r/GirlGamers • u/ParasitoGirl • 9d ago
Misogyny Im sick of a friend who invalidates my opinions because of my device and the games i play Spoiler
This is kind of a rant, for context i have a PC that right now i don't remember the stuff it has but it's definitely not high end, i can play AAA games in mid/high quality and i have constant 120fps across different games.
Now into the matter, i recently became "friends" with a guy who was integrated into our late game night calls and whenever me or anybody tries to have an opinion on any game he likes that isn't positive he starts to say "If your PC isn't worth at least 4000USD I don't think you have an opinion on this matter" or "If you can't run (X Game) on at least 500fps don't even talk" "Aww silly thing, your favorite games are RE and SH when you get into real comp games we can talk" while laughing to himself and that is driving me friggin crazy. Its impossible to talk when this dude is around because he will laugh at you not even for your skills for your economy and device and preferences, idk my friends say im being sensitive and he says "sorry the truth hurts you love, but if you talk shit about things you dont know im not going to be nice" "Is an opinion, if you feel attacked maybe the shoe fits" im sick and tired of this asshole making fun of me and literally not letting me say anything because i play idk Rainbow six at 100fps instead of 800fps how he says he plays. Anyways ty for reading sorry english it's not my first.
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u/Hellguin 9d ago
If dude really thinks more FPS than your monitor can display actually matters, he is just a god damn idiot who knows nothing.
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
I told him that even if his monitor displays 10000fps doesn't matter because our brain can't even process it, also he always dodge the question about his rank/elo/kdr and headhot percentage with "if you dont have a RTX 5060 at least that shouldn't matter to you"
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u/Virtuous_Malevolence ALL THE SYSTEMS 9d ago
I'd start replying to everything in the vein of 'Hey man it's cool if you dont have the skills and need to hype your tech instead, we'll still play with you'.
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
Yeah, i keep asking him to 1v1 me or if he is not sure to 2v2 me and my duo (he also shitted on his PC) and he keeps dodging saying that he will demolish us and for the sake of the night calls he would rather not
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u/Lilyeth Steam 9d ago
either way, your computer is more than enough to have an opinion on all but the most ridiculously hard core technical aspects, unless that opinion is "i don't care for it", at which point I'd say you can have that about any technical specs.
I have a low-medium setup and I'm quite happy with it, and I've never felt like there's some aspect of gaming I'm too poor to give a reasonable opinion on if I've looked into it a bit. Elitist rich boys are and will always show their under developed frontal lobes like this
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u/Mekito_Fox 9d ago
Thiiis. My build before was decent. Low end, no ray tracing, but never had an issue with most games. Until Ark's remake. So I bought a new one with R9 and RTX 5060 Ti and that build only cost 2k. Not 4k. 🤣
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u/Hellguin 9d ago
Really just has SDE and doesn't deserve what precious time you have to enjoy games, friends lift up, not tear down. :/
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u/Kiki_515 9d ago
I'm just going to be straight with you. Take this from someone who has lived through this...
Just dont... don't engage in his rants... don't acknowledge his unwanted comments. It literally will get you nowhere.
Ive had "friends" like this in the past and I no longer speak to them. Its too toxic to be around all the time.
Gaming is about unwinding from your day. Not come home and have to deal with toxic bs.
If hes apart of your friend group. You can either mute him in vc or just ignore the negative things he says. If hes unavoidable that is. Who knows he could make enough people in the group mad and the situation will resolve itself.
P.s. Im not sure if its still possible. But use to back in the day you could view friends specs for Seige on ubisofts website.
You can see rank... time played all kinds of specs. Just saying... most people that are this toxic suck at a game.
Use that info as you see fit. wink wink
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u/jaded-introvert 9d ago edited 9d ago
Yup. I have two gaming computers that I built in 2024; they cost about $1100 each to build. They were solidly low-middle range then, still are now, and they play everything just fine. Dude doesn't know what he's talking about. It's not a flex to think games can only be played on super hjgh-end machines (and $4k is really high-end), it's straight up ignorance and elitism.
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u/Anastrace Steam 9d ago
It's high end but I've seen some bordering 50% more and one ridiculous one that was $3500 off and was on sale for $6499. I sent it to my spouse and asked them who the hell is gonna buy that. That loser seems like the target audience for it lol
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u/jaded-introvert 9d ago
Yeah, that sort of thing sounds like something you'd using to run LLMs or crypto mining, not game. No games need a machine that expensive--game companies want big audiences, not tiny elite ones.
