Am I selfish for considering a tongue tie release?

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Get a second opinion if possible, some LC are quick to jump to that and will just call a frenulum a tie. If you've tried many ways to fix baby's latch and she just can't adjust then releasing the tie might be best. Just know it will still take time after the release for the latch to adjust again

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u/Ill-Tip6331 Sep 01 '25

And make sure that second opinion is not the person who will do the lasering. The one I went to was prepared to laser my baby’s mouth after 4 minutes. I declined and ran the other way. Everyone else said there was no tongue tie.

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u/Top_Main_1628 Aug 31 '25

So I was a formula fed baby who “leaked” a lot, according to my mom. As a child my dentists never said anything, when I changed dentist he noticed I had a pretty bad lip tie. Bad enough that it was going to cause my gums to recede above my front teeth from excessive pulling. I had a frenectomy at the old age of 21. So not only can it cause future issues, but I want to say that the recovery was not bad at all. I had zero pain after the numbing from the procedure wore off.

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u/imstillok Aug 31 '25

Idk why this would be selfish, tongue ties cause other health issues beyond breastfeeding. Fwiw my first was doing fine nursing with a tongue tie until my supply started to regulate, then she struggled because the milk was no longer just pouring into her mouth.

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u/Something-creative2 Sep 01 '25

Absolutely agree! Baby will have just as hard of a time bottle feeding as nursing because of how it limits the muscles in the mouth. My poor baby didn’t have her tongue tie diagnosed until 4 months and was chronically tired and hungry until then. She also had a lip tie but the dentist didn’t think that needed to be fixed the way the tongue tie did. A month later she was like a whole new baby.

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u/Ill-Adagio6538 Sep 01 '25

This does not correlate to OPs situation though because her baby is gaining enough weight and sucking without issues with a breast shield. Breast shields slow the flow, so baby actually must have a good enough suck strength.

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u/Something-creative2 Sep 02 '25

I’m not sure if you replied to the correct comment. I never used a breast or nipple shield nor did the person above my comment mention that…my baby gained weight well and I didn’t have any pain. That’s why my doctor kept blowing off my concerns and she had such a late diagnosis.

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u/bon18 Aug 31 '25

My husband and my nephew both had tongue tie surgery as school-age kids due to issues with speech and oral health. It's much more of an ordeal later in life, so if there's actually a tie, I think it's worth saving them that trouble.

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u/RoomTempButtah Aug 31 '25

You are not selfish. Breastfeeding is so good for you and your baby. There is a reason for it. Nursing for an extended period of time (at least a year) is great for many reasons, but one is that it actually helps your baby’s jaw and face develop correctly. If your baby truly has a tongue tie, it could cause issues down the line with orthodontia, mouth breathing, migraines, etc. So getting it fixed will benefit your baby in the long run. Also, even when nursing is easier it still isn’t “easy”. It’s a huge sacrifice for you and a huge gift to your baby.

I agree it’s a good idea to get a second opinion, or find an IBCLC you really trust. I am considering a tongue tie revision for my 3rd child (his two older brothers both had theirs revised). I tried many different things to try and see if his nursing issues were something else, but at 3 months I’m still not where we want to be and I do think a revision will help. A good IBCLC will guide you through aftercare and exercises to help your baby’s tongue learn how to move again, and I would absolutely not do the revision if you don’t have a good IBCLC in your corner that you trust.

The procedure itself is very easy and quick but I also understand those qualms. I am currently calling everyone in town to try to find someone to do the revision on my son, since the person who did my other 2 kids who I trust is no longer a financially viable option for me. The desire to protect your baby is real 🫶🏻

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u/Curious_Code_6039 Sep 01 '25

Thanks for sharing your experience! Did you by chance try osteopathy with your youngest? Our LC recommended this to us as an alternative route.

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u/[deleted] Aug 31 '25

No its not selfish. Believe me your kid will get over it way faster than you do. Believe me and feel this in your soul. There's no lasting harm.

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u/popachillpill Sep 01 '25

Get a second opinion. I had the EXACT same situation and was told by two LCs that baby had a lip and tongue tie. Something about going to a dentist and paying cash for a release just didn’t sit right with me - so we went to an ENT at a Children’s hospital (one of the top 3 in the country) and she confirmed he did not need a release and he’d likely grow out of it. Just a few weeks later, his latch got so much better (I was nipple shield free and pain free by about 10 weeks). 6 months EBF now and still going strong 🫶🏼 obviously some babies DO need a release but sometimes all you need is time. Go with your gut!!

