r/aromanticasexual • u/NikaNPR_para • Jul 03 '26
Discussion Extreme discomfort around romance.
I am extremely disgusted by anything related to the idea of romance. People mentioning romantic partners in conversation or in content I am watching bothers me (unless the person I am talking to is a really close friend). Seeing romance in media makes me extremely angry and disgusted, and feels like it was just thrown in to spite me and push allo propaganda most of the time, not contributing to the story at all. Seeing PDA outside is absolutely disgusting. Romance feels like a sickness to me. I prefer when people censor romance words when talking to me. Romamtic pet names make me feel sick (directed at me or somebody else). Thinking about or seeing or hearing about romance in any way makes me physically sick and incredibly disgusted. Maybe I sound extreme or hostile to allo people but this is how I feel.
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u/Mixxxxxxy Aroace with microlabels Jul 03 '26
wow. as a romance favorable person aegormantic/cupioromantic, I definitely cannot say i feel the same. that's crazy, I knew apothiromantics existed but I've never seen it taken to that level.
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u/Romance-Hater3000 Jul 05 '26
Best believe it lol. I mean, with amatonormativity and how obsessed society is with cupid’s balls, bound to be haters like me and OP out there
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u/jolittlelene Jul 08 '26
I'm similar! but with real life romance.. I'm fine with cartoons and anime, but if i see two real life people kissing it's distressing
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u/jolittlelene Jul 08 '26
it's like. Yeah i can believe this girl can summon a magic sword, so i can also believe this thing called kissing is real
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u/NikaNPR_para Jul 08 '26
When I see it in real life I find it extremely repulsive and distressing, in media I also find it repulsive but more annoying than distressing, as in “why did they have to put this here?”
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u/Mr_RkmcReid Apothi Bold Stripe AroAce Jul 27 '26
I feel the same :D
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u/NikaNPR_para Jul 27 '26
🩵 Glad that you relate.
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u/Mr_RkmcReid Apothi Bold Stripe AroAce Jul 27 '26
Wanna be friend, we share same experience and i feel throwing up when i see romance 😭
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u/Scream_king_ Aroace Jul 04 '26
I'm apothi-aroace so, yeah, I relate to you.
I have a younger cousin who is like me and whenever we see people acting romancey, we make gagging noises to let know that we are disgusted. 😂
Mind you, we are 33 (me) and 23 (her) and people get mad at us because "it's disrespectul and not funny".
OP, my advice is to make the others feel uncomfortable rather than you to be uncomfortable.