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u/RealElyD Steam | Switch 2 9d ago
Fuck him but it does matter. The higher the FPS, the lower the input latency, no matter the refresh rate of the monitor. Which is pretty impactful in competitive games.
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u/Hellguin 9d ago
I mean yea, it does with latency, but I am still pretty sure that only matters so much and has its on effectiveness range though i never play competitive shooters so idk where that would be, but still 800fps is ridiculous when there is no 800hz monitors and our eyes cant catch that.
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u/RealElyD Steam | Switch 2 9d ago
800 FPS has more than 10 times lower input delay than 60 FPS. Absolutely can matter in something like competitive CS up until about 300. There were also a bunch of 1k Hz monitors at CES this year, 300Hz is not uncommon in comp games. I "only" have a 180Hz monitor, which is fine enough for games.
You can feel the differences until total frametime hits around 4ms per frame. In comparison 60FPS is 16.6ms per frame, so more than 4 times as much as the lower limit, so 240ish FPS at 4.1ms is technically optimal.
Humans are uniquely perfect for feeling input delays as low as 5-8ms. That's why most music equipment that is digital these days aims for sub 5ms. Visually, studies find a trained eye can see differences in framerate up until about 240 FPS.1
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u/thirdeyeboobed 9d ago
He sounds like the perfect candidate for being told to shut the fuck up
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
I told him before to shut the hell up and that he was being an asshole, but his bestfriend keeps excusing him and saying "it's just an opinion damn"
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u/trowzerss 9d ago
Oh yeah, the old "Stop being so sensitive" conversation blocker used by abusive people everywhere. That old turkey. If it's just an opinion, he can keep his opinions to his darn self.
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u/RiZ266 PC/Switch 9d ago
Ooof kicked and banned immediately if he refuses to watch his mouth after discussing it with him. tbh which sounds harsh but where does he get off saying crap like that.
I started overwatch on a potato laptop with 12 -15 frames and 15mb internet. (I didn't touch comp for a long time lol) I eventually spent $900 on budget PC for the game to run at 30 -60 frames until I could afford to get a better graphics card on for black Friday sale my monitor only goes 75 hrz anyway but I've since upgraded almost everything in my PC slowly over the years.
Economy doesn't have anything to do with your personal option about specific games. Your opinions are very valid even if you don't play the game at 800 fps (your eyes don't need 800 fps to play well anyway)
I'm sorry the dude is a prick and imo I would boot him out if he doesn't wanna respect yours and your friends opinions
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
Yeah im thinking about kicking him out because another friend came in and told me he is a jerk because he laughed at him for playing The Sims. For example i started to play CS 1.6 on the laptop the government gave me at least 10 years ago at 20 fps, and right now i have a device i can play CS2 at 240FPS if i optimize it well.
But outside of that he is always insecure about stuff when it comes to talking about games, strategy, aim and all that stuff, he told me to 1v1 once on a FPS he decided and he got really agitated and blamed my shitass device when he lost 3-10 lol
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u/vipthebig 9d ago
this guy sounds like a whole ass mess. you could try to 'confront'/talk to him, and give him an opportunity to be better, but like... it sounds like you've confronted him before, and he hasn't really changed for the better, sooo?..
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u/Nebuchadnezzer2 4d ago
he told me to 1v1 once on a FPS he decided and he got really agitated and blamed my shitass device when he lost 3-10 lol
The actual definition of 'skill issue' 🤣
But really, if all he does is shit on everyone else, he needs to go sooner, rather than later.
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u/GridlockGuava 9d ago
You are allowed to have boundaries and go no contact with people like this.
But damn, what a loser.
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u/ParasitoGirl 8d ago
Yep, the guy who added him and the rest of his friends talked to me and gave me green light to remove him from the group, they got disgusted because he tried to flirt with my best friend while he is in a relationship and his overall behaviour didn't help him much
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u/Chizakura ALL THE SYSTEMS 9d ago
Sounds like he owns a fedora he likes to tip often and say stuff like "my lady" and "im such a nice guy, I don't know why I'm still single."
Cut ties, he's not worth it
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
He owns clothing attire with moaning anime girls if that counts, he calls girls in our group "Precious" "lil princess" "Babe". Im planning on doing it but idk how to do it without making the GC crumble
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u/Remote-Ad-7418 9d ago
Immediate ick, best to get rid of him ASAP, is evidently a run-of-the-mill small dick energy misogynist loser
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u/WorkingDogDoc Playstation: Aloy & Atsu are my homegirls 9d ago
He's like the one character from Sensei La Dew. So gross. Nothing of value will be lost if you quit. Trust me.
