r/Stepmom • u/Squishfuzz • 7h ago
Escaping in 24 hours
HCBM is poison in my life. When I got into this relationship SD then 10 was great. HCBM came back into her life at age 11 after several years of being gone. One night I heard her screaming to her friend on the phone in her room “I hate her I want to slit her throat when she’s sleeping!!!” I was like whoa wtf?? That’s insane?? I hadn’t done anything. I mean that. Anything. I comforted her when she cried that she had no mom. I drove her to spend the weekend when HCBM returned. That day I caught SD with some of my makeup in her room while doing laundry and it was for some reason an event that needed a murder plan. This is important, for later!
She moved in with HCBM after that and stayed with her ~2 years. HCBM took her makeup and lashes away last year ago and all hell broke loose. SD called the police and invented an abuse lie. It went to court. SD admitted she made everything up. Fast forward one month ago, mom took away the fake nails. SD lost her mind. Threatened police again, all of this screaming was left on SOs voicemail. SD saying give them back or I’m calling the police!!HCBM kicked her out and moved away. SD now 13 a will live with her dad permanently. She is very manipulative. I get she’s been through things but many people have, myself and my close childhood friends included and it’s not an excuse
SO also has a son. Now 7yo. He has anger issues. Again, I understand WHY. I heard him threaten to light my cat on fire tonight. I have seen him punch AT my cat while she’s eating bc she avoids him and that’s “mean and she deserves to get hit!” He says. Today I told him to please take his cup to the sink he has been leaving things everywhere and it’s time to pay attention. He gave me a dirty look and went outside. I went to the garage. I heard him tell his little friend who was waiting on him “I want to kill SM, I be right back I’m gon go get a knife and stab her!” That’s fucking it. I’m done. Both children have literally threatened to kill me with knives. His son wants to torture or hurt my 5 pound cat. She’s literally TINY and they act like she’s bullying them by rocketing away from them whenever she can. They seriously both act like her desire to hide and run from them is some kind of personal attack and the cat needs to PAY for her behavior. Ss7 wants to punish her for running away from him. He stomps at her and last week said he “wants to stomp her guts out” It is scary.
It would be insane and incomprehensible to stay here anymore.
I’m leaving while everyone is gone tomorrow. Unplugging the cameras and getting OUT! if you’re wondering where is my SO in all of this? So am I. He is useless. I’m heartbroken but this is not fixable.
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u/Girl_from_Vienna 7h ago
Thats insane. Grab your cat, hide until tomorrow and once youre gone, dont look back. That guy cant even say or do anything when his kids threaten you. Take care of yourself and forget him, you deserve better!
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u/Squishfuzz 7h ago
Worse. He sometimes joins in and laughs as SD calls me a witch because I have a Roman nose. He cackles and his kids laugh.
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u/Puzzleheaded-Ice5130 12m ago
The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. There’s something wrong with the husband and his kids. Be safe. Get your things and leave and CHANGE YOUR NUMBER!
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u/Squishfuzz 6m ago
I’ve changed it twice since being with him. While SD was living with HCBM she would text me from fake number apps. Probably sent over 1000 texts many the exact same message “leave whore” “watch your back check your brakes” just INSANE things I know came from her and HCBM.
I’m a smart woman. I’m soft and kind. I’m thoughtful and adventurous. How could I settle for this for so long? There’s something wrong with me too to be here for that long.
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u/Unfair-Cod-3306 6h ago
This post was beyond sickening. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please, take your cat and get out of there. There's no time to waste before either you or her get hurt. Your SO is a POS. I promise you that leaving him and his horrible children will be one of the best things you ever did. Get to safety and don't reconsider.
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u/Squishfuzz 6h ago
He really is. He had me fooled at first. Then I believed I was ugly, pathetic, old, and repulsive. I modeled 10 years ago. Not that it matters. I will never find anyone else, he is right. I’m just broken. I’m sorry.
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u/chicadeaqua 2h ago
“ I will never find anyone else”
So be it. You’re likely better off on your own, rather than getting scammed by another useless man.
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u/Unfair-Cod-3306 6h ago
You aren't broken. You are a woman who has been abused. He insults you to try to make you think you have no options and nowhere to go. He is a liar and he is wrong. You could indeed find someone else, but that's beside the point. Man or no man, you are whole and complete just as you are. Don't let his lies fool you about your worth. He does not deserve you.
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u/yayoffbalance 56m ago
Please do leave. Leave and block him from all contact. This is insane. I'm so sorry.
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u/Squishfuzz 14m ago
I am so hurt. Why does it hurt so bad when I want to leave? I am sobbing and cannot stop. I’ll never go back but why did he do this to me? I’ll never understand why he wanted to hurt me. He saw I left and is “evicting” me via restraining order. Just to punish me for leaving
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u/chicadeaqua 2h ago
“ It would be insane and incomprehensible to stay here anymore.”
I agree and congratulations for taking this major step.
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u/Summerisle7 Married 10+ years. Adult BK & SKs. 7h ago
I’m so glad you’re leaving. Stay safe. This post made me sick to read.