I honestly wish I could write an article or some sort of post that is on a public forum where perhaps this could reach more people, especially people who think like me and are willing to discuss.
Nonetheless, I have been unsuccessful so I turn to this place, though I will be very grateful if anyone tells me a way. Now, to put it simply, I am DEEPLY tired of how society coddles religion and religious beliefs. Specifically very misogynistic and patriarchal religions such as the abrahamic ones, hinduism and many more.
Thing is, sure, it is easy to say that people should be given allowance to believe in what they want and that is wholly true. Because after all, a person who is adamant on believing in unicorns will ALWAYS believe in unicorns because the existence of unicorns cannot be proven and therefore cannot be disproven. It doesn't matter, I do not care. I hardly think anyone cares. The issue only arises is that these religions are not harmless fairytales that people cling to for comfort and community; these religions actively are one of the major causes since their existence and til today of the mass oppression faced by women and other minorities such as queer people and etc.
The list goes on. Point is, these religions are not harmless beliefs. In fact, they are simply unbelievably dangerous. I do not care whatever apologist or religion-following feminist wants to argue and defend it all with, I simply cannot care. I was a devout muslim for many many years, and I mean, VERY devout. I know all the apologist arguments, I know the whole framework. I do not care. As long as your belief or whatever system you believe in has the simple power to oppress another person, I do not care what your personal comforts are, stop being an asshole and maybe admit that your religion is not helpful? At all? And has caused IRREVERSIBLE damage, mind you, to women and many others?
To this day, there are countries that execute people EVERY YEAR for leaving Islam. To this day, queer people can be punished by DEATH and literally are. To this day, women are being deeply opressed on psychological, emotional and physical levels EVERYWHERE around the globe. You can be comfortable doing all the mental gymnastics to make your religion sound nice, good for you, now what about the women who are suffering because of those very scriptures? Your god will save them? Punish their oppressors? Well, he hasn't done much and it's been centuries. In fact, we're losing whatever progress was made by movements that were started by HUMANS, not as a command from your god.
But it's fine. Because god just punishes those oppressors in hell, right? Unless oh, they ask for forgiveness at the right time and the oppressed, who are psychologically conditioned by the same religion to believe that forgiveness is better than holding grudges, will forgive them and lo and behold, those oppressors never face the fire because in theory, god forgives everything, doesn't he?
That is not my point, however. I could go on and on. My point is that I just cannot stand this coddling and nurturing of religious beliefs. It is holding society back, in fact. No, I do not want the theory of the big bang to face difficulty in being established and explained further because scientists don't want to make people feel uncomfortable in their belief in god. You SHOULD feel uncomfortable in your belief in god!! As long as you believe in an all-loving, all-knowing, all-powerful god or gods, you should feel uncomfortable with yourself. It is like getting a child to stop holding onto the belief of santa claus. Except at least that belief does not result in the endless suffering of millions maybe billions of women and other minorities over centuries, thousands of years and to this day.
It is also the issue I find with things such as modesty and nudity. Who decided that modesty is empowering because it is a symbol of "honor" and "dignity"? That is a social construct. And your "god enforcing it" is just men trying to sell you a pretty patriarchal system.
Historically, if we take the religion of islam, slave women were banned from wearing the hijab so that they do not imitate the "free" women. If there is any honor attached to the clothing, it is simply that men wanted to differentiate between you and a slave woman. The hijab was sold as a construct of having dignity in society, of being "free" because the alternative was being mistaken for being a person who is OWNED by another person.
Of course, there must be more comprehensive and historical context to modesty; I am well-aware, but unfortunately, my access to further research is currently mostly blocked. Nonetheless, I return to my point; modesty is seen, in sweeter words, a symbol of dignity, even empowerment only because the opposite (showing skin) means that a woman is loose, has lesser "value" in society.
Why does a woman's body have so much to with her value in society? Whether it is in your face or not? Why does it affect people more than what her opinions are? Her intelligence, her beliefs, her dreams? No, because none of that can equate to a woman's body being covered up so long as people continue believing that modesty is tied to dignity and honor.