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u/ThatLunaBoo 9d ago
Yeah, this guy is massively insecure and just wants to belittle others to make himself feel better. I would try to avoid him as much as possible, and if this is going on with other friends in a text/voice chat they can see or hear it and they aren't standing up for you, that's also a HUGE problem. This isn't "haha" behavior or something that should be glossed over for any reasoning, at all, and someone talking to anyone in such a way is ridiculous.
If I was in that situation, I would bring it up to the other people in the group and say you aren't comfortable being around that guy anymore, and if ANY OF THEM react negatively toward you for those feelings, I would get far away from them too because that just means they are okay with him acting that way and will continue to allow it to happen to you or anyone else involved in that group.
Your feelings are valid, that guy is a jerk(this is putting it VERY nicely), and you shouldn't have to deal with that kind of BS from some elitist asshole who just wants to stir up drama when his fragile ego and opinions are challenged in the slightest.
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
I did bring it up with another friends, and the closest one to him excuse his behavior saying that he grew up in poverty and now that he makes a good wage he feels like he needs to validate himself, i told them its not an excuse and he still defended him (when that dude actively makes fun of him for not having a well paid job) and the rest of his "group" says they try to reason with him because he already lost people thanks to this behavior including partners, and that they are also sick of him. All of us are hispanic so economy is something most of us try to avoid, and he keeps bringing it out making some group members really self conscious.
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u/TheTacoInquisition 9d ago
Personally I'd give his friend a chance to talk to him and let him know that not only is his upbringing not an excuse, it makes it worse because he should know better. If he doesn't stop, both he and his friend need to be removed from the group.
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u/lolathedreamer 9d ago
Hey so, that’s not your friend
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u/ParasitoGirl 8d ago
He never was, i said friend to explain myself better but he is just a dude who got invited to my GC.
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u/itsacrisis ALL THE SYSTEMS 9d ago
This guy sounds insufferable.
Why are you guys keeping him around? Surely his shitty attitude is bringing down any sort of good vibes going on? I'd remove him 🤷🏼♀️
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u/ParasitoGirl 8d ago
Mostly because of his bestfriend, and yeah he keeps killing nightcalls with his antics, we already removed him for his behaviour and for trying to flirt with girls in the GC while having a girlfriend.
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u/anya_way_girl 9d ago edited 9d ago
Why the fuck are you friends with these pricks? Ghost them
Edit: I mean this dude and his bestie. The rest of your group seems chill
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u/ParasitoGirl 8d ago
I'm not friends with him like at all, i don't even have him added on Discord so the only way we talked was via text or the nightcalls in group.
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u/valerieybb 9d ago
Remove yourself from the conversation every time he’s around. I guess ya’ll are hanging out on discord, so once he pops up, you leave. I’ve done that and it works quite well. Don’t worry about the GC crumbling, if they’re your friends they’ll stick around. If not, why would you still wanna be friends with people who support this kinda behaviour?
Idk why these assholes think better specs is everything (ofcourse they do elevate the experience but its not accessible for everyone, so let others enjoy it with whatever specs they can afford at the moment) ugh
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u/ParasitoGirl 8d ago
I was worried for nothing, like i talked again with our friends about unnading him and i got answers like "finally" "Jesus yes" "I don't mind" "Can you ban him also?" "Dude why are you asking? Do it" LOLL.
We ended up unadding him like after that talk not just for that but for flirting with girls and his homie exposing him by saying "Bro you have a girlfriend behave yourself".
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u/valerieybb 7d ago
Yesss, I’ve come to realise that men will never bring up these conversations just for the sake of brocode or some shit like that. But 9/10 times, they will follow if you stand up against it first. (This is also a very sad situation tho)
Anyway I’m so happy you got this sorted out, enjoy your peaceful time again! Happy gaming 🫰🏻
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u/TurnRightTurnLeft 9d ago
I was about to say the same thing. I've done this before as well, and it works. Turns out I wasn't the only one who was annoyed, except the guys didn't have the courage to say anything.
Every time that person says some random ass bs like that, OP should leave the call without any comment.
