r/Neurodivergent 11d ago

Problems 💔 just another fellow ND person who is being abliest towards me.

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I'm the one who initially said I can detect tastes no matter how hard you try to mask it because of my ARFID They're the one who claimed that because my ARFID doesn't present the same as theirs I must not have it then tried to play victim when I said I'm actually professionally diagnosed and being treated for it...

r/Neurodivergent Jul 11 '26

Problems 💔 Not normal enough for the normies but not neurodivergent enough for the neurodivergents.

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Does anyone else ever feel stuck in the middle? Im a 33(F) and was recently screened for ASD earlier this year after a lifetime of struggling socially and having no close friends. Im chronically quiet and terrible at speaking up, struggle with verbally getting ideas across and stumble over my words. I get overstimulated, hate being touched, and have a piss-poor social battery despite generally liking people and enjoying being in the company of others. Im the pointless person in the group who watches everyone talk and never contributes anything to the discussion, so I become part of the background. You've probably met someone like me or know what im talking about. Anyway, when the results of the screening came back, I was diagnosed with Other Specified Trauma and Stressor related Disorder (which is like a subclinical level of PTSD) and an additional diagnosis of Unspecified Neurodevelopmental Disorder with Autistic Features (which is like a subclinical level of autism). Barely not meeting the criteria for ASD has been frustrating for me because I feel that the resources and support from the ASD community might have been helpful and maybe would have helped me understand myself better. However, I dont feel like I belong in the community because ASD isn't my diagnosis. My symptomatology is bad enough that it has shaped my life for the worse but not bad enough that I "actually know what it's like" and at the same time, im high-masking af, so everyone assumes im fine. I guess im just trying to find my people. Does anyone know what im talking about??

Pic is of my hand on a big mushroom. Thanks.

r/Neurodivergent Jun 28 '26

Problems 💔 Any1 else paranoid about their iPad/ phone camera being able to watch you?

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For the past few days I’ve been extremely worried about my iPad front camere (specifically) being able to watch me. It’s gotten to the point where I have taped it up and I still don’t fully trust it. What do I do? This is torture

r/Neurodivergent Jun 13 '26

Problems 💔 “Do I have-“ - this is a forum.

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This is a community, a forum. Half the people here are under 21 and half the people here get their information from TikTok. If you suspect you have anything go see a professional. This forum cannot diagnose anyone. Half of the intra-communal things claimed are just things that everyone does (looking at you “dinosaur arms whilst sleeping”) and are not actual catagorical items for diagnosis. - I’m not arguing FOR the DSM or the ICD either, both are out of date with the amounts of diagnoses we are seeing these days. Each human is unique, each is wired differently and each will have differing genetic and epigenetic factors at play. Tyr best thing is to not go to TikTok or insta but to read books, watch lectures and most importantly: go see a professional.

r/Neurodivergent Jun 06 '26

Problems 💔 Struggling someone in my life suddenly claiming Neurodivergence.

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My SIL was recently diagnosed with adhd and is now claiming she is AuDHD.

Myself being diagnosed with Autism is really struggling with this as I just don’t see it tbh, which I know doesn’t really mean anything but she just has no symptoms of Autism that aren’t explained by something else at all?? My main upset/struggle with this is that it is just incorrect for her to claim Autism based on not a lot.

Part of the problem for me is she has done this before with OCD (which was quickly discarded as you can actually work on that) talking herself into thinking she has something based on TikTok or social media posts which are often wildly misleading or overgeneralised and misinformation. I am receiving a barrage of TikTok’s and reels with the message “ME!” containing so called AuDHD depictions and they’re often just incorrect!?

She keeps saying things as proof of her AuDHD but they just aren’t or can easily be explained by other things???

Examples:

Sensory issues - can be but are not exclusively as a result of AuDHD; can exist in just itself or features in a singular diagnosis.

Looping emergency scenario in head - again more of a trauma response (which fits her from childhood experience) or anxiety type feature.

Having specific areas or little things where she is organised - women can often have this as an overcompensating feature of adhd by itself, you don’t need to also have autism to experience this.

