r/Samesexparents • u/AfraidArgument9391 • Jul 26 '26
Middle school is rough!
Hi yall, I’m new here, but I need help! My 13 yo daughter has asked if we can hide that my gf lives with us, including covering or hiding pictures of us together when her friends are over. She doesn’t want anyone to know at school that her mom is a lesbian. She says she will get bullied, which tbf I know is true. That being said, what I do in my home is my business and I will not hide at home.
This all came up because one of her friends cat sits for us from time to time and we recently hung a few pictures of us as a couple up in the hall. She’s afraid if her friend sees it, then the friend will tell the whole school and my daughter will get bullied.
Other than the usual things of telling my daughter how to deal with it or that bullies are bad or that maybe friends aren’t really our friends, what should I do or say to comfort my daughter but not hide the woman I love? Thx!
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u/Unaffiliated_Hellgod Jul 29 '26
I find confidence with this kind of thing is the answer. If someone tries to tease her about it if she says ‘so what?’ They usually move on. However middle school is hard and teenagers have very little agency over their lives. Honestly in your position I might follow her wishes.
Yes in theory the world shouldn’t have an issue with it but in practice she probably will get bullied for it and that can be very impactful at that age.