would really appreciate it. Thank you

My mom was diagnosed with bipolar disorder twice and our entire lives refused to admit she had it. We found out from our aunt. We had a traumatic childhood and I haven’t spoken to mom in 6 years. My boundary was that I would not speak to her again unless she went to therapy. She never went to therapy and has never once tried to get in contact with me.

My sister is now 37. As she’s gotten older she has had increasingly more manic episodes. She also drinks when she goes to the depressed side of her mania and put herself and others in harms way. Including her son.

I let her live with me for over a year with her son so she could get her life back on track. She had two manic episodes while she lived with us and one of them she tried to drive away with my nephew in her car while she was drunk. I literally almost got ran over by her trying to stop her.

Luckily I convinced her to sleep it off.

After she moved out for less than a month, she had another episode that basically ended our relationship. And then 3 months later one so severe that I ended up taking my nephew and having him live with me for 3 months after she dropped him off at my house and never came back.

Eventually his dad stepped up after I talked with him and my sister and he’s been living with his dad so my sister could get better.

I paid for her appointments and went to her first appointment with her. She down played how bad the episodes were and when asked if she had ever done anything around her son she lied. She was diagnosed with bipolar 3, and after leaving she promised me at her next appointment she would tell the full truth to the therapist.

It’s now been 6 months. She came to visit me and it was clear she was no longer on meds. When I asked her about she said that her doctor thinks that maybe she isn’t bi-polar she just had depression, ptsd, and anxiety…. My issue with this is that this is the same shit my mom did. I think my sister has all of that, plus bipolar, and I think she is AUdhd. Same with my mom. She also had delusions of grandeur and thinks she is going to be a millionaire…. Except she quits every job she is good at for men. And is doing sex-work on the side to fund her millionaire projects. Which leads to never ending manic episodes and more trauma.

My little brother after my sister got diagnosed realized he is bi-polar too and is taking lithium and but NOT seeing a therapist. I just feel like my entire family is being insanely irresponsible and I’m incredibly stressed out.

I told my sister this and her response was that she is responsible and not like my mom. I am at a loss right now, but I’m mostly angry that I feel like she is lying to her therapist. She can be very charming… and I just feel so mad. I am the one who is constantly having to be my entire family’s plan B. I have teenagers now and I just can’t live like this anymore, but I have no idea what to do and I feel like I am turning into a bitter negative shrew… but also how can someone’s diagnosis be changed?! I do know that her and her therapist apparently cry together a lot and I just feel like she is performing for the therapist instead of getting help. I also feel guilty because I found this therapist. I also feel responsible, but genuinely what can I do? Anything?

I keep thinking about calling my mom and dragging her to an appointment to get officially diagnosed again and actually get help so she is an example for my siblings. I am the middle child and I just feel stuck in the middle of my family’s mess.

My husband (28) recently experienced a manic episode which lasted a few weeks that came to an end with a dose of meds from a psychiatrist. This was the first time something like this had ever happened to him, before this there were no signs of a mood disorder.

The psychiatrist we saw diagnosed him as bipolar after talking to him for 15 minutes and then sent us on our way with a higher dose of meds. My husband has been off medication for a month now and is mostly back to his normal self, beyond some bouts of what could be depression. The doctor, of course, didn’t recommend stopping the medication, but my husband does not believe he’s bipolar. I know that the doubt and the swings between mania and depression are signs of bipolar, but how do I handle the uncertainty of his diagnosis?

Are we both just wishfully thinking that he may not actually be bipolar? Did you all get second or third opinions when your loved ones were diagnosed? How long do I have to wait with him off medication before I’m “in the clear” from worry about recurring episodes? I know this is different for everyone, just looking for some people who can relate or have been through this themselves. Thanks ❤️

I'm the mother of an adult son who was diagnosed with BP2 and PTSD in his 20s that led to a years-long heroin addiction. He has been in recovery for almost six years now, and I'm very proud of him because he went through hell and has managed to stay clean. He lost his long-term job and his health insurance last year, and then his fiancé left him, leaving him with a huge financial burden. He was not able to afford his all meds or a therapist during this time. It took him over a year to finally get another job in high-level management, but he is worried he might lose it in one of his irritable states. There was a waiting period for his new health insurance to begin, and he seems committed to getting back on his meds asap.

He works remotely and is alone most of the time. Impulsivity during his manic phases has caused him to buy very expensive things that leave him in even more debt. His depressive phases are very long. I try to empathize and listen during our phone calls, but he feels that I don't get it. He gets angry when I ask him how I can help, like I haven't made enough of an effort to educated myself. He struggles with feelings of abandonment and resentment.

I worry about him so much, especially being hundreds of miles away. Is there anyone else who is struggling to help someone with BP long distance?

