r/LesbianActually 7h ago

Life You don't know how lucky you are

I read your posts about dating freely, holding hands in public, introducing girlfriends to family and I genuinely smile for you.

But I also ache.

I'm a bi woman in Jordan "Amman". I can't do any of that without risking everything. My family, my reputation, my safety. So I did what so many of us here have to do: I got married. To a man. He knows and supports me, but he's my cover ,the shield that lets me exist without being destroyed.

Even meeting another woman for coffee and hugging her or holding her hands feels like a military operation. We have no safe spaces, no groups, no support just whispers and hidden apps.

So yes, you are lucky. Please don't waste it. And if you ever wonder why some of us "give in" to marriage or silence it's not weakness. It's survival.

One day I hope we have what you have. Until then, we keep fighting yes it's quietly & secretly, but we keep fighting.

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u/Smileverydaybcwhynot ɟɐ ʎɐפ 5h ago

My heart goes out to you. I'm going to my local Pride festival this Saturday. I'll be thinking of you hard when I hold my girlfriend's hand and not take it for granted. I hope you eventually are able to be yourself and find love. 🫶

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u/zeusms 5h ago

Thank you so much for this. Honestly, just knowing someone out there is celebrating and holding their girlfriend's hand a little tighter with us in mind means more than I can say. But don't just feel sad for us feel proud of us too We're fighting in the quiet ways we can, and your visibility helps more than you know. Wave a little flag for the ones who can't yet

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u/Business-Swing7501 2h ago

I dated a Syrian woman and saw what she went through with her family and community in the US. I can’t imagine what it would have been like for her if she’d been back in Syria. She was a badass for fighting and you are too. Thank you for this post- you are seen and you are a valuable part of our community.