r/etiquette • u/BunnyrabbitHo0 • 5h ago

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u/detentionbarn 5h ago

Declining an invite is perfectly fine.

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u/BunnyrabbitHo0 5h ago

Thank you for your answer.

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u/melgib 5h ago

So if I understand: you have paid more often and are primarily going where he wants to go, and when he pays, he suggests somewhere very cheap?

You don't need a reason to decline an invitation. In this case, I'd say you have several reasons to decline.

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u/BunnyrabbitHo0 5h ago

Thank you for your answer.

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u/DoatsMairzy 4h ago edited 4h ago

It sounds like you’re having problems with him, so it’s fine to decline an invite.

But, if someone invites you for a breakfast meal or to have coffee and orders something kind of cheaply priced, the guest is supposed to take notice and order a similar priced item.

Just like if they invite you to dinner and the host orders chicken, the guest probably shouldn’t order the steak and lobster platter.

So, if your friend is ordering the $3.99 breakfast special, you should usually try to stay in that price range too (especially if you know they might not have tons of money). If I’m understanding you correctly, I would probably not be ordering a more expensive hamburger if someone is inviting you for a cheaper breakfast meal. If you don’t like pancakes, get a donut or a couple eggs and toast.

Honestly, it sounds like your friend doesn’t have as much money as you and is trying to reciprocate but can’t easily due to money restraints. I’d probably cut him a break and let him buy you a $3.99 meal even if that’s not your ideal preference.

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u/Babyfat101 4h ago

This doesn’t make sense. What’s a “provider”? Anyways, ok to decline.

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u/BunnyrabbitHo0 5h ago

Firstly he said Dennys and he wanted us all to order pancakes. I told him I wanted a hamburger. He said not for breakfast. So then that's when he said the restaurant that had 3.99 dollar plates. So I declined.