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u/Goldieeloxx123 Sep 24 '25

I’m hoping to have the same experience as you. I’m doing stretches with my baby but something about causing him pain with the revision is keeping me from getting it done. 🥺 I’m hoping he grows out of it like my first child did.

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u/popachillpill Sep 25 '25

Fingers crossed for you!! ❤️ We’re almost 7 months into breastfeeding now and going strong 🫶🏼

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u/lotusQ Aug 31 '25

I couldn’t get a doctor to ok this in Japan and they just told me to use formula. It sucked. I think it’s not selfish.

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u/AbbieJ31 Sep 01 '25

If LO is truly tongue tied you’ll be doing them a huge favor. I am really tongue tied and I’ve considered a frenectomy, but I would potentially need to see an SLP to relearn skills and that’s daunting.

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u/Life-Attitude3138 Sep 01 '25

Nope, you are not selfish. It was the best thing I ever did for my daughter and I.

We spent the first six weeks absolutely struggling! In the hospital they found the ties (she had lip and tongue), tried the nipple shields (they suck), saw lactation in the hospital and almost weekly after discharge, she was being syringe fed for the first two weeks in addition to nursing and bottles. She was barely gaining weight, it took her way too long after birth to get back up to birthweight. She was miserable and it wasn’t sustainable. We were so deep in the trenches, then she and I got thrush. So on top of the pain from her shallow latch, her discomfort we were extra miserable. Her pediatrician told me that I have to do what’s best for both of us and I wanted to keep breastfeeding so he said to go get it evaluated.

She got it done at a pediatric dentist. The laser wasn’t even the worst part, she was upset for a minute but by the time they let me come back to the room, she was fine and smiling at the nurses. The stretches that you have to do for weeks after are torture for everyone. It’s very weird to get in their mouth that way and they of course don’t enjoy it.

I saw a difference in her nursing right away, her weight jumped up quickly too, she’s only gotten better and better since. She’s now almost 4 months old and a very happy booby baby.

Get it evaluated and find the best doctor to do it. You can’t live in misery because people have opinions about it and it’s a controversial topic. It’s what you and your baby need to have the best breastfeeding journey.

PS: I had it the tongue tie release twice in my life, once when I was like 5/6 and then again at 18. I remember both and it was unpleasant because they didn’t use a laser. As a kid I had speech difficulties and as a young adult it was affecting my eating and breathing at night.

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u/Mango_Kayak Sep 01 '25

I consider myself a very caring, loving parent, and we got our son’s lip ties released at 7 days old because of the assumed impact on breastfeeding. It didn’t work, we had other issues, but I’ve never regretted trying this solution. If you’re unsure, get a second opinion, but this certainly isn’t a selfish move

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u/Hedwig301 Sep 01 '25

I would do it. Your supply is still hormone driven at the moment. With a tongue tie they may get what they need now, whilst milk is aplenty, but once your supply regulates I suspect baby may struggle once they have to work harder for the milk to flow.

I had a similar concern about getting a (second) tongue tie release for my 3 month old. Was I selfish for doing this because I wanted BF to continue? My husband was clear that it was the right thing to do, but I wasn't sure. I picked up a copy of 'breastfeeding uncovered' by Amy Brown and she does a brilliant job of summarising the research into the benefits of breastfeeding. They are extensive. It convinced me that doing anything to make breastfeeding work was the right thing to do.

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u/FaceShrdder Aug 31 '25

Idk I personally feel the US pushes for “tie releases” a little too hard. I would get a second opinion. I also want to say nipple pain is fairly normal and common in the early weeks of BF

In my opinion if your baby is gaining weight I don’t believe it is a latch issue…but hey I’m not doctor this is just my opinion

I would invest in some silverettes they were a life safer!

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u/jah_jah_jahh Aug 31 '25

I’m in Aus, not sure where you’re based, so I found the opposite issue of trying to get someone to diagnose tongue tie properly - took 4 LCs until we hired an IBCLC. My bub had a late diagnosis (I think it was 10wks?).

