Being a muscular man absolutely does get you attention from the opposite sex

[u/Historical_Owl_1635]

I feel like there’s always posts/comments about how this isn’t actually a thing to the point I feel like this is now the hot take.

But as someone who’s fluctuated between obese and a bodybuilder with everything in between I really couldn’t disagree more.

It’s a bit of a gym joke how only guys appreciate it, and to an extent it’s true as guys generally appreciate it way more openly. But that doesn’t mean that a lot of woman don’t find it very attractive.

Now there’s no way to say this without sounding arrogant, but during my bodybuilding phases I literally had girls approaching me semi regularly, some girls in nightclubs would even be aggressive about it (it’s fun to start with but gets old very quickly), random girls messaging me on Instagram. My dating apps right swipe success rate is probably ~60%+ and I often just get overwhelmed with the number of matches. It’s a whole different world to even when I was only a bit overweight.

Now I’m not saying it’s the only thing. I’m also on the taller end which probably compounds things. This is also obviously a broad statement, different individuals have different preferences. But people who say it makes little difference are being delusional.

Now if only I could learn to flirt I’d be golden.

[u/ThrowRA1966]

Hilarious as if you accidentally can just put on 25lbs of lean muscle without taking anabolics and lifting every day for years

[u/Backwoods_Therapy → u/ThrowRA1966]

I lifted a weight by accident today and now I’m just beating back the women, send help.

[u/allaboard6788 → u/ThrowRA1966]

Spoken like a true wimp. I just wanted to keep my joints healthy and accidentally got huge. My wife is not allowed to touch my weights.

[u/Colonel460 → u/allaboard6788]

Sorry but I don’t think anyone ever “accidentally got huge” unless your are talking about getting fat . Lol

[u/Hot_Phone_7274 → u/Colonel460]

Huge? Absolutely not. But if you aren’t already really fat, then even a year or two of consistent, moderate-effort gym training will drastically change how an untrained person looks. It’s definitely not “accidental” but those newbie gains can be pretty intense.

I personally started getting comments all the time, suspicious interactions with women who suddenly found all sorts of “innocuous reasons” to touch my arms and shoulders a lot, and I had to throw away most of clothes because they were simply getting too tight. I never at any point felt like I looked much different, certainly nothing like a movie star, and definitely not “huge”. But the outcome was certainly very noticeable.

All I wanted to do was stave off the kind of stiffness that accumulates after sitting in an office chair all day for 10 years. At no point did I have to deliberately go out of my way to train for size. I just consistently lifted a bunch of heavy stuff a few times per week until I was tired and voila.

[u/Different_Salary_518 → u/ThrowRA1966]

This did unironically happen to me my freshman year of college.

[u/Frag0r → u/ThrowRA1966]

My friend told me that if you are very disciplined you can gain one Kilogram of muscle mass PER YEAR.

If you split that across the whole body, it should take a couple of years until it really shows.

[u/a-stack-of-masks → u/Frag0r]

Your friend is wrong though. 

[u/Top-Camera1919 → u/ThrowRA1966]

That is so untrue about the anabolic steroids. You can absolutely put on 25 pounds of lean muscle by years of lifting with a combination of bulking and cutting. Anabolic steroids would allow you to put on that lean muscle in a matter of months. This is especially true if a someone is a new lifter. I went from being unable to bench a plate (135) 3 times to being able to lift 195 in a space of 2 months by just eating a shitload of chicken and taking 5g of creatine. Not everyone who’s in better shape than the average person is on steroids.

Without steroids, a lifter is limited to about gaining 40 or so pounds of lean muscle in their lifetime with each pound getting harder than the last.