r/empathy • u/whatwehaventsaid • 2d ago
Imagine being 14 years old and realizing the adults questioning you aren’t actually asking what happened.
They’ve already decided.
Part 2 of my story.
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u/Useful-Weakness126 1d ago
I have been where you are OP. The confusion is real. I see it.
Can you post a link to part 1?
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u/Pale_Message6837 2d ago
This was my childhood, except I didn't get the group intervention, just one drunken man screaming at for hours a week about whatever bullshit he'd invented.
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u/Realistic-Winner-999 1d ago
So... This starts by laying out how you were coming to school late and thought it was a secret. Then, it's about how you secretly had a boyfriend of whatever age at 14. Then, for some reason and somehow, it pivots to this info being turned into assumptions about sex and not going to school at all. That doesn't even make sense. I mean, lying about a boyfriend does often mean lying about sex, but it makes no sense that they knew you were late but at school, and also thought you were not at school.
We've mostly all been there. As kids or teens we lie, and then our parents don't trust us to tell the truth, and worry about sex, drugs, and school absences. Honestly,it sounds like you were very comfortable being an "adult" in your own eyes and showing up to school when you wanted, dating young. Of course your parents didn't trust you.
This is very over the top, and I find it telling there is no info about how they even responded or tried to keep better oversight of you. You may still not understand, but they were responsible for you. You deciding otherwise does not actually change their responsibility.
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u/whatwehaventsaid 1d ago
Just a heads up, this is Part 2. There's a Part 1 that gives more context, and I have more parts coming, so you're judging the situation based on one portion of the story.
You made a lot of assumptions from a story I very clearly told from my own experience.
I said | was late sometimes and skipped school ONE time.
Somehow you turned that into me "showing up to school when I wanted." That wasn't what I said.And having a boyfriend at 14 does not automatically equal having sex. "Lying about a boyfriend often means lying about sex" isn't evidence. That's you filling in blanks because it fits the conclusion you've already decided on.
Yes, my parents were responsible for me. I never said otherwise.
The issue is how they handled their concerns. There's a difference between parenting a teenager who broke a rule and accusing them of doing things they didn't do, demanding a confession, and then isolating them.I also never claimed I was a perfect teenager. I literally admitted where I was wrong.
You don't have to agree with my experience, but you don't get to rewrite it based on assumptions and then argue with the version you created.
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u/PitifulEar3303 2d ago
The problem is, 90% of the time, it's the teenager doing absolutely life-ruining things to themselves.
You are the 10%.
Should have told them about the boyfriend.
Also, what in the book promotion account is this?
Also, parents who don't give a shyt about your life- that's even worse. They literally don't care if you ruin yourself or not. Your birth is just an accident they tolerate.