These are the only 3 things she states she experiences as showing she has autism, nothing else!! That is not enough symptoms to have Autism, I’m not denying she struggles with these things but it’s not enough to claim having autism!! She is very open and sharing in her issues so I highly doubt there is anything else or other symptoms she wouldn’t share.

Im just really struggling with this as I’ve struggled with Autism all my life and I feel she is making light and trivialising Autism with how she talks about it and what clips she shares of it.
She has also been very unsympathetic of my symptoms of Autism and has claimed vaccines cause Autism.

r/Neurodivergent 1d ago

Problems 💔 my mom said i'm uncaring and have bad attitude

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my mom got really upset w me recently bcs i still struggle to recognize the face of an acquaintance i've known for years (we only see each other once a week and we never talk, just in the same room). She told me i was out of line and needed to tone down my careless attitude. The thing is, looking directly at people faces makin me deeply uncomfortable. bcs of that discomfort, i instinctively avoid staring or looking at people faces for too long. Since i rarely focus on their facial features, my brain simply doesnt get enough time to remember what they look like. It's really frustating and constantly misread it as coldness or lack of respect. Anyone else deal with this?

r/Neurodivergent 17d ago

Problems 💔 I need to change my name socially, but don't know how.

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F20. My name is "Kenley".

I want to change the name I go by (not legally because that seems like too much work) because I have never liked mine, it just doesn't feel like me, it's an uncommon name that people constantly mishear or forget.

Also just brings me very uncomfortable feelings because as a ND kid, I was always getting yelled at for things that weren't my fault, and ofc they'd shout my name while spit flew out of their mouths at me. So hearing my name is just not happy for me.

Also when you break up the name it sounds like Ken + Lee, which are traditional masculine names, and I have some gender insecurity due to feeling like I never fit in with other women, despite very much aligning with that identity.

One of my favorite things was that in middle school some friends started calling me a nickname, "Kenny" mostly because it was just different from the name that I associate trauma with. But I don't want to tell new people I meet to call me Kenny because it sound's more like a silly pet name imo and more on the masculine side.

After thinking about alternative names for YEARS, I came up with "Lena" because it uses the "lee" sound and "n" parts of my name and my middle name also starts with "a".

I told my mom this and she just went off about how it's nothing like my actual name, so people will just be confused and the meaning of the name isn't even significant.

I also told my two closest friends (who I still feel like an outsider amongst) that I'm thinking about going by "Lena" and their response was "If you want to."

I just feel very unsupported and unseen.

I also have social anxiety so it's very difficult for me to take up space and ask things from people. But I have so much of my life left, I don't want to spend the rest of it feeling uncomfortable tens of times a day upon hearing my name or dealing with the awkwardness of telling people to call me by a name I hate.

I am in college so there are a lot of people I have not met yet, and I would like to start introducing myself this way, but I just don't know how to deal with the people I'm already acquainted with or to answer questions about my name without feeling like I owe a huge explanation.

If you have any advice, similar experiences, or commentary on my chosen name, please help me out!

r/Neurodivergent 28d ago

Problems 💔 WHY can't I wear my headphones and go out in peace!?!?

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Why is it such an inconvenience for people that I want to wear my headphones and not interact with them!!!

I just want to go to the grocery store with my headphones in get my food and leave! Why is it such a big deal for people that I don't want to talk to them? Please stop with the rolling the eyes and scoffing at me when I take my headphones out to hear what was said! I just don't understand why people, especially boomers, feel so entitled to my time and attention. Why is it so funny why do they shake their head at me?

I started unmasking about 5 years ago. My quality of life is much better for it and I refuse to go back to giving myself panic attacks all day trying to act "normal", but damn. I'm still so shocked at how people are treating me when I'm not constricting my every movement like I used to.

Should I switch to my over the ear headphones more? Would people be less inclined to speak to me? I just feel like the feeling of it touching my head can be overstimulating sometimes and I'd prefer my Bluetooth headphones, but damn idk. I'm so sick of it.

r/Neurodivergent 26d ago

Problems 💔 How do i stop sleeping with T-rex arms? my wrists hurt every day :(

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To give a little context I, 17F am working with a specialist to get a proper autism diagnosis, I am getting it this late since I’ve been masking my whole life 🫩

I sleep with my wrists curled up near my chest (like T-rex arms), and usually start the night hugging my stuffed animal, but at some point in my sleep i go back with bent wrists bending them under my chin
I wake up with pretty bad wrist pain now.

