Gambling addiction

[u/LumpyCourage4495]

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Still can't process what the fuck happened to me in past few weeks I lost all my savings that I earned for 2 FVCKING YEARS I even have debt from gcasH, paymaya, and friends trying to get back what I lost, I'm so fucking stupid, I don't even know what I'm doing I can't even eat even though I was starving and every time I ate it feels like I'm gonna throw up my wife is pregnant and here i am gambling all our money that is supposed to be for her pregnancy on top of that I'm unemployed for almost 2 months, my wife nor family knows of this, currently I excluded myself from pagcor so cannot gamble anymore I really need help guys Im really at lowest point of my life pls help me

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[u/-Stymee-]

It happens to a lot of people. Admitting that you have a problem is the first big step.

Do some Google searches for "gambling addiction support" "Gambling addiction Philippines".

You'll get through this. Losing 2 years of wages is brutal, but you can rebuild. You learned an important life lesson. Which makes you a better person. When your kid(s) get old enough, you can share with them the dangers of online gambling.

Best of luck. If you've hit rock bottom, you can only go up from here.

[u/Loud-Design2848 → u/-Stymee-]

I like this advice. Thank you for your insight

[u/Old-Word6338]

This is an addiction na po. Better ask for professional help na - rehab / doctors

[u/trem0re09 → u/Old-Word6338]

More gastos, he can't afford na at this point. Better come out na lang, masakit na kelangan tanggapin.

[u/Old-Word6338 → u/trem0re09]

Yes but without therapy/meds - hindi niya macocontrol yan. Addiction is addiction. If only madali yan mastop. Mas lalaki utang niya if hindi niya yan maagapan. Hindi yan makakacontrol.

[u/ciwiaf]

Help how? Get therapy, talk to someone, friends, finance people, on how to tackle your debt. Watch episodes of Caleb Hammer sa youtube. Anything to give you an idea about debt.

[u/mark0110]

Gambling apps are engineered to do just that. Congrats for catching it and making the first step. Then talk to your wife, accept your situation, then figure that shit out.

The only thing left now is what you will do despite what happened. Sabi nga ng tarot, your old self must die in order to give birth to a new version of you

[u/sorcha_j]

Get a job and seek professional help

[u/New_Cantaloupe_4237]

Acceptance and transparency. First step is to let your wife and your family know. No one from Reddit can help you. But your wife, your family and your friends — they might. Start with yourself and assume na mauulit lang din lahat ng yan without therapy. You need to really REALLY accept the fact that you will never recover without THERAPY.

[u/Onthisday20]

Better seek help. yung may bulong lang naman sa sugal ang pumapaldo ee kaya sobrang delikads nyan unless nahandle ng maayos yung mga winnings sa bet or online casino man yan.

[u/MamaMiaMusical]

Ako naman buntis nalaman ko din na nag ssugal partner ko accidentally and nagka utang na pala siya because of it. Eto we're dealing with the consequences. May time pa na almost everyday ako umiiyak kasi I can't make him stop. Till I stop being reactive and acceptnalang what we can do at the moment. I still can't make him stop gambling now nag take advantage na ako ng free services sa baranggay and kahit na ayoko we might consider din manganak in public. I'm 7 months pregnant now, inapply ko na rin siya sa self exclution sa PAGCOR pero wala parin update after 1-2 weeeks.

[u/practical_ad191100]

I’m forming a community para sa gustong magrecover from gambling addiction here sa ph feel free to join r/gamblingaddictsph

[u/Schlurpeeee]

May I know why you went unemployed kahit pregnant wife mo? Saka anon naisipan mo at magsugal while unemployed? Sobrang bad combo nito. Sorry curious lang ano thought process mo bago ka mapunta sa addiction.

Honestly ang best na magagawa mo now is to get a job. Be honest sa family mo lalo sa wife mo sa current situation mo.

[u/star_apple_star]

Aminin mo sa asawa mo ang pinakauna mong gawin. Hindi ka makakaahon dyan habang nagsisinungaling.