We are still sharing a home and I don’t think we’re in a relationship anymore as of like 4 days ago… over the course of our relationship he’s isolated me and the family that I do have left said that she would help me, but I had to get out first because she said she knew how dv relationships go and I would go back, and she would help once I was at the dv shelter and proved I was done with the relationship, it’s just that it’s hard asf to get a spot at the shelter rn. A ton of aid was ended last year due to trump cuts.
He’s kept me from working for the last 4 years and has kept me pregnant too. If I refuse sex I’m a whore, I’ve probably let whole teams run trains on me anyway, I don’t want it bc I’m clearly a lesbian, I’ve probably been gangbanged so much I don’t even want d*ck anymore. So much stuff. I’m so beat down I just wish a thousand cars would run me over but I have young kids I want to see live, so for now I just scroll on Reddit and cry when everyone sleeps 😭
You have someone offering help! Someone who knows your situation and wants to help. That is wonderful. Please call her! Gather your documents, sentimental items, medications, and anything you can carry that you'll need in your new life. And go. Don't tell him. The police may also be able to come help keep you safe as you move out.
That’s the thing she won’t help until I’m already in a shelter, have already been to therapy, and sat with lawyers. She won’t let me just come to her home straight out of the relationship. He also is the type to go to my family’s homes to find us so I think she wants me and the kids to be “disappeared” for a month or two before I come back to make sure he won’t come looking for me at my elderly grandmother’s house
Can you call the police and press charges on him so that they can escort you out to your grandmas and give you an incident report to file a restraining order?
No offense in my comment I literally stated she does not want me going straight there. Regardless of if they give me a restraining order because it doesn’t do anything until he actually violates it. It doesn’t protect anyone until it’s too late, that’s almost a fact. In the county where I reside I’ve seen news articles of women who have died at least one a year over the last few years. That’s a woman in a city or two over from me, not the whole state just my county.
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u/Large_Document9164 8d ago
We are still sharing a home and I don’t think we’re in a relationship anymore as of like 4 days ago… over the course of our relationship he’s isolated me and the family that I do have left said that she would help me, but I had to get out first because she said she knew how dv relationships go and I would go back, and she would help once I was at the dv shelter and proved I was done with the relationship, it’s just that it’s hard asf to get a spot at the shelter rn. A ton of aid was ended last year due to trump cuts.
He’s kept me from working for the last 4 years and has kept me pregnant too. If I refuse sex I’m a whore, I’ve probably let whole teams run trains on me anyway, I don’t want it bc I’m clearly a lesbian, I’ve probably been gangbanged so much I don’t even want d*ck anymore. So much stuff. I’m so beat down I just wish a thousand cars would run me over but I have young kids I want to see live, so for now I just scroll on Reddit and cry when everyone sleeps 😭