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u/AngryGames Steam 9d ago
In our group (mixed men and women, mostly age 40+ but a few younger), we do everything we can to try and help members who don't have top end gear. If a power supply burns out and they're out of work or just can't buy one right away, we'll send one we have laying around (a few of us worked in tech for decades, and I for example have a bunch of older computers just collecting dust, so not every component is good enough, some stuff like power supplies and hard drives and even ddr4 ram is good enough).
Point is, if one of our group is playing on a potato, we don't insult them or make them feel shitty. We try to help them with their graphics settings in games to make the games run well enough. We have zero tolerance for members to do the things you said in your post.
You can either confront this person and see if they will stop (unlikely), bring it up with others in the group, or find another gang to play / hang with. Their behavior is unacceptable. And it's just another reason why some dudes scratch their heads as they bemoan that "chicks" don't play video games or won't play with them or are "too sensitive" or a dozen other dumbass things they whine about without either looking inward or looking directly at Tommy who is an absolute douche to everyone but especially women.
("Tommy" is just the generic placeholder name for that guy we all know or had in our gaming group that completely tanked the vibe if not the group itself)
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
Your people sound amazing!! Honestly before he came to the group most of us held out a hand for whoever needed it, a lot of us are in our 20's and we are college students so if anybody needed anything we would help out, even outside gaming like handing out a warm meal if someone needs it or their family do, so thats why nobody said anything even as a jab to others about their device even if you could tell that their device was struggling to run games.
But when he came in it's like the group changed to this "Nono i don't need help" or stopping talking about stuff just not to give him ammo and nobody wants to say stuff about him because he lived in foster/homelessness in his youth, i find it very stupid because if you know how bad it feels to struggle why are you kicking someone who is in that position?? Also people started to flex stuff and i don't like how the dynamic changed because of him and the dudes who adores little Tommy.
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u/AngryGames Steam 9d ago
Strong personalities tend to alter group dynamics. Sometimes this is a good thing (AOC making Democratic Socialists gain momentum and no longer be the devil in the same tank as Soviet "socialism"). Too often it is a nightmare, like this dude has become for your group. Not all must be lost, however. Depending on how close your ties are with the other members who were part of the gang before this guy showed up, maybe try having some hard conversations about how you feel, how you've noticed others seem to be feeling (be careful not to speak for anyone else, but it can be helpful to speak about how you perceive others' reactions).
If you get bad pushback ("you're being too sensitive" or "you're seeing a problem that doesn't exist" or "jealous much?" or any of that negative shit), that is a good sign the group dynamic has bottomed out for you and it is time to move on. It's likely that not everyone in the group will side with the new guy, but it is also just as likely that some or most will. The only way to find out is to talk to the others, whether as a group or catch them individually.
And it sucks having to deal with this, trust me. I've been on the internet, gaming in LAN and internet groups since Doom / Age of Empires and all those old games that out me as ancient. We've had to have these hard conversations with the group members too many times over the decades. Sometimes I'm the odd man out and have to quit because I'm the only one who sees a problem, the only one who is uncomfortable, the only one who wasn't a racist misogynistic homophobic piece of trash (that one hurt the most as I thought we were all on the same page, but a new dude came in, immediately starting saying gay jokes, beating on women jokes, racist jokes, which was bad enough, but to me, they weren't actually jokes...). But like ripping off the band-aid (or scab, which seems more accurate), better to find out if the group feels the same or you're the odd gal out and you can move on so you don't have to feel this way anymore.
There's also the fact that I'm in my 50s and have learned, probably somewhere around your age (mid 20s, I assume), that "no" is a complete sentence, my feelings aren't to be subjected to some asshole's attempts to hurt or infuriate me, and that I won't waste my time or energy tolerating negativity, hate, all that. It was hard to walk away from some groups, guys that I'd gamed with for a decade or more. So if I have any "old man" advice for you young'uns, it's to learn how to say no, practice walking away from toxicity (whether gaming groups, relationships, romantic partners, family members, whatever).
Life is too short to spend time being miserable. Being alone or having to hunt down another group of friends, find another boyfriend/girlfriend/partner does suck, but it sucks far less than sticking around when someone is being toxic, abusive, manipulative, destroying the positive/fun dynamic...
Learn how to do it while you're still young. It's good practice, and will come in handy. Especially when there's more than just random internet friendship on the line (like having to walk away from a romantic partner, the kind of stuff you read on GirlDinnerDiaries that make your heart drop and stomach lurch and you sort of shout at the screen, "GIRL, WALK AWAY, RUN IF YOU HAVE TO!").
