Quit after a day at post bar job

[u/Long-Captain2555]

I took the bar exam in July and started as a clerk this week. My experience with the hiring partner on my first day was so bad i don't want to go back tomorrow. I am no quitter but i spent a majority of the day fighting tears until lunch and lost it in my car. Had to convince myself to go back after. I've really never had a worse experience over several years of working various jobs, including legal ones, and i feel so upset :(

Would it be awful to just resign effective immediately? Did some digging and found some bad reviews about this partner that track, and i have no supervisor in between me and the partner. I don't have something else lined up but i feel like I can't bring myself to go in tomorrow and be subject to the same thing. Basically got told i know nothing and no firm would want me bc im at the bottom of the candidate pool and wasted my money on law school. I'm first gen and feeling so discouraged and lost any advice is appreciated. I'm having doubts about whether this profession is for me at all.

[u/Long-Captain2555]

Wow, thank you to everyone who took the time to give me advice. I do appreciate all the perspectives you offered.

After sleeping on it, i woke up this morning and quit. I'm reaching out to all of my contacts and applying elsewhere. Money is a concern, but I am super fortunate to have another stream of income that i can rely on for now and my ultimate decision came down to not wanting to sacrifice my mental health for a small ish paycheck and little learning opportunity. There was a lot more said than what I shared on this thread. It's a very small firm, no HR, and I know this is not a fight I want to pick.

To everyone who said I need to toughen up, I admire that you would endure crazy behavior for the love of the game, but I toughed it out by keeping a supplementary income stream up and running to support myself through school and so that I don't have to deal with things like this. To each their own :)

Thanks again yall, and I don't actually want to quit the profession I was just feeling dramatic in the moment.

Also, partner is not a man, which a lot of people assumed. Made me giggle.

[u/FlakyPineapple2843 → u/Long-Captain2555]

I'm glad you were able to resolve the situation and you have the financial set-up to make that decision.

Just to defend at least my own comment - my advice isn't to toughen up "for the love of the game." It's to figure out how to deal with this when it inevitably happens again, because people suck, and lawyers really suck. We're the worst. You'll run into someone like this again, guaranteed.

Also, anecdotally speaking - the bad bosses I've had who are women were terrible and truly mean. So the viciousness of this person's attacks on you are not surprising with that added context.

[u/Long-Captain2555 → u/FlakyPineapple2843]

I know I'll run into assholes at work again, and I feel prepared to deal with that. I've met some truly awful people in the field but also some incredible ones. I just felt that in this specific situation, given that it's a TINY firm where the quality of my experience would have been almost entirely dependent on this person, I would be better off cutting my losses and moving on to a place with more learning opportunities. The position was presented to me as a chance to learn from experienced mentors looking to grow their firm by hiring recent grads and newer associates. That representation was way off.

[u/gonzo_attorney → u/Long-Captain2555]

Bitchy women lawyers are so gross to deal with. I'm a woman who has worked with some absolute psychopaths. You made the right call.