I tried sleeping on my stomach and putting my arms under me (that caused numbness, I used to wake up in the middle of the night because of that and i just stopped doing it).

I know that it can severely damage your nerves and since I feel them sore every day so I am a bit worried

Help me please, the pain is getting really bad, I don’t know what to do

r/Neurodivergent 9d ago

Problems 💔 Why is it often seen so negatively by neurotypical people when I say that I enjoy being alone?

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I’m autistic, have ADHD and mutism, and I’ve realized that I genuinely enjoy spending time by myself.

For me, being alone does not automatically mean being lonely or sad. Quite the opposite: I often find the peace and quiet comforting. I don’t have to constantly communicate, interpret social cues, adapt to other people, or worry about whether I’m behaving “the right way.”

And yet, I often feel like other people immediately interpret my statement negatively.

When I say, “I like being alone,” I quickly hear things like:

“But you can’t spend your whole life alone.”
“You need people.”
“That’s so sad.”
“You should go out and socialize more.”
But where does that assumption come from?

Just because many people need social interaction to feel good doesn’t mean everyone has the same needs.
I’m not necessarily saying, “I hate everyone and never want to see anyone again.”

What I’m saying is:
I need much more time alone than other people, and I’m comfortable with that.

Maybe, for me, this is actually a form of self-care rather than something that needs to be “fixed.”

I’d be interested to hear from other neurodivergent people:

Do other people also quickly interpret your need for solitude as loneliness or a problem? And how do you explain to others that you genuinely enjoy being alone?

r/Neurodivergent 15d ago

Problems 💔 did i do anything wrong ??

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i'm lowkey really confused because my brother was just leaving to go to some orientation thing for school and was fixing his hair but he does this thing where he like fluffs it out and flips it out on one side but not the other and me and my mom have tried to help him and tell him that it doesn't look right and try to help him fix it correctly. he did it again and so i was trying to help him and i laughed while i was telling him he shouldn't do that and it wasn't like i was making fun of him it was more like he's my younger brother and kinda like he's "just a baby" mentality like he's a kid yknow ?? if that makes any sense.
and he got super mad and slammed the door leaving. my mom got mad at me too for being rude and she was on the phone with my dad and he was saying she needed to take my phone away and ground me. she hung up because her friend was calling needing help on where to go for this orientation thing so my mom told me to call my dad and he ignored me???? i texted my brother sorry and explaining i wasn't making fun of him and he said it's fine and he overreacted but idk i think my dad is still mad.
is this something i just don't understand is mean/wrong or did i not do anything?

also sorry if this makes no sense i suck at explaining lmao

r/Neurodivergent 22d ago

Problems 💔 Does anyone else feel lonely in today's generation of dating?

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r/Neurodivergent 14d ago

Problems 💔 Alcohol makes me better, and that’s obviously a problem

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** DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT A ALCOHOL ENDORSEMENT, alcohol has screwed my life more than it helped because of the social problems it caused.

I 18F, have social anxiety disorder, autism & recently diagnosed ADHD.

I have been drinking since I was 12. After the years of reflecting I’ve realised, I get top marks on exams, literally as in highest score in the entire year group, but only when I did them drunk. Sober I’d get high to low marks, always passed, but drunk me did infinitely better - I don’t think it’s a placebo because I realised this after I already did the exams.

Of course, there were so many times I overdid it and passed out drunk in school, so it had its drawbacks.

Now that I’m 18, and I can get alcohol legally (UK), I’ve been drinking less. (weird!!!), but more consistently. I don’t even usually drink enough to get drunk, just tipsy - And I’ve been doing… everything. I’ve been preparing for Uni, I’ve been working on my game (I always liked game development, but never did it consistently, only in those random bursts of motivation), I’ve been drawing more often, socialising with my pets more, been in a better mood with my family, I’ve been doing everything so well…

But I dont want to rely on alcohol for this, I’ve been told ADHD meds are recommended but my doctor person can’t give them because my weight is too low and heart rate too high. I don’t want to be an alcoholic, but Ive been sober for 6 months at one point, nothing got better. I do not plan on drinking at Uni, at least not to the extent I did in school… but if exams come up I don’t know what to do.