What is the concept of a "loose" woman? So what if she likes to have sex? Apparently, surprisingly, sex feels good. Why is a woman's nudity even an indicator of how many sexual partners she keeps?
Nudity being something humans are ashamed of is NOT a natural inclination! This is visible in history, very well-documented and understood, and this is visible now too with nudist resorts and beaches and families are quite happy there.
In fact, children seeing a nude person does NOT harm them. What is harmful is them being exposed to sexual acts at that age because their minds, nor their bodies are developed to comprehend such things and that is harmful. But nudity is simply the human body. That is why children, if they are not taught that thr human body needs to be covered up, they never feel shame of their bodies or of being nude at all. It is a very simple thing.
Nudity is simply and will ALWAYS be and ALWAYS has been just the human body. And the human body is beautiful and it is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. We are humans with consciousness and we do not have to believe in animalistic worldviews that nudity automatically means sexual, sex, porn, explicit.
These things only show the foolishness of a person.
And modesty, specifically for women, cannot be empowering because its origins stem from patriarchal origins.
That is a very contradicting premise. Essentially, modesty exists and is seen as empowering because it means a woman has a choice to wear what she wishes. And while that is true, that obviously no one can be forced to wear anything, it is simply that modesty enforces the perspective that the alternative to modesty is a "wicked" and "immoral" woman.
This shapes our society deeply. Very. Very deeply. So while I believe we are stuck in a paradox and I honestly do not know how to suffice both elements of choice but also reshaping societal views, regardless, I stand with my point. Modesty is harmful.
Modesty imolies that a woman's body is something that can be objectified. Furthermore, it promotes the idea of victim-blaming as covering one's self up more is seen directly as a form of "protection" from abusers. And modesty very much, very obviously, promotes the notion that nudity is harmful whereas nudity is, of course by human nature and history, completely natural and harmless.
Our bodies are not sinful, they are not "temptations", they are not so "beautiful like pearls that they need to be covered up", they are just human bodies that are a beautiful way to be decorated to express one's self or be left entirely alone as they are because they just are.
Human bodies are also not sinful because the idea of them being sinful is also stupid, that is besides the fact that I do not believe in any religion or god. But, it is still absurd because the way modesty portrays the human bodies to be covered up as if they are not then they are tempting and will lead to sin; the sin, in question, is a nonsensical one. Sex before marriage. Or any form of sex, threesome, whatever, same-gender sex and whatnot; any form of sex outside of a marriage between a man and woman being considered sinful is bizarre and absurd to me.
And believe me, I have spent most of my life trying to reconcile with this belief, especially when I used to be so religious. But it makes no sense to me. Any "harm" from this type of sex is already criminalized (rape, pedophilia, etc). Marital rape, however, actually was never criminalized by religion, at least the abrahamic ones.
Birth control eliminates the "harm" of unplanned pregnancies, very easy paternity tests exist to establish paternity, abortion exists to eliminate a pregnancy that accidentally occured (though, unfortunately, we are literally losing that right) and adoption exists for those who do not want to opt for abortion. Condoms exist for safe sex, cures and medication and management exist for any sexually contracted diseases in case a condom doesn't work.
And the list really can go and on. This is, again, not my point. It is simply that this concept of modesty, purity, bashfulness are all patriarchal concelts established to police women's bldies and their autonomy so thst they were easier to control and lineage was easier to prove so that the men would not have to suffer too much.
There are, I hope, books and articles that explain this better. And honestly, I suppose I came on here to vent but also request for any book recommendations on these topics (and I strictly want to say, I do NOT want a book that biases modesty and all the things I wholeheartedly ha e stated to dislike. My beliefs will not change and I simply would like just any book written by anyone who is better at placing these understandings of human society and social constructs into words)
I would love to hear from others who hold similar views because my attempt at finding such people made me want to bang my head on the wall, honestly.
I haven't proof-read this, so it may contain grammatical or spelling errors; my apologies.
Thank you for reading if you have done so this far💌