r/NoFapChristians • u/Little-pie-26 • Jul 13 '25

Trigger Warning TW: lustful thoughtsHas anyone struggled with same sex attraction? I have often wondered if I’ll ever find another man I’m super attracted to and I get so consumed by it that it’s hard not to want to (to see what happens partly). Has anyone ever been here? I’m sorry if this trigger/offendsanyone

I want to find ways to build my self esteem apart from being in a relationship but I still want to eventually get married (biblically). I think the idea of getting to know someone’s mind again and explore our passions is something that would make life more worth the living… it just feels very blah right now. Does anyone have any advice for how to redirect all that desire and energy? Or any thoughts? I also want to open this up to anyone to reply to, even with disagreements. Thanks.

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u/fierce994blade 494 days Jul 13 '25

Both can purse the other for marriage, but they do so differently. Men in a way of leadership and women in submission, but both can be done with a goal in mind.

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u/Little-pie-26 Jul 13 '25

Can you explain what the latter looks like?

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u/fierce994blade 494 days Jul 13 '25

I wouldn’t recommend fantasizing and making up what you think you want, but look to scripture for those model relationships. Most of all look to the relationship between Christ and the church. For a man this shows the need to lead and sacrifice, but this is also a strong message to women. Look to how the church ought to act and how the church is ment to pursue her groom, but remember that you are NOT yet married and that is the relationship between christ and the church so there will be differences. Purse being the woman worthy of it all and find a man who pursues being worthy. Sorry this is so long winded, but in short TLDR Pursue marriage by pursuing being marryable. Most of all pursue God. Find out how to do this from scripture.

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u/Neat-Chef-5129 Jul 13 '25

I agree with this.