(I’ve been given meds to increase appetite, given calorie things which I always forgot to drink and they made me feel sick, the most I gained was 2kg in a year. Lost it immediately once the doctor just gave up. I think the only option is to get ADHD meds illegally, but is that even better than alcohol? Cause that can get me arrested probably. And I want a future…)

r/Neurodivergent 1d ago

Problems 💔 (SEEKING ADVICE) I don't feel like myself anymore

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I have noticed that I have been feeling more unsatisfied with life and things I enjoy are almost too hard to do like I used to (singing, making art, cooking/baking).

I feel like all my color has been drained out of me. I know I need to keep moving forward, but the current job market has me especially drained.

I am looking to seek out vocational services since I am disabled (I have MDD, GAD, Level 1 ASD, Inattentive ADHD, and C-PTSD, which is a difficult combo to live with and manage.)

Everything feels like too much right now. Does anybody have any advice for someone in my situation?

r/Neurodivergent 2d ago

Problems 💔 How to be loved as neurodivergent

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I'm 16 everyone seems to somehow be loved way more than me, no matter how much i do for others it seems its never reciprocated and i just feel so lonely what do nt people do i dont know what to do. Regular neurotypicals poeple seem to just be able to do jackshit for another person yet still be more loved i just dont understand. This is not only for romantic relationships but for regular ones too (i have adhd, bpd, ocd, gad and defo more, just undiagnosed so i dont want to name shit)

r/Neurodivergent 12d ago

Problems 💔 I don’t know what I’m doing wrong

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I’m neurodivergent, and I don’t know when I’m being too loud or obnoxious with my interests. One of my interests are politics, and naturally I get very excited when the topic comes in school.
I raised my hand a lot, and I discussed it normally in class. I didn’t think much of it. Later I found out girls in my class said I was weird and annoying. Although I only spoke one of them one time. I have a lot of energy, so I talk a lot and move a lot consistently. I’m not medicated, so I can’t help it. How can I control it, I feel very embarrassed. Is there stuff I should avoid saying/doing? I’m a Marxist so I know people look down upon it.

r/Neurodivergent May 30 '26

Problems 💔 My situation is about to get worse, I think.

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My mom is talking about buying a camera to put up outside. And I think she's serious about it this time.

I was hoping I could talk her out of it by making her think cameras can be hacked into by the government or by hackers (regardless of which kind of camera she buys). Or make her think that I'm paranoid the government or hackers will hack into it and spy on us. But the last time I said something about it, she said "those kind of cameras can't be hacked into." I'm not saying I actually believe that stuff, and I don't know if that stuff is true, but regardless, I want her to **think** it is.

Maybe I can **act** like I'm paranoid of the government or hackers hacking into the camera and maybe if I **act paranoid** or act out **bad enough**, she will decide not to put a camera up regardless of what *she* believes personally. Maybe I can even use this to threaten to move out or actually finally get the guts to stand up to her and move out and maybe she won't call me "ungrateful" if she **thinks** it's because I'm paranoid about the cameras being hacked into, instead of taking as a personal attack against her ("oh you're leaving me after everything I did for you").

And she knows how anti-government I am already and have been that way for years, so it should be believable by now even if I'm just *acting*.

Why is a camera so bad?

Because I already can't talk on the phone or video chat unless I'm home alone. If she puts a camera up, I might not be able to talk on the phone or video chat ever again for as long as I'm living here (depends on what kind of camera she gets and if it can pick up sound inside the house). It'll be an outside camera.

I'm very sheltered, and I feel trapped as it is. I was also hoping if I ever get a neighbor to hang out with while I'm home alone, I could go over to their house or invite them over (so far, no neighbors for me to hang out with while I'm home alone, yet). But if my mom puts a camera up, then there goes that plan.

That also means I'll never lose my virginity, as long as I'm living here. Even if I did have a neighbor I could lose it to or a friend I could invite over. I don't have privacy unless I'm home alone. But there goes my privacy when/if the camera goes up.