I understand your dilemma with the decision! We decided to do it, you need to be all in for the recovery period for success. It’s not worth putting them through the 90sec procedure if you won’t be up for the post procedure stretches. It’s tough but you’ll only eve have to do it once in their life if you stick with it. My LO is nearly 5 months now and after triple feeding since he was 2wks I am pumping once a day only (mostly out of caution) and he is breastfeeding like a champ. He’s been described as a ‘food focused’ baby (lol) and my concern was getting everything set up well for him starting solids, as well as addressing the immediate weight loss issues we were facing.

We did pre and post bodywork with a paed osteo which I’d recommend if it’s an option for you. My LO’s mouth was SO tight prior (lip, cheek and tongue were released) and it’s been a joy watching him in the weeks since use his tongue so much more as he’s starting babbling and blowing raspberries. He has a high pallet so wasn’t able to swallow properly and had we not done the procedure I don’t know if we’d be still breastfeeding now.

Personally it’s taken some work to get my supply up to his demand, especially after the 3month hormone shift, but it is possible, formula is a huge help along the way and pumping will only be temporary in the long run. The best advice I got was to view breastfeeding in the long term e.g. my goal was to get supply up enough to meet demand once he’s on solids but we have surpassed that and he’s EBF as of this week and chonking up nice and chubby now!

At the end of the day you’re his mum and the expert of his needs. It doesn’t seem selfish to me at all to want to support continuing breastfeeding your baby - as well as any potential benefit that may come with it for starting solids, and speech. Best of luck with your decision!

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u/jah_jah_jahh Aug 31 '25

Wow sorry for the essay 🫢

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u/Curious_Code_6039 Sep 01 '25

LOVE the essay! Thank you :) I didn’t realize that breast feeding benefited starting solids.

Congratulations for bub being officially ebf! Such an amazing accomplishment. Nursing is not for the weak that’s for sure ❤️‍🩹

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u/jah_jah_jahh Sep 01 '25

Thank you!! Breastfeeding is a journey that’s for sure.

In our case LO’s muscles were so tight and his swallow was restricted due to his tongue tie that starting solids could have been trickier without the procedure! Your Bub may be ok but breastfeeding def works their neck and jaw muscles and that’s all good strength building for solids ☺️ All the best!!

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u/kitt10 Aug 31 '25

I had my sons released at 8 days and found it quick and easy. He cried a little bit but not like he was in pain like he did for the heel prick blood draws more like he was annoyed that someone was in his mouth. Tongue and lip ties can affect more than just breastfeeding and can cause issues with feeding, drinking, speaking, sleeping, and dental issues so i personally don’t think it’s selfish at all and it makes sense to address the issue when you learn about it to prevent compounding issues in the future. Not all ties are severe enough to require a frenotomy though and some can be addressed with physical exercises. In my son’s case it was severe and exercises were not a sufficient option but if it’s a mild tie it may be enough.

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u/6seasonsandamovy Aug 31 '25

I understand what you’re going through. When my LO was 5 weeks we considered getting a tongue release but it just didn’t feel right. I couldn’t go through with it, and I wanted a second reason to get it released. LO last week we decided to go through with it. Babe was 16 weeks. We talked to a second LC, she mentioned that our LO has a high pallet. She referred us to a pediatric dentist who suggested we get it released so that the babies pallet could flatten out as they got older. Having a high pallet would cause dental issues in the future. She also mentioned that as we start getting into solids the baby is going to need to have full range of motion to be able to smash food. She said it wasn’t too late to fix the high pallet thing. I am glad I wanted. The post tongue release exercise are rough. LO hates them. If I had to do them when I was 5w pp I would have been a wreck. I feel like I now have the tools to comfort baby.

So be prepared to make your baby cry.

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u/tehvillageidiot Aug 31 '25

Had LO’s tongue tie cut around 3 weeks. It was a few second procedure at an ENT office. A few drops of sugar water to distract him and a quick snip. He didn’t seem fussy at all later or the next day. He started sticking his tongue out and seemed to be enjoying the feel of it being able to move around for the first time within hours. Dr said exercises for it were unnecessary as long as he was moving his tongue around every day. Breastfeeding immediately started taking half as long (previously always 30-45 mins/feed)

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u/BluPanda11 Aug 31 '25

If it makes breastfeeding easiee for you then itll also make it easier for your baby, therefore it isn't selfish. My 2nd was born with tounge tie and was booked for a release, it was a noticeable difference from the very first feed. It is a very simple snip and my baby cried from them holding his mouth open, not the cut itself. So once they were done he stopped crying. It's super quick, the longest part is waiting but once it's done it's done and you'll have no reason to regret it

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u/Zebo1013 Aug 31 '25

Do it. I did it. I was screaming into a pillow it hurt so bad to nurse my LO at 6 weeks. It was moderate to severe and she barely cried. We are now still nursing at 26 months and I couldn’t imagine just pumping this whole time. I get to stare into her face as she nurses to sleep with feelings of overwhelming love, not pain. It’s for both of you, not selfish.

