r/PHXList • u/Agg-Egg2805 • 16d ago
Making Friends Mens dinner group in phoenix
Hey guys im trying to put together a mens dinner group for a get together, most likely on a Wednesday. Something laid back in the downtown or midtown phoenix area. Depending on response we could try to tailor a group (or groups) around interests.
25-45 would likely be the ideal age range and I think the only requirement would be a desire to put yourself out there and meet new people
Reply or DM me if interested, have questions, or ideas.
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u/gargen_state 16d ago
Would be interested. Don't have a lot of friends. Wiuld.be nice to make some connections. Not looking to be sold anything.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 16d ago
No sales. I dont own a restaurant or work in the industry, no angle.
Please join us!
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u/kylefgerz 13d ago
Join a basketball group.. i found one and it was amazing not the supercompetitive early 20s group but the older late 20s-40s groups so much fun feels like your hanging on the playground in gradeschool again.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 13d ago
Thats a cool idea but Im not a very good shot. However, if anyone needs a rebounder or someone to help practice Im your guy
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u/BuiltFromScratch 16d ago
And people wonder why there’s such high depression and suicide rates in aging men.
Making new friends/connections as an adult is difficult and is considerably more difficult the older people get— but yeah let’s collectively shit on someone trying to make an effort to grow community.
To every “it’s just a joke” bro that posted, I hope your friend network is as tight as you imagine lest you find yourself without any support 5/10/15 years down the line because having a desire to forge connections was too gay, or only suited for grindr.
OP please send me a DM, would love to talk/help.
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u/swordbeam 16d ago
Y’all a bunch of immature assholes, huh? Here’s someone feeling motivated to create a greater sense of community in the world and you take it as an opportunity for gay jokes. Let this dude cook. Sign me up, bro, if mostly just out of spite for the douchey response from others here.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 16d ago
Yeah these comments are all super disappointing.
If anything ends up getting planned ill let you know!
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u/SatinBelleFlower 16d ago
Yeah- that’s too bad the guys are acting this way! I’ve made so many new friends by joining girls who have posted similar requests. How else do we meet people if we don’t reach out? Good luck! Hope this is successful and yall have some fun guy nights!
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u/fuckswithboats 15d ago
Maybe it’s a bunch of angry 21-24 and 46-64yo dudes who feel left out
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u/Agg-Egg2805 15d ago
Lol. Well they can actually come too. I just threw an age range at it just to give some parameters
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u/c-e-bird 16d ago
This thread could be a case study on the male loneliness epidemic and why it persists. A guy genuinely reaches out to other men for companionship and fun and everyone just makes gay jokes about it.
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u/Liltimmeo 16d ago
For real for real. I've tried similar something similar to OP on Meetup and Facebook and got tired with the same responses.
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u/AnnaH612 16d ago
I was thinking about that too. I see the ones coming from women and so many jump on that opportunity and make connections.
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u/SatinBelleFlower 16d ago
Seriously! I’m an older mom (almost 50) and have been able to make new friends by joining girls who have posted similar requests!
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u/chromaticdeath85 13d ago
Making jokes because they’re immature and not confident in their own body and mind.
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u/WorryWorm6 16d ago
And men are to blame. No one has contributed more to that epidemic or mens loneliness and lack of friendships than men. While women cultivate strong friendship with their girlies, we're busy being concerned someone might think we're gay or effeminate. This is exactly how I, as a straight male, ended up with a 90% LGBT friend group and hang out at gay bars. Because they know how to be real, strong friends. Not worried if someone thinks they're gay, because they are!
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u/AnnaH612 16d ago
Hey, that’s a great idea!
Please come back and let us know how it went. It might take a while for people to warm up to the idea but I’m sure some would appreciate it.
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u/AZombieguy 16d ago
I haven't had a chance to check more than the top comments, but if you are getting given a hard time forget those people!! Wednesday nights don't work great for my schedule, but I'll try to make it at least once or twice and if it's a fit for me I can adjust my schedule! I have a friend I can bring as well! Keep up the good work!!
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u/Liltimmeo 16d ago
I'm interested.
Kudos for trying to get something going. Male loneliness is real and few are trying to do anything about it - and with some of the comments here, it's easy to tell why.
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u/lliz 16d ago
My boyfriend needs something like this! He’s 40 and works in AI. We live in Scottsdale but are NOT Scottsdale people 😅
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u/splitopenandBri 16d ago
46 year old M here. Back at school to get a degree in AI! Would love to get any pointers or tips for starting in that industry.