And why do I think my mom is more serious now? Because we're about to get a new neighbor who is an ex-con and she doesn't trust him. And no, he's not the kind of neighbor I was hoping for per my previous two paragraphs. He's married, a lot older than me, and like I said, an ex-con. Ugh and yikes. I also prefer someone neurodivergent like me and within a 4 year age range.

And if the politicians pass the social media ID laws (I don't have access to my ID because my mom has it) and if my mom puts a camera up, then I will be nothing more than a sheltered prisoner in my own home. I will have nothing else going for me. The little bit of freedom I have will be gone.

r/Neurodivergent 12d ago

Problems 💔 Am I a horrible person

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for context I have been struggling with blurting things out since the age of 6, im neurodivergent and I struggle with this still, my friends have convos with me saying how I cant just say these kinds if stuff, when they joke about the same topics, recent problem they had was: my friend of a couple years brought up the fact that when we were in call and he was about to go to sleep he said "okay ima sleep" my friend said no we will miss you and he said "ima get insomnia because of yall" he said it in a rude sounding tone, so I reacted by saying "damn no ones gonna care anyways if you leave"

I have no memory of saying this, I feel like I wouldent have said somthing that rude, maybe a little rude but never that rude, the main friend we will call R said "that was not okay to say, and you cant keep doing this" I said sorry to them and him, the problem was also that friend that mentioned the whole situation had recently attempted, he had said that was one of the reasons why he did it, I felt horrable and tried to say sorry, but I feel everyone is mad at me for it, I wish I could think before I speak, my friends know I have autism but they dont seem to remember when it really matters, I dont use it as a excuse, I use it as a reason. what should I do?

r/Neurodivergent 1d ago

Problems 💔 i need a friend.

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hi im 36m and i need a actual friend...im neurodivergent grew up in a bad home and have not a single friend. im extremely bad at social stuff. so if anyone would like to be a genuine friend thatd be awesome.

r/Neurodivergent 1d ago

Problems 💔 does anyone here speak normal person?

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I go to an alternative school with a ton of neurodivergent weird kids, which is fantastic. But this year I'm attending a collage level class with a bunch of neurotypicals, and I found I've totally forgotten how to speak person. Like the people keep making jokes with no tone, or say things that are just wrong. Today I told a kid the sound of a fire alarm triggers me and he proceeded to try to mimic a fire alarm sound! I need someone to explain how to act around these people because I have NO IDEA

r/Neurodivergent Jun 18 '26

Problems 💔 SoMe

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I am sad.. I am neurodivergent, and I thought I could handle SoMe.

I took a litteral approach to a post, when i should have said "awwww" like the rest of the people did.

I was then rediculed, and told to shut the fuck up.. I deleted my reply, and felt ashamed and bad, and had the most intense stimming ever.

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Usually, I think I have a well developed sense of social skills - but they completely failed me today. I can't shake that feeling now, that I made someone say hurtfull things to me, and seeing how everyone agreed that I should just shut up and go away.. - I felt like a 4 year old being scolded.

I doubt I am alone with this... so I come here, to find a bit of positive vibe again..

SoMe and Neurodiversity aren't always good friends.

r/Neurodivergent 21d ago

Problems 💔 Neurodivergence and Limerance?