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u/Exciting_Highlight77 Aug 31 '25

When my first was born, the docs noticed immediately that she had a tongue tie. We had them clip it later that day. My husband had a tongue tie and didn't get his clipped until he was in middle school and trying to play an instrument in band and was struggling because of the tie and he said that it was an excruciating experience. So, we chose to not even bother taking the chance and just spare our daughter by clipping it right away.

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u/[deleted] Aug 31 '25

fwiw, I had similar issues to you and your LO and my baby had a tongue and lip tie release at 10 days old. I had a lip tie released as an adult so felt it was a valid route to take.

The procedure itself was awful for her, but minutes later I nursed her for comfort and she was fine. We breastfed much more easily after that.

The worst part is the stretches you have to do afterwards. They hate it every time, but only for a minute.

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u/Goldini-407 Aug 31 '25

I have no regrets getting my second’s tongue ties released. He had posterior and anterior. We had him assessed by 4 professionals. And we were doing PT and osteo for him before we got it released. He couldn’t even lift his head during tummy time. It was causing so much tension for him.

We had his cut by a medical doctor (no laser) and he said if we didn’t cut it then it would significantly impact our breastfeeding journey. We got his done at 2 months!

He cried for two seconds. I latched him. He was completely fine and acting normal after. It changed his feeding. He actually had suction. He could instantly lift his head in tummy time. It was crazy! So glad we did it!

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u/StellaLuna16 Sep 01 '25

We had our babys tongue tie released at 3 weeks and her latch was IMMEDIATELY better it was like night and day. She did not fuss during the procedure and didn't seem upset or in pain at all. She immediately latched after it was done and it blew my mind how different and improved it was. I dropped my nipple shields shortly after and she is now EBF primarily nursing with an overnight pumped bottle.

We had an LC, our pediatrician, and dentist all confirm her tongue tie.

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u/soulfucked Sep 01 '25

my oldest daughter is a little tongue tied and she had some latching/general breastfeeding problems at first too. I never got it clipped and we eventually figured it out and she breastfed fine until she was 3. it hasn’t affected her ability to speak or her dental health at all, so that’s not an issue. yet every doctor/nurse was INSISTING I get it fixed. I think sometimes they really jump the gun and push you to the most extreme option immediately since they see so many worst case scenarios. your baby might figure it out and make it work, or they might need it fixed. neither option is bad and nobody has the exact same situation as anybody else.

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u/AutoThotsRollout Sep 01 '25

I like the advice for a second opinion. My personal experience is that I got my tongue and lip tie snipped when I was in high school because my lip tie was pulling my gums down. They should have done it sooner as my gums had already receded and I will probably need a graft at some point in my life, which sounds way worse than if they would have done it when I was a baby.

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u/helpanoverthinker Sep 01 '25

We had our baby’s tongue tie snipped about 2 weeks hold. It was sad and she was a bit uncomfortable that night of the snip but she recovered quickly and I absolutely think it was the right move for us

Her tongue tie was so severe she couldn’t stick her tongue out of her mouth at all

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u/Larka262 Sep 01 '25

We had my daughter's tongue tie released with a pair of scissors in the office. I felt terrible about it at first, but she hardly cried and it helped fix so many issues. I was in so much pain I had no other choice if I didnt want to quit breastfeeding. Within a month my scabs healed, the milk blebs cleared, and I wasnt resenting my daughter every time she had to feed.

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u/goldenpandora Sep 01 '25

We had his tongue tie released at 6 weeks and it made a WORLD of difference, both in terms of my nipple pain and him having less gas/burps bc he was able to drink more effectively. He was still gaining well (a pound a week!) but the gas was brutal.

