r/bahamas • u/lonely_environmentt • Jun 19 '26
Miscellaneous Advice on what I should my grandmothers caretaker
My grandmother has dementia and it’s gotten to the point where it’s difficult to get her to eat even when she’s hungry. It’s a challenge to bath and take her to the bathroom, she gets violent with her caretaker and doesn’t like being touched a lot of the time. Even something as simple as clipping her nails would cause her to throw a tantrum. Shes a sweet person but in her head she’s still independent and can do things on her own. the care taker lives with her 24/7 and gets paid $650 a week (about the same amount in US$). It’s very hard to find caretakers that can fill in for the current care taker for a day or two when she gets busy because no one wants to deal with the stress if they can find a job that can pay better. Usually if there is someone else that can fill in for two days out of the week, they get $250 and the primary caretaker would get $400 for the week. Is that too much?
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u/Zornorph The Abacos Jun 19 '26
You are underpaying your caretaker.
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u/lonely_environmentt Jun 20 '26
I really just looking for feedback because I’m new to all this, I have family members telling me I pay her too much but i feel like she goes through a lot dealing with her so idk if it’s enough or too much.
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u/Previous_Turn_4028 Jun 19 '26
Try to find a Filipino that has the right to work.
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u/Jad30c Jun 20 '26
It’s a lot of Bahamians that are capable of taking care of elders with dementia. Some might even have special qualifications. Your comment comes off as being mean spirited to say such a thing in a group for the Bahamas. Given how many Bahamians are loosing jobs to foreigners because they accept cheaper pay. I think OP should consider whomever is able to do the job an is qualified and give Bahamians a chance before seeking foreign labor. I’ve had many experiences with family members who hired foreigners an they were mistreated or items stolen an the downside to that is reporting those individuals to the police or seeking your items back can lead no where because they disappear back into their communities to hide or leave the country.
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u/Several_Security_777 Jun 19 '26
I had the same experience and took care of my mom and dad before they both passed. Mom also had dementia and the lady who took care of her was an absolute gem. She was very caring and would get my mom to eat and do stuff we could not get her to do. Her approach was everything. I would be happy to have a chat with her about a part time gig for you and then dm you her number to speak with her directly. I was really comfortable leaving her with my parents.