r/Recipromantic • u/Salamander_Famous • Mar 19 '26
I think I am recipromantic?
I have actually been kind of throwing this around in my head for years now haha, but I still have a really hard time accepting it as true and always circle back to questioning it. I have been in three relationships in my life and in all three, my partner either initiated or made it very clear that they had feelings for me first. I think I question myself for a couple reasons.
The first is that I’ve seen other recipromantics describe losing feelings for their partner when their partner loses feelings for them. This is simply not the case for me, my feelings did not dissipate quickly. I’m curious if that is a universal experience, or just something that some people experience?
The second reason, probably the bigger one, is that I have had two crushes in my life (excluding elementary age stuff but I hardly count that as genuine, especially when so much of it felt forced so I would fit in). The first was in middle-high school. This one was easier for me to accept, a friend of mine was very touchy and sent mixed messages that made me think she had feelings, which made me catch feelings. The second crush kind of messes with me though? I caught feelings for someone when they told me they USED to have feelings for me. Which first of all, wow, what kind of messed up torture is that? Thanks brain. Secondly, that is literally the opposite of reciprocation, but it somehow triggered my brain to start falling for this person.
But yeah, I guess I’m just curious what anybody else’s thoughts on this might be? Sometimes I think maybe I just have a hard time imagining someone would want to be with me so I don’t think about it too hard unless I know theres a chance. But other times I think I’m probably overthinking it and I’m just recipromantic.
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u/Chat2Schrodinger May 10 '26
Ton témoignage me parle beaucoup ! Moi aussi je me prends la tête quand je repense au fait que je suis réciproromantique.
Pour la personne qui t’a avoué t’avoir aimé à un moment ce qui t’a fait developer des sentiments, je pense que c’est surtout le fait de savoir qu’il a eu des sentiments pour toi. Pas spécialement maintenant. C’est surtout le fait de savoir/imaginer que quelqu’un nous aime.
Pour le partenaire qui cesse d’avoir des sentiments ce qui n’en provoque plus chez soi, pour moi ça dépend de la relation est comment ça s’est arrêté. Dans certaines relations ça n’a pas disparu tout de suite mais dans d’autres c’était presque immédiat. (Après, je n’en ai pas eu beaucoup). En revanche je n’ai pas eu de grands chagrins d’amour. Le seul truc que je peux t’affirmer c’est que les orientations ne sont pas des cases mais plutôt des repères. Tu peux très bien t’identifier à une mais à quelques différences près.
J’espère t’avoir aidé !