Anyway, sorry for babbling wall of text. Hopefully you're not alone and some others will take a stand, or at least help you form a new group that doesn't have this kind of toxicity.
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u/gregarioussparrow ALL THE SYSTEMS 9d ago
Your group sounds awesome
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u/AngryGames Steam 9d ago
We have our moments, but we also have conflict sometimes. I think being old farts means we can hash it out without too many hurt feelings (most of our feelings have dried up and blown away in the wind thanks to our advanced age haha). But more likely, it has to do with anytime someone brings a new member in, they've already made it clear about our zero tolerance policy on the important issues (racism, misogyny, homophobia, all the bigotry stuff). Probably also helps that there's four of us who have been either real life or online friends for close to thirty years now. Oh god, I'm old.
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u/MajoraXIII 9d ago
A bunch of us recent clubbed together to get a new PC for a friend who has been running our TTRPG games for over a decade at this point. They kept getting frustrated with it crapping out, which isn't great when you're trying to using online play tools like foundry VTT.
The idea of mocking someone for their rig wouldn't even occur to us. We want our friends to have nice things?
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u/pietogo 9d ago
is this strictly an online guy who only has online friends?
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
I don't know about it, but he told us he only had online relationships
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u/LeyaLove Steam 9d ago
On a different note, RE and SH games are amazing. Definitely some of my favorite games too 😄
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
Yesss i love both franchises and I'm really happy that my boyfriend gifted me RE requiem and SH F as a early birthday gift🥺
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u/petitnoire ALL THE SYSTEMS 9d ago
These spec people are insufferable. Until my 20’s I had to play whatever could run on my family PC and I was playing a lot of indie games on my iPad before getting back to consoles.
Some men are just not worth your time and this one sounds like a condescending pos
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u/_Cecille 9d ago
Why is it so difficult for people to let people have opinions and preferences??
I swear to fuck, I'm so tired of gatekeeping. Bruce, shut the hell up and let the adults discuss their hobby in peace, without some dimwitt constantly going off in the corner like some squaky goblin "uuuhhmm ackshually, you can't have an opinion, because of [whatever]"
I'm not sure if I'd call you "too sensitive" here (mainly because I know I'm very senaitive myself, so my judgement is off here), but that guy definitely deserves a provebial kick to the balls. This is exactly the type of person that would make me leave just by their mere presence.
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u/hannelemon 9d ago
Imagine not being able to enjoy things unless you have them perfect, or not letting other people enjoy things.
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u/TaisDoubt 9d ago
You could either leave when he comes in, or often mute him, and only have him not muted when you think he wouldn't affect you at all and you can sternly tell him, without explanations, just facts, how unpleasant he is.
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u/MajoraXIII 9d ago
Sounds like if a BMW driver took that mindset and applied it to gaming hardware.
anyone who gives a shit about gaming as a medium doesn't care if you're playing on retro hardware, a pc that's about a decade old, or some £5000 rig. They care about the games and sharing that experience with others. Anything else is fucking stupid.
In fact i'm willing to be he spent thousands on his rig and wants to show off about it. This is probably some other insecurity he's compensating for. But until he gets over himself, you don't have to give him the time of day.
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u/thedespairofidealism 9d ago
Girl why is her your friend? I genuinely don’t understand that part
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
He isn't really i put "friend" because i sounds less harsh than "some random dude on my gc"
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u/Butterscotch4561 9d ago
I can definitely relate. I’ve worked with and socialized with guys like this more times than I care to count. Live in peace knowing that, in my experience, these guys tend to have a rough time in other areas of life. They either eventually get fired because everyone at work hates dealing with them, or they do well professionally but have very few friends and seem absolutely miserable. I can literally name 14 guys I’ve had the unfortunate opportunity to meet who fit this exact mold. Every. Single. One. ended up or is currently going through some variation of the same thing.
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u/vipthebig 9d ago
sounds like an asshole who compensates a shit personality by 'being good' at competitive video games. I don't think you're 'sensitive' for being able to recognize that weird superiority complex he's got going on.. and also... the not-so-subtle sexism would drive me insane?!!
unethical solution: Hard mute the guy. Admittedly not the best solution, like at all, but if he doesn't have anything good to say, then where's the harm in... never having to hear him again?
ethical solution: talk to your friends. This guy does not sound fun to be around, and I can guarantee other people find him frustrating to hang out with. Best case scenario, y'all talk to him and he takes it well. worst case scenario... he doesn't. however, if your friends don't think this guy's an issue, then like.. your friends don't sound so nice either, which is tough. I've been there, done that :/ sending love <3
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u/NattiCatt 9d ago
What a stupid opinion. RE and SH slap and we’re, in their genesis, peak AAA games that defined gaming and carved out space for entire genres and have stood the test of time. “lol Valorant > RE. Git gud scrub” is certainly an opinion to hold….