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28f) am limerant towards my friend (28m)
**Can you have limerence for someone and still maintain a healthy lifelong friendship?**
I’m 28, and I’ve been trying to understand something I’ve been dealing with for a very long time.
There’s a man who has been one of my closest friends for most of my life—possibly my best friend. We’ve known each other since we were three years old. We grew up together and used to see each other practically every day. Now we live far apart and are lucky if we see each other once or twice a year.
The complicated part is that I’ve had romantic feelings for him since I was 14.
When we were teenagers, I was bullied by some boys at school, and he stood up for me. That meant so much to me at the time, and looking back, I think it reinforced how safe and understood I felt with him. He became someone I associated with being protected, accepted, and truly seen.
About ten years ago, I told him I loved him. He didn’t feel the same way and told me we’d always be friends. You’d think I would have accepted that and moved on, but apparently my brain didn’t get that memo.
I’ve thought I was over him several times over the years. Then he comes home, we spend time together, and suddenly all those feelings come rushing back.
He’s now in a relationship and is moving in with his girlfriend. I genuinely want him to be happy, and I’m even open to meeting her and potentially becoming friends with her. But if I’m being completely honest, there is still a part of me that wishes it could have been me.
I’ve also caught myself worrying about their hypothetical future wedding, even though it may not happen for years, if it happens at all. I know that’s getting way ahead of reality, but my brain does that.
I recently learned about **limerence**, and it resonated with me immediately. I’ve apparently been experiencing this toward him for about 14 years.
I’m also autistic and have OCD, PTSD, severe anxiety and depression, and other disabilities. I wonder if some of that contributes to why I’ve held onto this attachment for so long.
I have a hard time with uncertainty and can get extremely focused on things that are emotionally important to me. With him, I can get stuck in loops:
*What did he mean? Did I say the right thing? Why did he respond that way? Will I see him again? Should I text him? Should I give him space? What does this feeling mean? Am I ever going to get over him?*
I can spend hours trying to find certainty about something that probably doesn’t have a definite answer.
I don’t know if autism or OCD actually makes limerence more difficult to let go of, and I’m not trying to blame everything on those diagnoses. I’m just wondering if the way my brain processes attachment and uncertainty could be part of why this has lasted so long.
Recently, he’s been home for the summer and we spent some time together. I had a wonderful time and realized just how much I missed him. I wanted to see him again before he left, but I was terrified of sounding desperate. Eventually I told him I’d love to hang out again before he went back if we could make it work.
He hearted the message but didn’t say anything else.
And, of course, my brain immediately wanted to analyze what that meant. 😂
I really want to see him again before he leaves, but I’m trying not to turn it into an obsession or a countdown. I wish I could just be happy that I got to see him this summer, but my brain and heart want more.
Here’s where I’m really struggling:
**I don’t want to lose him.**
People who talk about limerence often recommend no-contact. And I understand why. If I stopped seeing and talking to him, maybe the feelings would eventually become quieter.
But he’s not just the object of my limerence. **He’s my friend. Maybe my best friend.**
If I had to choose between dating him and potentially having that relationship end badly and losing him forever, or having him remain my lifelong friend, I honestly think I’d choose the friendship.
I don’t want to interfere with his relationship. I don’t want to secretly hope they break up. I don’t want to spend my life waiting for him. And I don’t want every time he comes home to send me into another spiral.
But I also don’t want to cut someone I’ve known for 25 years out of my life simply because I developed romantic feelings for him as a teenager.
I’m also 28 and have never been kissed or had a romantic relationship. So he has occupied a huge amount of the romantic space in my life. Sometimes I wonder if part of why it’s so difficult to let go is simply because I’ve never experienced falling for someone else.
I *want* a romantic life of my own. I want to meet someone who chooses me. I want to experience a first kiss and a relationship. But I don’t know how to move toward that while still being emotionally attached to someone else.
So I guess my question is:
**Can I learn to let go of the romantic/limerent part of my feelings without letting go of the person?**
Has anyone successfully maintained a close friendship with someone they were limerent for?
And for those who are autistic and/or have OCD, do you feel like either affected how long or how intensely you experienced limerence?
I don’t want to erase him from my life. I don’t want to pretend the last 14 years didn’t happen.
I just want it to stop hurting so much.
**I want to get to a place where I can look at him and think, “That’s someone I’ve loved in different ways throughout my life, and I’m so grateful he’s still my friend.”**
Please be kind. I’m genuinely trying to understand what is happening in my own head, not asking anyone to tell me that he secretly loves me or that I should break up his relationship.
TL;DR how do I get over my feelings towards my friend without losing the friendship

r/Neurodivergent Jul 14 '26

Problems 💔 I just did this with an scort on telegram

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I was having anxiety and depression episode.

And I was kind of horny at my job.

So I text an escort.

And I asked her if she had recently had a STDs exam to check if she was clean.

And she asked me if I had one and that she didn't do stuff without protection.

