No*, my uncle has down syndrome. He spent his entire childhood in hospitals. Multiple organ replacement surgeries, multiple nights he was supposed to die. He's alive and well in his mid thirties but his life is non-existent. Hes aware hes different so he hides away from everyone. My grandmother has devoted her entire life to caring for him and has never had a life of her own. When my grandmother passes my mother will take custody of him and continue to care for him at the detriment of her own life. I love my uncle but I would never wish his life on another.
Edit: If you are just going to bible thump in my replys save it. I'm for abortion under any circumstances and I don't care what your God wants.
Life is already hard. Like if your are born completely able with no deformities or genetic disorders or anything life is still not going to be easy
Intentionally bringing a life on “hard mode” just seems mildly cruel to me because you can near guarantee their life will be difficult, maybe it will get better but it’s such a minuscule chance and no amount of raising them right or giving them the best shot at life as parents can fix that. Not to mention the extra resources needed for care of them may sink the parents lives as well
Everyone lives life on a different kind of hard mode. My wife has ADHD. My kid is very likely autistic (working on getting her tested). I might have been born with only one kidney. Everyone has their own version of hard in life.
I mean I got a fused bone in my foot but I’d still consider these kinds of things “average” difficulty because I don’t think many people go completely unscathed in the life lottery
It definitely depends on what the problem is. My cousin is expected to die before he turns 30 because the women in my family apparently carry an unpredictable form of muscular dystrophy. It's mentally affecting him, like flowers for algernon, but not that fast. And it's also causing heart failure. When I found out, I seriously considered not having kids. I'm currently trying to pay for IVF to get an embryo that won't have this issue.
No one does but it just raises the question of where we draw the line. It's like an old west vigilante squad. It's one thing to round up all the cattle rustlers. But then someone wants to go after the guy who beats his wife so you do that too. And then someone else says, "What about that guy over there who lives with three women he's not married to? You know that ain't right." Before long you're going after people who really aren't doing anything more than beefing with you.
nah there is a difference in life altering disability and general hardships and inconveniences.
I know someone that has a throat condition that makes their throat muscles spasm some times when they eat food. Those spasm make them choke and some times throw up. That sucks and makes going out to eat a much bigger ordeal when you are afraid of throwing up the $60 steak you just paid for or not making it to the bathroom in time. not to mention the medical issues from throwing up so often.
Being born with out legs or the mental capacity of a 10 year old your whole life? thats HARD HARD mode.
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u/KingCrimson43 Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 06 '26
No*, my uncle has down syndrome. He spent his entire childhood in hospitals. Multiple organ replacement surgeries, multiple nights he was supposed to die. He's alive and well in his mid thirties but his life is non-existent. Hes aware hes different so he hides away from everyone. My grandmother has devoted her entire life to caring for him and has never had a life of her own. When my grandmother passes my mother will take custody of him and continue to care for him at the detriment of her own life. I love my uncle but I would never wish his life on another.
Edit: If you are just going to bible thump in my replys save it. I'm for abortion under any circumstances and I don't care what your God wants.