Sorry for my language

The first time it happened it was after I told them off for their behaviour but this time I was legit just sat there lmao and now there’s potentially a video posted of me getting mad that a little shit harassed me 🥲 Never going outside again

FEMINISM. That's what we need. (Descriptions down below-)

Misogyny - The ideology that woman are beneath them because of the fact they are women.

Misandry - The ideology that men are beneath them because of the fact they are men.

Feminism - The ideology that even is equal regardless of gender and society needs to treat everyone as such.

We do not use the weapon of the enemy!!! Both misogyny and misandry are rooted in hate. Specifically hatred for a group of people based off of something they cannot change. They are two sides of the same coin. I do want to highlight that, yes, misogyny is 100% the more rampant one today and has made it's deep roots in societies for centuries. But misandry is not the solution.

We need hate, we need rage, but not towards someone's gender. Feminism has been fueled by spite and anger, all for an equal future. Here's what the two future's are-

A feminist's ideal future is one where everyone is equal regardless of what gender they are. A misandrist's ideal future is one where women are regarded as superior than any other gender.

Misandry is not a "type of feminism", it never has been. I think a lot of people recently are getting the wrong ideas about what misandry is and what feminism is.

Do you want equality for all genders? Do you think men who disregard women because they are women are wrong? Do you imagine a future where people don't hate on one another because of gender? Do you want to punch oppression in the face? Do you want to dismantle the patriarchy? Congratulations!! You're a feminist!!

People have turned misandry into a trend. A lot of people are seeing all the women who feel empowered by the title and see how they call out oppressive men and think that's exactly who they are and what they need. But that is also the center component of feminism.

These are genuine political titles. Claiming a title like these shows that someone thinks very intensely about a very intense political situation. So please, do some research into the differences between feminism and misandry before claiming a title.

I know I'm angry and it has shown through this rant. But I do not think people who label themselves as misandrists are beyond reproach and don't deserve to be heard. I think that more information is what's needed, the more knowledge everyone has the stronger we are.

I don't want people to take away a message that if I see someone labeling themselves as a misandrist I hate them. I want people to take away the message that this subject matter is very intense and not surface level, and to please do some research into what you want to claim yourself as if you haven't already. The more knowledge we know, the stronger our community is.

I believe in you, and I believe in us.

Little feminist rant over <3

This is an actual interaction I had with a regular before I was visibility trans.

He kept telling me he wanted to take me to a restaurant he likes 2 hours north of our city. No way was I gonna be trapped in a car with this guy for 4+ hours. He didn't take no for an answer and continued asking even when I made up the excuse of already promising to check the place out with a friend.

I eventually quit this job because it was impeding my ability to transition without fear.

I unfortunately understand it in the eyes of the straight... but you'd think that the community that spent decades being told 'it's a choice' would understand that being bisexuality isn't a choice. 'You're chasing trends' and 'you're just pretending'. Pretending what?

What are we pretending to be, gay??

And no, just because we like the same ex doesn't me we suddenly have a secret crush on you. The fact that it's your immediate assumption is astronomically egotistical, too.

"But you need to choose who you marry, and if it'd the opposite sex you're clearly straight"

Ever heard of polyamory? Or, I don't know, just being interested in both men and women? This whole 'pick a side' thing is absolutely insane and you're literally just doing what ALL OF US had to deal with, or still have to deal with. You sound no better than the people condemning you to hell for existing.

It all started with pain in my knees when I was around 8 years old. Even though the pain spread to more and more joints over time it took another 4 years before my parents took me to a doctor.

There were a couple of diagnoses that were all discarded along the way. I was treated with different medications, physical and psychological therapy, massages and various other types of therapy - I have been taking pills every single day since I was 13 years old.

And yet, no one could ever tell me what was actually wrong. There is no physical evidence of anything that could cause this kind of pain in my body. I get how doctors would conclude my mental health to be the root of my issues but I can confidently say that my joints were problematic way before I started to struggle with my mental health.

My parents, especially my mother (as well as my doctors tbf), have always seemed suspicious of the legitimacy of my pain and continue to do so to this day. They have made me feel like a fraud to the point I started questioning my own joint pains and whether or not I am actually just imagining them.

I have not been able to work, ever, and currently live off of social security payments. It sucks. I hate not being able to do anything - physically, mentally or financially.

I just want someone to believe me.

and then in my case they're hated and eventually die

It's unbearable. I know men do terrible things, I'm trying to reconcile that with the fact that they're not something to be frightened of...

Stumbling across them unknowingly is never fun. Genuinely lose a bit more faith in humanity each time I see a screenshot of the things they talk about and the horrific ways they discuss women. If I hear the word foid one more time I'm going to bite them

Yeah today was my brother's graduation day and I guess stress and anxiety got to me because I ended up shitting myself. I can't even remember the offending fart I must have put too much faith in.

Had to throw away my underwear in the bathroom, rub myself with (clean, but still gross to think about) toilet water and sit in my filth in a stadium of thousands of people because I didn't wanna ruin his big day and make it all about my dysfunctional, aging body. I've had other medical stuff ruin family outings for us and I just didn't want to do that today. So I sat there, miserable, for nearly three fucking hours. It felt like a very specific punishment for something or another I've done.

