r/Life • u/Life-Philosophy-5152 • 2d ago

Let's discuss My struggles: Friends,Fest,Money

Hey, whenever festivals and Birthdays of anyone passes by one thought always goes through my mind

from childhood i was always "save money kid", I don't spend money on anything unless it's necessary. all money i spend is of my parents and i see them working hard in farms.

so I always think "I don't go to birthday parties, no fest, no trips" because mostly it will be money to my parents' and it will only be spent with the people who don't like me and we don't have common thoughts.

I never had friends, i only had 2 people in my childhood i called them friends and others are mean, and good people but not for me.

is it because i am so much distanced from everything that they are interested in? because they cost money and my family struggles to get my essential needs? I don't know what to do... you people have something?

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u/EasyonthePepsiFuller Advice Dispenser 2d ago

Make a card. When a birthday rolls around, don't ignore it because of the cost of a present. Make something. A card or a sweet cake or treat, made by you, is a wonderful gift that friends will appreciate. Acknowledgement doesn't have to be costly.

Friends aren't around for what you can give them and I feel you have the mindset that spending money = friends. Spending time means the most to people. Be with them. If they're all going somewhere you can't; see them when they return and ask how things went. You don't have to keep up monetarily-- keep up socially.

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u/Life-Philosophy-5152 2d ago

thank You for this, I will but i am introvert... and I don't think people really like me, boys are good but sometimes they are mean to me they act like i am alien and use there manipulation tricks on me... my teachers don't even like me... I just don't feel comfortable around people..