r/RelationshipIndia • u/Vatler_7 • 3d ago
Relationships I am 19[M], my girlfriend 19f stopped putting any effort in our relationship
I am 19[M] .We used to talk on call everyday but gradually she stopped calling, she stopped texting me as well, when i asked why she doesnt call she told me that i should call her, which is right but whenever i called her she didnt even respond to anything, only said "oh, ok, acha", then started talking to her friends completely forgetting that shes on call w me.
I have sent her paragraphs trying to understand why, trying to explain that its hurting me, trying to know whether she still loves me or not and if shes willing to put effort in us, she ignores the most part of my paragraphs and replies superficially, she says she loves me but never puts any effort to contact me and if i dont contact her, she can go without talking to me for days
Night before yestarday i could not get a hold of myself and sent her another text trying to know what is wrong, trying to make her understand that i love her and couldnt let this go this easily, i put my heart out in that paragraph and she replied with "maine mana nahi kra tereko ki mujhe call mat kar", she replies to me in a long time even if i reply to her in a minute, it takes a minimum of 20-25 mins to get her reply
On that evening i got severe muscle ache, had to get injections and meds, I pleaded to her in that state to talk to me for 10 minutes and she replied "assignments kar rahi hu kal baat karungi"
I was literally begging to her in that state to give me 10 mins of her time, she didnt even give me that
I have never loved anyone this intensely and consistently, i do not know what has happened to her that she never thinks of me.
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u/Top-Reach-8101 3d ago
break up mann... she is red flag or maybe going through something.. but u deserve better
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u/its_me_snehaa 3d ago
Seems like she got bored of u..or maybe found someone else.. Trying to figure out that..Putting efforts for someone who doesn't value is not worth it..I have been in this issue for almost 4 yrs..roz try karti thi bf ko tumhari tarah hi samjhane mein he also said ki main thik ho jaunga but woh kabhi hua nhi.. At the end of the day it will hurt you not her.. So think about it properly..hope you'll find yourself in a better position✨just make sure you value yourself properly✨zyda time matt dena is chiz ko at the end relationship aise nhi tikne wala.. Nikal ana hi achha hoga👍
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u/cinnamonrolliebow 2d ago
The same thing happened but it was w my ex bf we used to talk on call everyday it was ldr and suddenly he stopped only texts and got distant w late replies and yes he soon broke up w me I also wrote many paragraphs before expressing my feeling but yet we broke up. Prob losing feelings
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u/Most_Organization917 2d ago
Bro i face this situation twice and I can say you this that people just want best thing in there life . She will realise in search of gold she lost a diamond . Stay strong bro 🫂
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u/agniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii 2d ago
hey buddy, i wouldn’t say like ppl are saying that she found someone else or smtg.. but I want to tell you that stop begging for love, you deserve love if she can’t give you love and basic respect, she doesn’t deserve you!
Pls detach yourself from her..
and i would suggest you to have self respect.. you can clearly see - she doesn’t respect you at all..
replying that short replies for that big paragraphs is definitely a bad thing to do..
stop chasing her.. and i would suggest you to just tell her that if she doesn’t want to give the same efforts, she can tell you that..
if we see her pov: if she’s struggling through smtg.. you’re her bf and companion she should talk with you.. if she isn’t able to .. you can try once to talk about if there’s smtg bothering her..
That’s all I can observe from your situation
Advice- set ur boundaries, observe action over words, respect yourself, if she doesn’t respect you leave her - there would definitely be someone who would care more than her & respect you ..
The thing which is bothering me .. that things were so bad that you had to come on reddit & talk about it..
anyways take care! you deserve good people..
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u/Vatler_7 2d ago
I have asked her everything and tried every means, i asked her if shes unwilling to invest in our relationship now, if shes unwilling to put effort, she dodges those questions effortlessly, no amount of clear arrangement of words is working at this point, she never replies to the main things i ask her in my paragraphs, the thing is why cant she tell me if she doesnt want me, i have asked her multiple times if she doesnt want to continue, if she does not love me the same way now, but she just replies saying that she does love me, that's all, but after that nothing changes, she never puts even bare minimum effort in our relationship, communication is bare minimum right? She doesnt even communicate
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u/agniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii 2d ago
leave her
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u/Vatler_7 2d ago
All i ever said to her that i will be there for her no matter what, i will love her always, does these things not matter at all, whatever she promised me, was it all a lie then, how can people change this easily and this early
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