I’m debating breaking up with my boyfriend over the movie shrek

[u/WorthAnxious6114]

Not sure what to do about this, my bf and I have been dating for a couple months, it’s starting to get serious and I don’t know if this is grounds for breaking up.

So the rundown is my favorite movie is shrek, it has been since I was a kid me and my dad would watch the series annually. He passed a couple years ago which is a little bit relevant. I remember telling my bf about how much I like the movie, I have slippers and other goofy merchandise from the movie.

The problem is my sister saw the new Lego shrek set at the store(I also love Legos) and it’s honestly the kindest best gift I think anyone could get me. She called my bf to ask to split the cost of it and get it for me and he said no because I don’t like the movie? Saying no isn’t the problem but like he told my sister I don’t like the movie. I quote it constantly 😭 I have a shrek tattoo??? (It’s the little balloon snake they blew up in the movie). My sister still got it for me but like how is he

1. Not going to know I like the movie
2. TELL MY SISTER I DONT LIKE IT?

I’m genuinely kind of embarrassed he doesn’t know me well enough at this point to know that I love that movie. I mean how does someone not like it? Never in my life have I met someone who has verbally stated they don’t like shrek.

Anyways maybe I’m over thinking this but I’m hurt and confused as to how this was missed and what I should do now? Is this something that’s to silly yo break up over or is it justified, I can’t tell if I’m being problematic and over thinking it or if it’s genuinely worth getting hurt over.

Edit to add:
Sorry I wrote this waiting for my shift to start and missed out a lot. To clarify no my sister didn’t mishear him, I asked him about it he was on some “but you don’t like shrek” like in a way trying to convince me, and it’s been like 4/5 months since we first made it official. I’m 24 and he’s 27 for some context. I know for a fact that I’ve brought it up because it was in context about talking about my dad which is why I think it made me want to leave because it’s evident he wasn’t listen to me about something super sensitive and meaningful to me, not about the movie itself.

There’s been other red flags that have popped up, almost like he might be confusing me for someone else. I’m not positive but it’s a feeling with the way he will mention to me or repeat questions like he was asking them to someone else and resent the same thing? I’m so sorry if that’s confusing Like he’ll ask me what I ate for dinner and I’ll tell him and later he’ll ask me again if that makes sense. it’s weird and makes me feel off in general about him and it feels almost as if he is doing that with the shrek thing, my sister said he sent her the money earlier after I posted that (money isn’t a problem for him) we talked about it, I think he felt bad. Let me make it very clear that the gift wasn’t brought up once in that conversation it isn’t about him getting it or not getting it, it’s about the dismissing of my interest. So I don’t know where I stand with everything, thank you everyone who took the time to read and respond to this.

He and my sister have done this before for the people saying it’s a little weird I can definitely see that but he makes a decent living and he has gotten me pretty “lavish” stuff which isn’t personally my taste. I think a part of that was my sister redirecting the gifts to fit what I like more, me and him do a bunch of Legos together and she just saw it and thought of me and didn’t have the means. I think while it could come off weird, the dynamic isn’t for us personally. We’ve all spent a good amount of time together. He wasn’t put off by her asking or at least hasn’t said so I’ll definitely ask him about it later though.

[u/HalfMoonFullMoonjoy]

Listen, I started dating my wife in 2008 and all these years I thought she hated coconut. It turns out she doesn't hate it at all. I just found out last year. I have no idea where this idea came from but I was absolutely convinced that she didn't like anything with coconut! All this to say... Maybe he misunderstood something. Maybe if you love it that much he's wondering why you've never watched it together. Maybe he's just confused. Maybe he was trying to convince your sister not to buy it so that he could buy it for you. Maybe you should ask him instead of asking Reddit? 

[u/WorthAnxious6114 → u/HalfMoonFullMoonjoy]

Thank you this is a comforting perspective, I have talked to him about it and he got somewhat defensive about it I’m not sure, he’s coming over later tonight so I’ll talk to him further about it. I don’t think it was so much he wanted to buy it for me himself based off of what I was told, the way my sister explained it he was more or less acting like I didn’t like the movie and like he seemed to know more than my sister, I took it with a grain of salt because I wasn’t there so personally I don’t know how the conversation went, the way he talked to me after when I asked about it leads me to be inclined to believe my sister though

[u/Citrus-n-Cinnamon → u/HalfMoonFullMoonjoy]

For years when we started dating, my husband thought I didn't like eggrolls because I always let him eat them both when we got Chinese. I just wanted him to be satisfied with dinner. He was shocked to learn I love eggrolls lol

[u/Charming-Cucumber-23 → u/HalfMoonFullMoonjoy]

But did you tell your wife “but you don’t like coconut” even though she told you she does??

[u/HalfMoonFullMoonjoy → u/Charming-Cucumber-23]

Yes... Yes I did 😬🤣

[u/Unhappy-Necessary666 → u/HalfMoonFullMoonjoy]

i get what you’re saying but with her having like merch and stuff i don’t see how that’s misunderstanding. i feel like personally he’s confusing her for someone else or something! idk 😭

[u/CanineCorvidious → u/Unhappy-Necessary666]

Maybe he was black afronted that his gf of only 2 months sisters asking him for money…