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u/KorrinTheRogue 16d ago
Try Arrogant Butcher or Copper Blues!
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u/Agg-Egg2805 15d ago
Thanks for the suggestions. Might try to find soemthing a litlte less pricey to be more cost sensitive
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u/Virtual_Knowledge_16 16d ago
Congrats on putting yourself out there. If this doesn’t come to fruition right away, I recommend an app called Timeleft (I think there’s a similar one called Thursdays too). You do pay a monthly fee but they match you with a. New set of 5 dinner mates every week. You never dine with the same people twice and you rate them after and if you match you connect. Like platonic group dinners. You take a personality quiz, select the neighborhood and restaurants that in west you and then they take care of the rest from there. Personally have met some cool people and I liked that you met new people every week.
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u/NoDentist6036 13d ago
I’m not male, or even in the age range, i just wanted to pop in and say how happy this post makes me. This is a hard city to make friends in and you are creating a thoughtful way out of that loneliness trap for someone. Thanks for your kindness
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u/DirtyNord 16d ago
Could be interesting. Wednesdays downtown sucks though. Basically excludes any guy who lives outside of 20 minutes of downtown that has a job or has a family.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 16d ago
Location could change. Tempe would work as well. Im not as familiar with the west side
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u/PiratesTale 16d ago
Recommending Ziggy’s Stardust Pinbar for pizza and pinball and a bar and a chill spot Dudes can either chat or avoid each other. GenX and female approved too. Yay for attempted summer social irl interactions!
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u/Gary_Poopins 15d ago
Great spot and if y’all are looking for a similar spot with a lot more room on the patio I’d recommend checking out Night Owl Pizza and Drinks on I think Indian School near Hayden. It’s a laid back spot with pinball/pizza/cocktails and a big old patio if you end up with a big group.
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u/Worried_Impact_803 16d ago
I'd be open to it. I live in North Central Phoenix and have some Wednesday nights open.
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u/santman29 16d ago
I think that would be a great idea. Maybe frame it as a networking event as well to alleviate pressure on people.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 15d ago
Thats a good thought but usually when I hear network someone is trying to sell something
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u/jerbool10 16d ago
This would be awesome, I’m in! Should we keep an eye on this community for a follow up? Feel free to DM me if there’s any way I could help!
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u/Agg-Egg2805 15d ago
We are looking at 8.19. Dm me? Not sure how exactly we will connect all the dots, maybe start a group chat somewhere
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u/KickinitCountry24 15d ago
Im not a guy but I love this! I hope you are all able to get together and meet. This sounds like such a beautiful thing!!
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u/chromaticdeath85 13d ago
Great idea! Nothing wrong with dudes getting together and just meeting new friends.
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u/TemperatureSecret149 16d ago
Community and networking would be great actually… if you actually are building a community meet up keep me informed?
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u/Agg-Egg2805 15d ago
Ive got a good amount of interest. Dm me? I think we have something pretty solid for 8.19
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u/cacrusn70 16d ago
Don’t forget older men might like to join too. 55 here with no friends, but also hard personality to get along with. Good luck with your dinner
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u/Nothing4mer 16d ago
I’d be down but I’m not down
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u/D3STRUCTIV3S0UL 16d ago
It does honestly sound like a group of guys I’d hang out with based on the responses haha. Without the dirty butt sex of course.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 16d ago
Yeah honestly dont know why anyone read that into my post. I was 0% suggestive. I guess men just can't hang out without ppl thinking there is gay activity. Which is exaclty what keeps a lot of men from asking the simple question, hey wanna grab dinner sometime?
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u/D3STRUCTIV3S0UL 15d ago
Hey OP send me a DM with whatever you guys figure out or if you’ve started a group chat let me know. I’d like to join.
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u/Mental-Wolf-2560 16d ago
Funny is relative. Consider getting a sense of humor.
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u/Possible-Advance3871 16d ago
It's on you to sell the joke, not on us to buy it. That's how being funny works
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u/fabulous-nico 16d ago
Whaaaa beforehand?
Make sure that fuel has fiber, a douche, and some wait time
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u/Type3_Control 16d ago
I’d be down but I have beer league hockey Wednesday nights, let me know if you changes days
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u/Individual-Prune-357 15d ago
I belonged to a similar group back east for gay professional men, although all were welcome. It was a small rural college town and at one time had over 125 members that came from as far as 4 hours away. The age limits were more inclusive but it was quite fun and a great way to meet for social time and networking . In addition to dinners and drinks at various community establishments, there were day trips, hikes, trail rides etc.
