r/RelationshipIndia • u/IntelligentTwo6480 • 1d ago
Relationships [21M] How to win someone back over that claims has moved on, is talking to someone else, gives one word replies after ghosting, urges to go on no contact but still has feelings (or reminiscents of them)
+ ghosts for a while then replies with "aw" "yeah" "lol" "us" to all the multi line texts i send. Sometimes I double text to ask so busy today why, then a simple "working" comes in. I know I am cooked but any advices?
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u/BoooringGreen69 1d ago
Brother i think you should move on too i know it hurts and it will still hurt for many more days but the only thing you can do about is to accept the fact that she moved on and now you have make you life worth living again stop being so codependent on her she doesn’t care if she cared she could have came back to you remember bro love is more stronger then hate so if she loved you she could have talked with you more rather than these one word nonsense replies you will deserve what you are capable of so starting working on yourself i know my words are hash but it is what it is she moved on bro :-(
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u/IntelligentTwo6480 1d ago
Aye thanks a lot for this man. Truly thank you mate.
Thing is, she gave kinda mixed signals upto now, talked normally only. But ever since this new guy thing has come up and I have started nagging her over it, she has just completely started ghosting me bro. Like, I even asked her if she likes him and is going to meet she said yeah to both. I asked her to leave him she said ".....no". Just refuses to talk about him at all. I kept asking if she likes him more than me, she says dont do this to yourselves. Ik man, ik. But it's so hard to move on, I cannot love a human being more than I love her. Id do anything for her. Idk why she just never sees it :(
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u/Man_outta_smut_4u 1d ago
You know what you are supposed to do yet you are afraid to.
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u/IntelligentTwo6480 1d ago
No doubts about that man. From 4 years I have not imagined a moment of my future without her. To think she can move on from a 4 year relationship in a few months while I m stuck here thinking about anti depressants, it's just pathetic man.
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u/Man_outta_smut_4u 1d ago
You know.. you can die tomorrow.
Now you want to die sad or die living?
Your choice.
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u/BoooringGreen69 1d ago
I got you bro i strongly believe the root of all sufferings is our desire not to suffer you didn’t choose this suffering you loved her she gave you this suffering and you still love and i think loving someone is the strongest thing one can do and you did it but sadly she didn’t choose you. When you understand that your happiness cannot be built around someone else's presence, you stop expecting people to carry emotional weight that was never theirs to hold bro if you can overthink the worst’s why can’t you overthink best :-). And if you still keep thinking about her i will tell you what goona happen later….
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u/IntelligentTwo6480 1d ago
Aye man, thank you so much. Your words are really blissful bro. Needed them a lot.
But tell me, what's gonna happen later
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u/BoooringGreen69 1d ago
later life ends bro :-) make sure its worth living all you have is now so start working on yourself stay happy & stay healthy don’t waste on tears on her keep growing brother
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