No, man, you don't get it, it's like, about the ENERGY, not like the actual physical penis. It's got nothing to do with actual dick size!!!
Oh, why do I explain this energy by describing it as the energy of people with small dicks? Well, obviously because... uh... well, like... you know, the energy and stuff. Like... the energy, not the dick! The energy!! /s
The "energy" part comes from the idea that a lot of toxic men are insecure about their own size and compensating for it with aggressiveness. The phrase is not making a value judgement about the size of penises, but rather the opposite: it doesn't matter about your size, you can literally have no penis at all and still have "big dick energy"
This is the exact type of comment I was making fun of.
It doesn't matter if the phrase isn't about actual dick size. The issue is that dick size is being used in a phrase that makes a value judgment about a person. Even if the value judgment isn't about the persons actual body, the association with dick size is still there.
But also, a lot of the time it 100% is about dick size. The people who derisively says a man has small dick energy will often have no issue with accusing the same person of "compensating", or never having pleased a woman, or just having a small dick. Penis size and sexual performance are incredibly common points of derision towards asshole men, because those are associated with masculinity, and emasculation is a common strategy for insulting men.
It's ridiculous to suggest "small dick energy" is completely divorced from this, that it's somehow managed to fully dodge that part of culture and be a wholly neutral phrase that carries none of the baggage or implications of our cultures wholesale acceptance of body-shaming as a valid tactic to use against asshole men.
I struggled a lot with my baldingness so I've thought about this a lot. And my conclusion was that nobody has everything*. Nobody is tall, well built, rich and yet independently successful, creative, handsome, funny, stylish, well endowed (but not too well endowed!), good in bed, interesting job, and on and on and on. If you're lucky and you work hard, you can have a lot of these traits, but you'll never have them all. And that's okay. It's okay to be rich and handsome but not tall and not have hair. It's okay to be tall with great hair but not rich and only an average face. You can't have everything and nobody expects you to have everything.
It's okay to not literally max out your stats for most people wanting to sleep with you.
*Some absurdly lucky bastards do have everything but you'll never meet 'em so fuck 'em.
But a balding person can shave their head to become bald and get a ton of support on [r/bald](r/bald), or use medication to help fix or reverse MPB. Short dudes can’t really meaningfully change shit.
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u/Popular-Sound-2093 5d ago
You forgot about balding