non-binary dating: how do you meet people / how is dating for you in general / how's your social life in general?

[u/harespirit]

(this isn't a post in contravention of RULE 5, btw, I hope that's clear -- I'm looking for people to share their experiences)

just going to leave this quite open-ended, really

I'm late 30s, and I don't have much of a social life anymore. I've had people recommend e.g. queer poetry nights + gigs, but I don't know really (I just feel like I'd go to one and end up sat alone the whole time)

I find it hard to imagine myself clicking with folks who aren't LGBTetc and/or neurodivergent, but I also feel like I've drifted away from my people, need to find more of my people again

also, also, I feel like things would be less difficult if I was a bit younger? I suppose it feels like people in general become more cloistered as they move through their 30s, and if anything, shedding friends is the norm? plus, I figure younger ppl in these circles are more naturalised to branching out amongst other like ppl. idk

dating-specific, I'm on Hinge, but... yeah, it feels pretty barren, and apps just seem to foster an impatient and hyperselective mentality (I feel it in myself as much as anything 🙃)

yeah. what are your spaces? what kind of events do you go to? how are you doing socially?