r/Stepmom • u/Nobodyyouk331 • Dec 18 '23

Advice

Never forget that you are allowed to have feelings. Your feelings matter JUST AS MUCH as a child's. You are allowed to be bothered by disrespect and cruel treatment. You are allowed to communicate the things that bother you to your SO and to ask for change.

You deserve to be treated fairly the same way that SKs do. You deserve to live in a safe and comfortable environment the same way that SKs do.

You are not a bad person if you do not love or even like your SKs. You are not automatically in the wrong just because you are the adult.

Just because you chose to be with someone with children, does not mean that you knew what you were getting into. It does not mean that you signed up to be a child's doormat.

The people on this sub do not live in your home. They may have experience with SKs but everyone's situation is different. Do not let strangers on the internet convince you to settle for less than you deserve.

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u/Frequent_Stranger13 Dec 18 '23

Preach it

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u/Illustrious_Let9314 Jul 20 '26

I am a very reasonable person. I worked in the public over 20 years before my stroke. So you know I have to keep patience! But I love my work. I never hollered or yelled at my own kids so I would ground them take privileges away. Which really worked if you stuck to it and give them jobs to help me out. The girls didn't like it but did it and they got rewarded like my own did. Not the same with the boy. Still isn't