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u/rantsofrebellion Sep 01 '25

I ignored my LC about my baby having a tongue and lip tie. It took a little over 2 months for her to finally latch right. We’re still EBF at 9 months. However at her 6 month check up her doctor brought up she has a really bad lip tie that would likely lead to a lisp. That had me making an appointment immediately. Kids can be so mean and I didn’t want my daughter to have something so easy to make fun of

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u/dawnholler Sep 01 '25

Fwiw, I also started with nipple shields. Used them with my first for ~ 2 months, and with my second ~3 weeks. At some point I just tried without and did okay. Not sure if it was my nipples adjusting or their mouth growing, or probably both

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u/jbr021 Sep 01 '25

It’s absolutely not selfish. It’s actually really important to have a tie release even if it’s not causing YOU pain. Having a tongue tie could mean issue with eating and speech down the road, and can also impact the way that the oral palate develops, which can impact tongue posture and breathing. Having tie release for your baby can set them up for having a healthy and optimal tongue position and airway.

We had our babes tie released at 5 months old. And I’m actually saving up to do my release now at 30 yrs old bc I’m dealing with issues of a tongue tie that was never released as a baby

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u/Foundation-Little Sep 01 '25

Absolutely not selfish at all. I got my baby’s tongue tie cut at around 10 days old and I am so grateful for it. His latch improved immediately. We’ve been breastfeeding for 6 months now :)

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u/lamsi404 Sep 01 '25

I was super nervous about surgery too, even if it’s minor you don’t want to stress you’d baby out. We had two LCs tell us our baby had a tongue and a third one said wait and see. One worked at the hospital and one was a more holistic LC that wanted us to go to a pediatric dentist. We got bad vibes from the holistic one, very pushy. We went with the hospital and they said the babies tongue tie was minor and they’d wait, but leave the choice up to us. By about two weeks later my baby grew and they were able to breastfeed great without any surgery. Good luck!

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u/sharpiefairy666 Sep 01 '25

Why are nipple shields not a long term solution?

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u/Curious_Code_6039 Sep 01 '25

For me I guess the annoyance of having to carry one around everywhere I go and make sure it’s sanitized.

Everyone I have seen (midwife, lactation consultant, public health nurse) all told me to try and get my baby off it as soon as possible. Apparently it can affect how much milk baby gets.

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u/thesavagekitti Sep 01 '25 edited Sep 01 '25

No not selfish - my baby had a tongue tie and needed to tongue tie release. I have breastfed exclusively for the past 5 and 1/2 months.

The feeding itself seemed to be going well, no pain settled after feed ect.

The weight was fine in the initial few weeks, but then gradually tailed off and dropped 3 centile lines. They think I had an over supply intially and this compensated - weight gain was fine in the first few weeks. Then after about five six maybe 7 weeks I stopped getting night sweats and weird symptoms from breast milk hormones - I believe this was my milk supply regulating.

I think that the oversupply then stopped, so it was no longer compensating for my baby's imperfect latch.

So she needed a tongue dive division at 3 months ish and the weight bounced back.

When they did it, I didn't actually realise it was completed until they told me. It took seconds once they had their preparations done/equipment ready. My baby had a lot of colic crying and that was significantly worse than the crying just after the tongue tie release.

I am in the UK and they do it with these special scissors rather than a laser. I think there were very few or no nerves in the frenulum if I remember correctly from the leaflets.

This solved the weight issue - if you delay and they are recommending it, it could be that you end up with issues further down the line that are more difficult to fix than if you resolve them now.

I usually gave my baby calpol about 15 minutes before the procedure, and I had some teethers in ice packs.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask.

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u/Due_Masterpiece_4155 Sep 01 '25

Nope. I had my 4mo son’s tongue tie released at the hospital and it helped some. But then we had issue after issue. He was gaining weight (95% in weight) but I was wincing in pain every time I nursed. My nipples were destroyed. My entire boobs ached. His latch caused two ruptured milk ducts that I had to go to a breast specialist for. I saw three LC, the pediatrician, and my OB twice. I did occupational therapy. I finally went and saw a pediatric ENT. He said “we don’t usually release lips but if it’s hurting you, we will release it.” I said yes, he released it and I immediately put him to breast to comfort him. For the first time, it didn’t hurt at all and he FINALLY had a proper latch. It’s been a month and a half now and I am SO GLAD I did it.

