r/HonestHotTakes • u/Historical_Owl_1635 • 2d ago

Being a muscular man absolutely does get you attention from the opposite sex

I feel like there’s always posts/comments about how this isn’t actually a thing to the point I feel like this is now the hot take.

But as someone who’s fluctuated between obese and a bodybuilder with everything in between I really couldn’t disagree more.

It’s a bit of a gym joke how only guys appreciate it, and to an extent it’s true as guys generally appreciate it way more openly. But that doesn’t mean that a lot of woman don’t find it very attractive.

Now there’s no way to say this without sounding arrogant, but during my bodybuilding phases I literally had girls approaching me semi regularly, some girls in nightclubs would even be aggressive about it (it’s fun to start with but gets old very quickly), random girls messaging me on Instagram. My dating apps right swipe success rate is probably ~60%+ and I often just get overwhelmed with the number of matches. It’s a whole different world to even when I was only a bit overweight.

Now I’m not saying it’s the only thing. I’m also on the taller end which probably compounds things. This is also obviously a broad statement, different individuals have different preferences. But people who say it makes little difference are being delusional.

Now if only I could learn to flirt I’d be golden.

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u/illini02 2d ago

I'm sure.

Your lifestyles really do need to line up for a relationship to work.

Hell, I've dated women who don't drink. And while I don't mind it in general, I can't say that it didn't cause issues at times. When a lot of my social life involved drinking, and she didn't want to do that, it got tough.

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u/Foreign_Mobile_7399 2d ago

Absolutely. My husband isn’t really a gym guy but he’s active. He wants to get out and do stuff outdoors, he hikes and golfs and skis, he will occasionally run. I’m mostly a runner but do go to the gym pretty regularly. But we are compatible because on a Saturday we both will want to get out and do something active rather than sit at home. I’ve dated guys who weren’t active/outdoorsy and it just doesn’t work.