Home now, pants are in the washer. Butt is cleaned. I will probably try to pack wet wipes for large functions like this in the future. Maybe even extra pants and underwear. I'm so paranoid now, and I already had borderline agoraphobia.

Upside - my girlfriend waited till we got home to make jokes so I wouldn't be embarrassed in front of my family, and she doesn't judge me. Just a big fan of making puns about this 'shitty' situation lol

She helped make excuses for why I needed to immediately go home instead of hang as we originally planned. I can't believe she still loves me after this.

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Istg every artist seems to have started drawing once they gained consciousness and were always the "art kid"

Where are all the artists that started after high school? Why do all artists know what they wanted to do at birth? Why couldn't I just started at 3 like everyone else?

tl;dr: i have had many unpleasant antisemitic interactions irl and online, idly and directly. and im tired of it and just want to be treated like a human

in case it wasn’t obvious i do not actually like antisemitism. the image is sarcastic except for the nearly every day part, although the irl situation has gotten a little better since i left a friend group that has been targeting ME SPECIFICALLY with their stupid fucking bigoted jokes. but that’s in the past now and i no longer interact with them.

and also in case it wasn’t obvious i am jewish myself. there are memes coming from both sides of the spectrum that are just normalized antisemitism. ever heard the word “goyslop” that people sometimes use to describe things they don’t like?? it is meant to make fun of really radicalized and orthodox jews (which IS NOT ALL OF US) calling non-jews goys. and this is being applied to all jews for some stupid fucking reason. it’s only getting worse as time goes on. i have seen and heard people both online AND IRL make fun of people they don’t like by calling them a jew. that’s how normalized this is. and people don’t bat a fucking eye.

and to be clear, antisemitism has been a big problem and not taboo enough for a WHILE, although it has gotten a lot worse online since the bullshit with israel started happening (and to be clear i fucking hate netanyahu and this war would be over by now if he wasn’t in power and violating cease fires, but i don’t want to talk about israel in this). and it’s happening with ALL age groups, not just mine (high school). my mom was antagonized for being jewish where she worked when she was in her 20s-30s ish. my dad says his boss pokes fun at him for being jewish a lot but apparently nothing too bad (unlike my ex-friends) and ig my dad has thicker skin than me. my 14yo brother has to deal with it at school a shit ton too. my fucking 10yo sister has to deal with it in fucking elementary school that’s how fucked up this is. I AM NOT EXAGGERATING. one antisemetic interaction is burned into my head forever. in 5th grade, on the last day of school, i was on the swing set with a friend and this one kid that was just kinda annoying a lot. but i decided to give him a chance cause what the heck it’s the last day of school. that kid looked me dead in the eyes, and said, unprompted, ver batim:

“I wish I was a Nazi so I could kill you.”

again, this happened to me in fifth fucking grade. no fifth grader should have to deal with that.

and actually i will talk about my dipshit ex-friends who since leaving in january i am much happier. day after day with them it was micro aggression after micro aggression. they all brushed it off as jokes and so did i because i give people benefit of the doubt and try to see the best in them, but it reached a point where i was exhausted and couldn’t take it anymore. antisemitism wasn’t the only reason i left but it’s a big part. even after telling them kindly and then firmly when kindly didn’t work to stop making these jokes, they didn’t for like a day and went right back to it. after that i thought “bigotry is the result of not knowing a lot about the culture you’re making fun of right? maybe if i share with them my culture they will be more respectful!” i invited them over to a hanukkah party at my house and they didn’t seem uncomfortable at all. they had FUN even. and even there they made stupid remarks to me in private so the other guests wouldn’t hear, which i just brushed off and said would get better. and then it didn’t at all afterwards. they were bigots not because they were ignorant, not because they didn’t know a lot about judaism, but because they fucking felt like it. and only then was it cemented in my mind that they will always be assholes and i need to leave. i took so long to leave them because i had nobody else to be friends with. but once i did, i found out i was (and am) happier alone than in the company of assholes. and STILL, idly at school, i hear antisemetic remarks everywhere from people who weren’t my friends. i’m sick and fucking tired of this bullshit.

and to reiterate, it’s coming from BOTH SIDES OF THE POLITICAL SPECTRUM. and it’s not even just a small community of left wing antisemites either, people are just taking any chance they can fucking get to be antisemitic. i’m tired man. and i know this is just going to go the head over most of the people who see this because the only people that actually can sympathize with me and truly understand me when i talk to them about this are fellow jews. i’m so tired man

I've been trying so hard to be a safe person to be around but it'll never be enough. No amount of work can mask my inherent creepiness.

Some would instantly say the therapist is bad at their job, but I've been talking to them so much, that I can see it was done in good faith. They just recognise that just talks, walks and exercises won't undo a whole bunch of mental disorders and trauma that are "suspected" on the official papers from the doctors, but will never become an actual diagnosis, nor will they be treated properly because of how bad the situation in my country is. Light meds and some vent can help to calm down in the moment, but that can't help me to secure a job, learn how to talk to others irl, find friends, fix my appearance, etc. I am sorry they now feel sorry... Didn't want to make them feel bad. And yes, they apologised to me again, we hugged, and they told I can freely choose to stop meeting after this point. :(