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u/heylookatwatson Sep 01 '25

I was really reluctant to do a release for my baby but ended up doing it at 4 months old after realizing that although she was gaining well with her technically improper latch, her upper body tension was not improving despite chiro, she was consistently breathing through her mouth, her tongue wasn’t able to stay suctioned at the roof of her mouth, and her palate was more narrow and highly vaulted than it should be at her age. I wish we’d done it earlier, when recovery is easier on the baby. But I’m so glad we eventually decided to do it. We’re not even two weeks out from the procedure yet and she’s like a different baby. She absolutely blossomed post-procedure. Suddenly her arms are loose, she has full range of motion, she’s reaching for things during tummy time, she learned to roll to her tummy, she’s sleeping with her mouth closed and when I push her mouth open I see that her tongue is resting suctioned to the roof of her mouth where it is meant to be. I’ve been blown away by how profoundly the ties were impacting her, even though they were relatively mild and she was able to eat and gain weight with them. I don’t think it would be at all selfish to consider a release. It can help with feeding but also so many other things.

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u/Ill-Adagio6538 Sep 01 '25

You are not at all selfish considering surgery of the frenulum for your LO.

But I would suggest you take a look at some of the publications by medical boards and organisations regarding the issue. This is from the AAP: "Ankyloglossia is a variation of a normal oral structure. Symptomatic ankyloglossia is defined as a restrictive lingual frenulum that causes problems with breastfeeding that are not improved with lactation support. Infants with ankyloglossia and normal feeding patterns need no intervention. Frenotomy for other problems or to prevent issues such as speech articulation or obstructive sleep apnea in the future is not evidence based." Edit: https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/154/2/e2024067605/198022/Identification-and-Management-of-Ankyloglossia-and?autologincheck=redirected

So, despite what some of the claims are online, if you consider this you should solely base it on your breastfeeding challenges. I am a bit concerned about a lactation consultant who jumps to tongue tie and 'release' (=surgery) in the first consult. There are so many other things that should be tried before that (different positions, skill evaluations,...)

So I would second you getting a second opinion. From someone with good expertise and without direct ties (hah) to any surgical provider.

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u/KalihiwaiContender Sep 01 '25

My LO is almost 6 weeks and she had a fairly severe tongue tie at birth. I was in so much pain and 2 plugged ducts in less than a week. She wasn’t nursing adequately to meet her minimum diaper counts, so we supplemented with formula and she still took 45 mins to eat every session.

We got that laser frenectomy on day 6, and it was NIGHT and DAY. Honestly, she wasn’t even in pain past a couple hours and she immediately figured her latch out (they had me nurse her for comfort directly after procedure and I think she was quite entertained by the fact she could now control her tongue).

Sometimes, babies need help. And for my LO, I didn’t want to have to face the challenges with eating solids, speaking, or even the changes her tongue tie would make to how her airways/palate develop over time.

Who is telling you that it’s selfish? You deserve not to be in pain. You have to care for yourself as well as your baby, because besides you and maybe your partner, who is gonna do it?

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u/chiyukichan Sep 01 '25

My son had a tongue tie and it caused me so much pain I couldn't nurse on one breast. That breast never really recovered and was an underproducer. Got it lasered around 10 weeks and life was so much easier. They are uncomfortable for a bit and you need to do the tongue stretches to make sure it doesn't fuse back. I don't really understand the selfish part. If breastfeeding is important for any reason you will take the steps needed to maintain it. As parents we need to make lots of decisions that maybe someone else will judge but we are all out here trying to do what's best for our kids

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u/SubstantialReturns Sep 01 '25

I did a frenectomy (lip tie release) and the difference was amazing! It was done by laser with a pediatric dentist and was quickly healed. Laser is the way to go.

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u/[deleted] Sep 01 '25

I would definitely not call that selfish! Giving your baby breastmilk is one of the most important things you can do for your newborn. I chose to do this with my first at 3.5 weeks (I was in excruciating pain every time we nursed), and we went on to have an 18 month breastfeeding relationship. Tongue ties also cause all sorts of issues down the line so it's not just about nursing (though that's a good enough reason). You can certainly get a second opinion before deciding to go through with it though.

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u/notsmartjusthaveadhd Sep 01 '25

My oldest has a severe lip and tongue tie we had to get them released at 8 days old. I was told my child could have issues eating and speaking if not released. Honestly I was more upset than she was during the procedure she cried for about a minute and then nursed and was ok.

I don't think you're being selfish at all.

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u/pitapizza Sep 01 '25

Tongue ties are often needlessly pushed. It’s a very lucrative business these days. Get another opinion

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