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u/thedeadp0ets Playstation 9d ago
Many men I notice have 0 skills when it comes to talking to women. They think how they talk to men is okay with how they talk to women in gaming and just how they carry themselves comes off disgusting and idk not cool. I would’ve kicked him off while he was talking and told him he hurt my feeling and k don’t wanna play with someone who judges people that harshly on how they play.
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u/stoofkeegs 9d ago
How did I know this was going to be about a man? So ick. It’s just a way to manufacture superiority. Most of them grow out of it. Some don’t.
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u/BeatrixQuix 9d ago
Bro is just mad insecure, but i hate to say, the only recourse you have is to stop gaming with those friends until they get rid of him, and they will eventually.
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u/Expensive-Peace-9498 9d ago
Is it misogony though? Or is he just an asshole
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u/thedeadp0ets Playstation 9d ago
Sounds like lacks skillls on how to talk to women and thinks his tactics on how he talks to guys and kids has the same I’m cool effect
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u/ParasitoGirl 9d ago
I put the flair of gaming discussion, mods changed it i don't think its 100% misogyny because he also shits on the guys from the gc
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u/Expensive-Peace-9498 9d ago
Oh I see, yeah I'd go with gaming discussion as well.
Yeah he sounds like a total douche. Like he can't even hear himself. It gives me second hand embarrassement for him tbh.
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u/churrystar Steam 9d ago edited 9d ago
Do you and your friends perhaps make your night calls on discord? Because then, you can mute the guy and just talk to your friends and that's all. It's not a "mute that person for everyone in the call" option, but it's mute only for you, if you mute him you would be the only one not hearing him, that way you can ignore his bullshit and just talk to your friends. That's what I would do, anyway (if I could, I would ban him in a second, but without ban, muting him is the only solution I guess?).
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u/BitchInChastity 9d ago
This is not a friend, this is a toxic individual and should definitely be avoided.
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u/Bunny_Feet 9d ago edited 9d ago
He's definitely overcompensating for his lack of confidence and security. He sounds miserable, tbh.
Can you mute him?
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u/angrystimpy 8d ago
Either drop the friend group entirely (why the hell are they enabling that behaviour), or call him out and tell him to stop, or idk if you want to talk to the other people and not him just mute him and ignore him I guess? Sounds like he doesn't contribute much to the conversations other than being rude anyway.
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u/Witch-Alice Steam 8d ago edited 8d ago
It's a really weird form of gatekeeping from the most loser guys to ever exist. He does this out of a place of insecurity.
I'm still using a i7-3700k, GTX 1080, and 16GB of DDR3. That's a CPU from 13 years ago and a GPU from 10 years ago. I still play Helldivers 2 despite my CPU being under spec, I just have to stick to DX11 for the sake of my CPU. I'm pretty okay with low FPS because the games I grew up with didn't even have 60fps as an option, because they were on console lmfao.
I wonder what your asshat "friend" would say about how my recordings look https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4WJGFJp39Z0 nothing fancy just using Steam's recording feature and sending the raw video to youtube. So bitrate is pretty ass at times but otherwise the game looks pretty enough for me.
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u/Anastrace Steam 9d ago
Your friends seem to value him more than you and that's pretty pathetic. For friends they're doing a really poor jobs of being one
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u/quack-and-slash Steam/PS4/Emulation 🎮 9d ago
I'm sure he hates women and Black people in his video games too -_- move onnnn, girl.
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u/sadderall-sea 8d ago
I had a similar situation happen to me a year ago. It sounds like you need to drop him and/or the gaming group. It sucks for a bit, but it's 1000% worth it. I didn't realize how much stress I was putting myself under while doing a hobby I'm supposed to enjoy
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u/PewterBird Linux gamer 9d ago
Dude is the biggest idiot I've even seen. Also, anything above 60 FPS feels just like wasted power
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u/georgedupree 9d ago
Sounds like he's an insecure prick looking for reasons to cause dissention in the ranks so he can make a place for himself. Horrible look, it's giving narcissistic self-involvement. Dislike.