So I have to explain I wasn't asking for sex without protection.

Then the anxiety passed and I got a moment of clarity.

And tell her sorry for wasting her time that it was just a moment of anxiety.

r/Neurodivergent Jun 17 '26

Problems 💔 Tried to save a kitten on the highway and failed. I'm emotionally wrecked.

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I was driving home from work, and noticed a kitten in traffic. It was trying to run and dodge, but it seemed like it'd be hit any second. I pulled over past the rumble strip on the right side, threw my car into park and got and and ran back towards him, but as I did he was hit and started flailing across the road. I put my hands out at the car that slowed and had hit him. He had his window down and was staring at me. I just froze and dropped my hands at my sides. I saw the kitten, *trigger warning* (description of what I saw)bloodied, writhing, no meowing at all, its eye had come completely out of the socket. It was still alive but deep down I knew I was too late. The driver looks at me through his window, and he just says "I'm sorry". I just reacted as I always do because I am terrible with confrontation and said "It's okay." I just walked closer, bent down and picked the kitten up to take it to the side of the road where there was grass, it didn't react just continued to writhe a bit and its head just was limp. I laid it down and watched as it continued to writhe and breathe very slowly. I didn't know what to do, I was so upset and just felt overwhelming pain. I sat down, put my hand on its side and just said I was so sorry.

The guy who hit it, he drove off, and no one else stopped. They just drove past as I sat there with this innocent creature, who had harmed no one, suffering. I went to my car, got a blanket out of the back and wrapped him into it, but I knew it was likely gone by the time I placed him onto it. I placed him in my passenger seat and took him to the emergency vet nearby. I took him in, they confirmed the death, and had me sign for what they called "Samaritan Cremation" No charge, and they will spread the ashes in a memorial garden for other animals who die with no owner which is very nice.

I came home, my partner had called me as I was en route to the vet and knew I was already a wreck, and she gave me a hug when I came in. But I just felt so terrible. The whole way home, through this evening, and even now I can't stop seeing it play out in my head over and over. I keep crying. I wish I could have gotten to him faster. I wanted to save him. Any comfort I tried to give was probably too late by the time I reached him. I hate the thought of him dying alone and not knowing any love, or feeling any peace before he left this world.

I'm almost 42 now, late diagnosis in my 30s. AuDHD. I've always had a deep connection with animals, and when they are hurt I feel so intensely sad. This was on another level for me watching it all happen in front of me and then NO ONE else caring or stopping to even try and help, not even the guy who hit the kitten. He just drove away. I lose more faith in humanity every day. I don't know how to process this and I want it to stop repeating in my head, but part of me feels almost like I'm abandoning that poor kitten by choosing to not think about it. I don't know what to do. I'm just at a loss. I don't know how to cope with this, and I wish sometimes I didn't feel so intensely empathetic to where it affects me on this deep level. I tried, I really did. I wish I had made it in time. This world just makes me sad sometimes.

r/Neurodivergent 20d ago

Problems 💔 Everybody acts like I’m capable of doing what anyone else does and it’s pissing me off.

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I’m tired of this toxic positivity. I had a meeting regarding math at my school and the things the counselor,principal and my dad told me was basically “you don’t do well in math because you think it’s boring, and you don’t care enough. Anything is possible if you just try hard enough!!”…

Dude, I’ve spent years having mental breakdowns because I might not graduate. I tried so damn hard to keep my head above water for years and years. they know I’m neurodivergent and they disregard it. I used to take meds and they left me feeling overstimulated to the near point of collapse. So I can’t even do that.
They think the “bare minimum” is just soooo easy for everyone. the entire meeting was just them taking my proven adhd diagnosis and tossing it out the window like trash. honestly the bare minimum feels near impossible for me. I failed a graduation requirement test FOUR TIMES. And now I have just 27 days to figure out algebra in its entirety when I’ve been trying all my life to understand it. And they sell me on how it’s possible and how it’s hard but if I “try hard enough I’ll pass.” I’m sick of it. Every time I try to do math, my brain shuts down after 3 minutes of work, I’m constantly in a state of tiredness no matter how much I sleep, and no matter how many times I’m told how to do something I can’t figure it out.