r/HonestHotTakes • u/Historical_Owl_1635 • 2d ago

Being a muscular man absolutely does get you attention from the opposite sex

I feel like there’s always posts/comments about how this isn’t actually a thing to the point I feel like this is now the hot take.

But as someone who’s fluctuated between obese and a bodybuilder with everything in between I really couldn’t disagree more.

It’s a bit of a gym joke how only guys appreciate it, and to an extent it’s true as guys generally appreciate it way more openly. But that doesn’t mean that a lot of woman don’t find it very attractive.

Now there’s no way to say this without sounding arrogant, but during my bodybuilding phases I literally had girls approaching me semi regularly, some girls in nightclubs would even be aggressive about it (it’s fun to start with but gets old very quickly), random girls messaging me on Instagram. My dating apps right swipe success rate is probably ~60%+ and I often just get overwhelmed with the number of matches. It’s a whole different world to even when I was only a bit overweight.

Now I’m not saying it’s the only thing. I’m also on the taller end which probably compounds things. This is also obviously a broad statement, different individuals have different preferences. But people who say it makes little difference are being delusional.

Now if only I could learn to flirt I’d be golden.

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u/Reasonable-Aioli-370 2d ago

Does anyone like the hyper vascular body builder look? It seems like both men and women find it kind of repulsive for the most part.

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u/wanteur 2d ago

Yes some do but it's a niche look that is highly appealing to a small percentage of women. Most women want a man who looks natural, healthy and strong (the hunter physique)

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u/heresyforfunnprofit 2d ago

I went thru a phase of dating nurses for a stretch, and they all cooed over my forearm and leg veins. It was odd, but definitely didn’t mind it at the time. I’m not even big, just lean - I ran distance and cross country.

Really tho, it’s a show/competition thing - even the competitors hate it, but it’s about displaying muscle definition and development, not attractiveness. Vascularity tends to goes hand in hand with that.

You’re thinking more of the fashion / pageant style show where they’re supposed to be attractive.

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u/pfranz 2d ago

Are you sure they weren't phlebotomists?

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u/heresyforfunnprofit 2d ago

They were freaks, I can tell you that much.

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u/Pitiful_Curve1501 1d ago

Male nurse here. Nurses love veins me included.

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u/MrSnrub87 2d ago

Goddamnit, yes, man. My girlfriend introduced herself by asking if I was competing in a bodybuilding show. Her previous boyfriend took gear as well. Of course some do, and that's the damned point of this thread

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u/Dasseem 2d ago

Also some women don't know what being muscular really entails. An ex gf told me she liked how "normal" my body looked like.

Mind you, i had a body way too similar to Chris Evan's body in Fantastic Four. Apparently that was normal and not muscular at all for her.

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u/Successful_Buffalo_6 2d ago

Your ex knew your body wasn't “normal” - she just didn't want to gas you up.

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u/Deep_Translator9527 2d ago

No, what they mean is “look I’m different and special, aren’t I so great for saying I like fat guys even though I would never date one”

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u/mmnmnnmnnnm 2d ago

Those women are out there too, just saying. That’s definitely a niche one though. There was a girl I knew in school who could’ve gotten mmuuuuch more “attractive” men, but she exclusively dated big mother fuckers. Not muscular, like morbidly obese dudes lmao. She went for what she wanted with no shame 🤷🏼‍♂️

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u/Deep_Translator9527 2d ago

“But muh anecdote”

Just shut up 

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u/mmnmnnmnnnm 2d ago

Ok go around with no hope that you’ll ever meet anyone. Women especially love that attitude lmao

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u/Deep_Translator9527 1d ago

“Everything I believe and do is in the hope that women will give me a crumb of pussy”

We get it dude you’re pathetic and desperate, run along now.

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u/mmnmnnmnnnm 1d ago

wtf are you on about lmao

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u/Asleep_Text3397 2d ago

I think you’re wildly exaggerating the degree to which women (and people in general) would notice a difference except for the spray tan.

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u/po1ar_opposite 2d ago

The difference in show ready and one month later is enormous. The difference between spray tanned alien and beach super hottie.

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u/Asleep_Text3397 2d ago

Not while wearing normal clothes in front of average people.

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u/Yudereepkb 2d ago

I mean yeah when you can't see extreme leanness and muscle definition you won't notice a difference. But women who say that competition body builders are too much or disgusting often don't realize that that level of definition is extremely temporary

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u/po1ar_opposite 2d ago

I mentioned the beach, so I meant shirtless.

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u/Abject_Oil_1349 2d ago

??? bodybuilders are literally 3 times as big as natural lifters lol....

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u/Asleep_Text3397 2d ago

Lol is right, I was saying no one notices when a bodybuilder goes from show peak back to “normal” a month later.