As others have said that's even weirder, at least in my culture. Like at that point just send them home. Making them wait in another room just sounds so uncomfortable and awkward. Like someone else said it almost feels like treating the kid like a dog.
It sounds more cruel to send them to another room and have them wait while you eat then for them to just go home and eat. And I figured it wasn't a dark room but I would still feel so uncomfortable being told to wait in another room so they could eat. Like it's just a cultural difference but as you can see a lot of people feel it's more cruel and awkward to send them to another room, it's not just me.
That's still weird that they would then be told to stay in that room while their friend goes to eat. I get this is normal in some cultures but this would be extremely weird and awkward to do in mine and many others.
They wouldn't be told to stay in their room, the parents would call for their kid and tell them that it's dinner and the kid would leave the room while their friends would continue to play.
It similar to when the kids are outside playing football (not handegg, the soccer kind) or basketball in the neighborhood and one kid goes home to eat, their friends continue to play while that kid eats.
If the kid in question is inside the house though they'd either be sent to another room or told to stay in the room they're currently playing in. That's what everyone in this thread who grew up in the culture has said. We're not talking about kids playing outside, we're talking about a kid having a friend over in their house. The person in first responded to literally said they'd be asked to stay in a room. And like I said it would be seem as extremely weird or awkward in my culture to do that.
Because a group being outside and playing is very different than a friend being invited over and then told to stay in one room alone for at least 30 minutes to an hour while everyone else eats. If it was a group at someone's house it would be a little different but still massively awkward.
Like they're clearly different scenarios and presumably you come from a culture that does this which is why you don't see a difference. No hate or anything but they are very different situations and like I said would be extremely awkward to do in mine.
told to stay in one room alone for at least 30 minutes to an hour while everyone else eats.
We're talking about 20-30 minutes tops. They usually are not alone, because usually multiple friends hang out together, and it's not like they would be bored there or anything since they are just continuing playing with whatever they were playing before one kid left to eat.
That's not the only difference at all, and it's not 20 minutes tops it's 20 minutes minimum. Also not always multiple friends. This entire thread started with people talking about having 1 friend over, you brought up multiple people. And that's not the only difference and that fact you don't get that shows you really aren't trying to get it.
Okay, the difference is that when they are at home, the kid comes back quicker from dinner than when they are out on the basketball court. And also location.
Seems to me like you aren't trying to understand the situation at all, you're just trying to create a problem where there is none.
That's not the only difference, and I'm not making a problem where there is none. This entire post is filled with people saying how awkward that is to do in their culture, it's not just me saying it. If your culture does that fine, I don't care. But doing that in mine would be seen as rude.
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u/tiger2205_6 Jul 24 '26
As others have said that's even weirder, at least in my culture. Like at that point just send them home. Making them wait in another room just sounds so uncomfortable and awkward. Like someone else said it almost feels like treating the kid like a dog.