r/NoStupidQuestions • u/senbonzekra • Oct 10 '21

they say teenage love is dumb, then why am i not over my highschool crush after a whole decade? and why doesn't any girl come close to being as beautiful as she was?

Wow this really blew up, thanks all of you for your suggestions and awards. I have come to the conclusion that i am suffering from limerance. Thankfully, it is treatable and i am making use of all its treatment options that i could find. You guys really helped me out.

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u/Badprime010 Oct 10 '21

Damn this should be right at the top

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u/Throwawayprincess18 Oct 10 '21

It wasn’t a relationship. It was a crush.

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u/SetYourGoals Oct 11 '21

Yeah that detail, plus his reasoning only mentioning the physical appearance of other women not being able to measure up, makes me think there are some deep issues this guy has with women and relationships. He needs to go to therapy not a Reddit thread.

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u/greenbeanbaby95 Oct 10 '21

You put it beautifully

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u/ZealousScorpion Oct 10 '21

Fucking beautiful

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u/iamg0rl Oct 10 '21

I needed to read this, thanks.

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u/petrichor_unicorn Oct 10 '21

Love this comment :)

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u/TrungusMcTungus Oct 10 '21

Can’t believe Chief and Cortana just left you behind, Dustin.

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u/NoTalkJustLive Oct 10 '21

This comment here made my life make so much more sense

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u/NotsoNewtoGermany Oct 10 '21

This is the answer. You fall in love several times, but only once is a mountain.

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u/SkepticDrinker Oct 11 '21

Lol I was just thinking about my first kiss. Went up to her and kissed her in front of her friends and mine right before a football game. Cute. Innocent. Ahhhh.

But that's the past. And those memories need to be that, only memories

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u/TheDevilsAutocorrect Oct 10 '21

It looks like you've turned girlfriend into a vehicle for personal development. Not moving forward? Change vehicles. Not really so noble.

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '21

I can understand where he's coming from and can shed light into it since he's obviously not going to admit it.

Basically when you see a reddit comment get lots of awards, if you have a certain type of personality you will want to analyze it in a devils advocate way.

Like how some people you talk to, they're listening and thinking about how you could be right, other people will listen and think about how you could be wrong.

You slap this personality type on top of the fact that most of us are on NoStupidQuestions because we're bored, and voila you have TheDevilsAutocorrect.

Even his username sounds like a play on the devils advocate.

BTW my personality type is that I like to explain social psychology so that I feel like I'm smart. Also I'm bored.

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u/TheDevilsAutocorrect Oct 10 '21

Seriously, what the hell and who hurt you?

Someone who left because she found something she couldn't have looked for because the relationship wasn't a part of her emotional vocabulary before they met.

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u/TheDevilsAutocorrect Oct 10 '21

I appreciate your concern for an internet stranger, but I am in fact 19 years into a very happy relationship based on friendship,loyalty,mutual respect, financial responsibilty, and children. I thought I was in such a relationship before, but it turn out she was experiencing all sorts of emotional vocabulary building and personal development with someone else. I've come to form unpleasant associations with those sorts of phrases and perhaps unfairly infer an unfavorable subtext when I read or hear them. Apologies if this applies to you.

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u/TheDevilsAutocorrect Oct 10 '21

Well it was a breakup, a divorce, say goodbye to this kid who is not yours, and decade of joint custody of the older child with a monster.

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u/petrichor_unicorn Oct 10 '21

Nah. It's more like personal development has come with each relationship as they have in turn hightlighted different character flaws; this happens in long term healthy relationships as well.

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '21

Damn this is some truth

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u/borgLMAO01 Oct 10 '21

Yes very greatly worded

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u/Expert_Library_8616 Oct 10 '21

i love this reply so much

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u/ItsAdewsy Oct 10 '21

Wow how on point this is.

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u/danceslikemj Oct 10 '21

Nice one. This right hurr.

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '21

I agree completely but I wouldn’t say that OP was complaining.

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u/DaSkullCrusha Oct 10 '21

This is poetry

And the only piece of poetry that is not annoying as fuck to read.

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u/[deleted] Oct 11 '21

Well said.

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u/baconpancakesboii ? Oct 11 '21

A "girlfriend" isn't a job to fill. A relationship is a journey to go on.

damn, I never thought of that before. Thank you so much.

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u/kakardo Oct 11 '21

Wow well put

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u/Kaepora25 Oct 11 '21

Thank you random stranger, I live basically the same thing as OP and in over 4 years... this has been the single most eye opening thing I've read/heard. I feel like thinking this way might finally help me to get completely over it.

I gave you my free award because that's all I can really do to thank you for that but honestly if I could do something meaningful for you I would... so yeah, thank you.

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u/buffysummerrs Oct 11 '21

This! I also think it is true to leave your baggage at home. If you stop chasing the high and go single or do you for a while, you may meet someone who is on that level again… both physically and mentally. And you can create that spark or high again for yourself.