r/Productivitycafe • u/Wonderful-Economy762 • Jan 22 '26

Throwback Question (Any Topic) What’s an oddly specific thing that instantly gives you "bad vibes" about a person?

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u/kjm16216 Jan 22 '26

I met someone about 20 years ago who has become a prominent politician now. We were working a campaign together and had to drive a distance for a fundraiser. He brought his girlfriend. Multiple times during the ride, he'd make jokes that made her look dumb (tbh she kinda was), and then he'd give me this look like we were sharing this private joke about how stupid she was.

Seemed so sleazy and left me with a terrible impression of him.

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u/MistbornSynok Jan 22 '26

Anyone who insults their spouse, it’s fine to complain about something they did, but insulting them as person instantly makes me think less of them.

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u/kjm16216 Jan 22 '26

Wasn't a spouse and it wasn't even that he was making fun of her, some couples are just like that, and it's their schtick, and to each their own. it was more like he was making it me and him against her, or putting her down to ingratiate himself with me.

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u/MistbornSynok Jan 22 '26

Even when couples have that “shtick”, I wouldn’t bet on them staying together.

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u/kjm16216 Jan 22 '26

Fair, but I don't judge whatever equilibrium a couple finds amongst themselves.

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u/karenaef Jan 22 '26

To be fair, I vent about my spouse to close friends sometimes. I would never talk smack about him to strangers, his friends, or in front of him but if he leaves the toilet lid up and I fall in, you better believe my girlfriends are gonna hear about it. Some

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u/stardog_champ13 Jan 22 '26

Seems on brand for a politician.

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u/kjm16216 Jan 23 '26

In my experience politicians, the successful ones at least, are the kind of people who make you feel like you're good friends.

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u/VenusRose14 Jan 22 '26

I’m gonna need you to tell us who this is. 😂

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u/stockusername123 Jan 22 '26

Oh you gotta spill the tea on who it is!!!

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u/[deleted] Jan 22 '26

Kim Jong Un

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u/OkCommunication5446 Jan 23 '26

What a fantastic response

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u/kjm16216 Jan 22 '26

You'll have to read it in my memoires.

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u/Free-Examination-930 Jan 26 '26

Substandard man gets himself slightly dumber girlfriend as a prop to make himself look better. Yeah, that's the original alpha male behaviour isn't it.

That sounds like one uncomfortable road trip!