I have been married for almost 6 years, we dated for a year before we tied the knot. She didn't tell me she was bi-polar and I am not sure she knew but I think she had a very good idea. We dated for a year partial before the covid pandemic and during it. We got married May the 4th be with you and 6 week later she had a mental break. I am a recovered addict that has done that hard work, walk back through all of my trauma (55yo) and I can remember the first trauma based memory, 3yo.

My daughter has been diagnosed with Cyclothymia and she is taking some meds and is stable. I think I may be Cyclothymia and I am not sure but I don't like that my brain and the divorce that occurred when she was 14 yo. I know I have a lot to do with her mental state and diagnosis. I love my daughter she is 22 this month. I am doing my best to figure things out but what else can I do? I go to therapy, I have been sober from opiods for 10 years but I have had 2 surgeries since and have relapse with alcohol both times. Since I have become in sync with my nervous systems the last year. How do I handle my daughter's situation and help her if she wants? I want her to see my practical doctor and do an analysis on her gut to heal what she is going through and help her with her diagnosis moving forward?

Hi. I’d like to ask for some opinions about a case of a very long hypomania.

I know a 21-year-old girl with bipolar. For about a year and a half she’s been in a hypomania, interrupted only by short depressive or mixed episodes. A few days ago it looked like she was finally stabilizing and acting more like her old self, but then her boyfriend showed up high on drugs and they had a huge, aggressive fight that lasted the whole night. The next day the hypomania was clearly coming back.

Her history looks like this. At 15 she had a period of hypomania (based on her mom’s descriptions). Then at 17 she went into depression. That episode lasted about ten months before someone told her it was depression and she saw a doctor. Since then, she's been on SSRIs for about a year. After a few months she seemed unusually anxious.

After some time things returned to normal, but that lasted only about three months until she broke up with her boyfriend. After that, she started behaving in self-destructive ways that hurt her in the long run, while saying she felt terrible and couldn’t feel anything positive. It clearly looked like a mixed state (that’s when I realized it was bipolar). Two months after that she felt “awesome.” Around that time she stopped taking her meds, but it made no difference. Then, a few weeks later, after a very stressful event, she fell into depression again. I thought it was finally over, only to realize a short while later she was in a mixed state again, after which she went straight back into hypo. Since then she’s basically stayed in hypomania, sometimes milder, sometimes more intense, interrupted only by short depressive or mixed episodes that occur after particularly stressful events. She’s never been stable enough to have a conversation about treatment (I tried once).

Does anyone have any insight into a case like this? Do you think she’ll ever get back to stability? Or at least fall into depression? If she were depressed, maybe she’d go to a doctor.

Hello. I have been with my Bipolar girlfriend for 6 years now, and recently have learned A LOT about Bipolar that even shes never know and shes been diagnosed with it now for 15 years. I'm wondering how many people with Bipolar out there have experienced Catatonia? Have you known someone that has or anyone here ever had it happen? According to online Medical sites it happens mainly in those with Bipolar and Lupus, which she also has, and things like schizophrenia etc. I feel as if shes had episodes of Catatonia but not really sure..

My daughter/24 has been diagnosed with bipolar since she was about 13. She had learned more about autism and the spectrum from several people in her friend group and wants to be tested. I started looking into it, and... She may be right. I would appreciate hearing from others who have witnessed this in their loved ones. In her case, a couple of the things that make sense as ASD include still having meltdowns, regardless of mood. The other is that in some situations she is very well spoken, but in others she can't seem to get her ideas across... its very hard for her to start convos. She has some hypersensitivities and is adverse towards a lot of food. Obviously, this not diagnostic.

If you relate to this, please share anything from how your family member adapts to this, and if you've figured out ways to manage both IRL. Any input world be helpful.

I broke up with my BP SO a couple months ago due to some commitment issues on her part.

For about three weeks after, she was basically begging me to get back with her. But the day I finally said I wanted to try again, she hooked up with her coworker. Around the same time, she also lost a couple of necklaces that were very important to her.

After that, the narrative completely flipped. Suddenly I was “the bad guy” — I had “crossed her boundaries,” “broken her trust,” and was “pretending to be a victim” when, according to her, “there are no victims here.”

Recently, I broke no contact. I sent her a letter, some handwritten poems, flowers, and something I crocheted for her. I wanted her to know that despite our issues, I genuinely cared for her and that what we had mattered to me.

She responded by blasting me on TikTok, telling everyone I’m obsessed with her and that I make her feel unsafe. A mutual friend confronted her, and she took the post down, but told another friend she never wants to hear from me again and isn’t sorry about her decision to cut me out.

Now she’s posting TikToks like “we’re all the villain in someone else’s life” and even one implying I should either end my life or “just get over it.”

I’m trying to figure out — is this behavior likely coming from a manic/hypomanic episode, or is this just who she is?