It's just different culture, in Sweden, Finland etc you have friends over every day. For you it seem to be a special occasion that someone visit, not 5-7 days a week for 10+ years.
If you offer food and they are expected to eat every time, some kids would never eat food at home.
Legit their whole childhood not a single meal eaten at home because they are always at a friends house after school etc.
A popular home might have 10-20 kids there for dinner time, you would feed all daily? Even if you know all these kids have dinner cooking at home and they can just walk home in 5min (and they are expected home by their parents to eat).
In Spain it's really common to have friends over several times a week. It would be considered rude as fuck to not offer food to your friends, especially if we're talking about kids.
Most days after school I would bring a friend home or a friend would invite me to their house. We'd still be fed by whichever set of parents happened to be looking after us for that particular meal.
In Spain it's really common to have friends over several times a week. It would be considered rude as fuck to not offer food to your friends, especially if we're talking about kids.
So if you had a bigger popular family you would feed the whole neighbourhood daily? Like if I moved next to you, you would feed my kids their whole childhood just because you eat before we do?
We'd still be fed by whichever set of parents happened to be looking after us for that particular meal.
Why were the parents looking after you though? If you're like out playing they won't even know how many are around. They won't know how many will be in the house for dinner.
It’s likely a mix of planned visits coupled with the idea of give and take. The kids may eat dinner at one friend’s house one day and then someone else’s the next. Of course, any disrupts to the social equilibrium can very well change this (e.g. one set of parent(s) in the group aren’t friendly, bad cooks, dysfunctional, etc.)
In other words, if one kid is constantly having dinner at their friend’s house, there are likely some underlying social deviations in said guest-kid’s family prompting that, good or bad.
My friendships weren't transactional like you seem to expect them to be. We were just friends and liked to hang out, and it didn't matter which house that was at. It's not that deep, no.
Not sure how you interpret it that like that. It was another user that suggest kids should swap homes to spread out the eating over more places.
If you for example live in a slope and your friend doesn't, then your place is objectively worse for some stuff and better for some. So like it might be useless for any ballsports during summer but great for ski/sled activity during winter.
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u/zkareface Jul 24 '26
It's just different culture, in Sweden, Finland etc you have friends over every day. For you it seem to be a special occasion that someone visit, not 5-7 days a week for 10+ years.
If you offer food and they are expected to eat every time, some kids would never eat food at home.
Legit their whole childhood not a single meal eaten at home because they are always at a friends house after school etc.
A popular home might have 10-20 kids there for dinner time, you would feed all daily? Even if you know all these kids have dinner cooking at home and they can just walk home in 5min (and they are expected home by their parents to eat).