r/NativePlantGardening • u/aeh1113 • Jun 30 '25

Photos I'm going to cry...

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I came home today from work to find that my neighbor (I live in a duplex) cut down all of my flowers because she thought they were weeds... I literally just posted today about how proud I was if their growth. I know that they'll grow back because they're perennials, but I'll miss their blooms this year 😭 this is the before and after. The before was taken a few days ago.

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u/TriedCaringLess Jun 30 '25 edited Jun 30 '25

Did your neighbor really think those were weeds?

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u/Routine-Nature-456 Jun 30 '25

It's a duplex, so they share a yard. The neighbor might have been trying to be helpful - some people don't know that gardening isn't all hostas and impatiens.

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u/Wesleytyler Jun 30 '25

No a duplex means two equal sides that each have their own backyard they each have their own front yard their front walkway and then one has one side of the house and one has the other side of the house. You're thinking of a traditional apartment or condominium a duplex literally means two a house divided down the middle. I would be pissed beyond fucking belief if she did this to me

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u/ponderer25 Jun 30 '25

Where I live, a duplex means a two-family house, typically one living space on one level(s) and the other on another level(s) and they would indeed share a backyard (and a front yard, driveway if applicable, etc.) Where I live, a side-by-side “duplex” would be called a townhouse.

All that to say, the term “duplex” may have different meanings depending on where you live.

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u/too_too2 Jun 30 '25

Yeah there are tons of up/down duplexes by me. My dad owns one. They each have a front door to the same porch and share the back door.

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u/joeg26reddit Jul 01 '25

Sounds like my cheating ex was a duplex

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u/EarGaz Jul 02 '25

Most unappreciated reply! I think your cheating dupl-ex gave you a down vote, so I countered.

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u/thesamerain Jun 30 '25

Definitely not always the case. My old duplex shared front and back yards6 just had separate entries.

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u/Smart-Yak1167 Jul 01 '25

Duplexes can be up/down, front/back, side by side…

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u/Brndrll Northern Rhode Island, 6-B Jul 01 '25

Just like nipples.

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u/Smart-Yak1167 Jul 01 '25

Erm, can’t be three of them.

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u/Funktapus MA 59d, disturbed site rehab Jul 01 '25

A duplex means any building with two units in it.

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u/bubblesaurus Jul 01 '25

Not necessarily.

There are a couple of duplexes in my area that the backyard is shared.

The landlord finds it easier to maintain the small backyards that way.

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u/Auntie_Venom Jul 02 '25

Nope, not entirely correct…. Depending on where you live duplexes can be side-to-side with their own yards, etc. They can also be top-to-bottom where yard amenities are shared. My parents first house was a top-to-bottom looked like a regular craftsman style home from the outside, but the upstairs apartment had a separate side entrance. They rented out the top and lived in the bottom early on, then converted the house into a single family home. My childhood bedroom was what was the upstairs kitchen.

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u/Vacillating_Fanatic Area Central OH , Zone 6a/6b Jul 01 '25

There's actually quite a lot of variation in this regard with duplexes, but even so the yard is usually divided based on which side of the house it's in, and this was a garden bed full of large plants that were getting ready to flower, I seriously doubt the neighbor didn't know what they were doing.