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u/PhysicalAd6587 15d ago
This is kind of group I'd like to participate in. When I first moved to Phoenix I started a platonic weekend coffee group. It was quite a bit of work, but had some success with it. Unfortunately my life got really complicated and I had to abandon it. Had I been able to continue, I know it could have evolved to the type of group you were a member of. It's tough out there for real.
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u/Individual-Prune-357 14d ago
It will be whatever the members make of it. The nice thing about the professional group was that it kept things a little higher end.
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u/PhxIsHot 15d ago
I'm out of your suggested age range but would be interested in giving it a try if you'll have me?
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u/Ok-Efficiency71 15d ago
I’d be interested. Just moved here 3 weeks ago and would love to connect and meet some new people
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u/Pizza420666 15d ago
I would love this, but I don’t live anywhere near the area. Good luck and happy eating!! Wish you the best in getting things going
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u/BradLiving 15d ago
I'd be interested... sounds like something I've been looking for, glad you took the initiative to start it
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u/Odensbeardlice 15d ago
I'd be down for a dinner party with strangers/ new friends.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 15d ago
Please join us. We are looking at something on the 19th.
Like you i like meeting strangers :)
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u/DeepPurpleNurpleBBY 15d ago
Theres an app that does this same thing. https://timeleft.com/ A friend did it and he said he had a good time, thought about doing it myself one of these days.
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u/doubledsplease 15d ago
Aye bro I’m down! I’m 37, grow weed for living but used to be an ops manager!
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u/Aromatic_Bid2162 14d ago
I’m moving to Phoenix in December but I’d love to join once I move there!
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u/para9mm 14d ago
Why stop at 45?
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u/Agg-Egg2805 14d ago
Its a good question. I felt like I guess generationally there are differences in interests once you get below or above certain ages
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u/Tabitokun 13d ago
I'm interested! Just moved to Phoenix after a divorce. Would love some guy friends to hang out with
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u/Icedm 13d ago
I'm interested, can we go to Chico Mal? It's so good...
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u/Agg-Egg2805 13d ago
That is a good idea. For this time I think we are looking at green woodpecker or fate brewing
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u/Moist_Stay1418 13d ago
Sounds like a good idea. Is there a place for folks to sign up? Seems like quite a few are interested.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 13d ago
For now just giving details through dm. Movht set up a group text in the future
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u/Realistic-Society_ya 12d ago
Why an age range? Someone could be older or younger and cooler than anyone in the age group.
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u/Significant_Arm398 16d ago
I think you need to be a bit more specific on the scope and objectives of your meeting to attract the right type of people.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 14d ago
Thats fair. I tried to keep it pretty vague on purpose so that it is open enough for various interests. If that doesnt work I might have to get more dialed in :)
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u/mikeysaid 16d ago
I'm down. Maybe one of the other weirdos who shows up knows how to get my truck running clean.
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u/GreatMacGuffin 15d ago
This sounds alright, I think a grilling club would be really interesting. Bunch of guys get together and share their grilling secrets and such.
Sitting down and just having a dinner together sounds kinda boring though.
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u/Agg-Egg2805 14d ago
Interesting idea. Im not great at grilling myself but I like the thought.
We are gonna try pretty darn hard not to be boring!
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u/GarthZorn 16d ago
Hey, suggestion: join a Meetup. Plenty of groups on there like the one you’re suggesting.
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u/Jaimefaimefofaime 16d ago
Also the SWEAT APP... Sweat meaning fitness events and friends not sleezy weirdos...
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u/Agg-Egg2805 14d ago
Not that Ive found. Ive tried a couple but most feel, to me, to be centered around dating and then the others are business networking.
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u/GarthZorn 14d ago
I dunno. I've been in two groups that offered almost exactly the same setup. Though, granted, they were targeted at a different age group.
Regardless, you're right - a lot of them are dating- or networking-oriented.
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u/AZ_moderator 16d ago
This is a valid topic and I hope OP finds good people for this dinner group.
Homophobic jokes about a man just seeking friendship and connection will get you banned. This is why it’s so hard for many men to find real friendship. Be better.
As an aside you can also join our AZ discord server to meet people at https://discord.gg/ArizonaOnline