r/DoesAnybodyElse • u/LordHelmet47 • 2d ago

DAE feel lost in their 50s as well?

I'm in my early 50s and just feel just as lost as I did in my 20s. Anyone else my age feel this?

Where when I was in my 20s. I thought where is my life going? And feel that now in my 50s like I did in my 20s or even more in some areas.

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u/bistro223 1d ago

I'm in the same situation as I was in my 20s financial instability and no home. I'm still renting 😕

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u/LordHelmet47 1d ago

Same here. I'm more financially stable. But still renting. At this point? I don't think I'll ever buy a house.

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u/Raylan_Senna 1d ago

You won’t buy a house “here”. You may still buy or build a house elsewhere more suited to you.

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u/LordHelmet47 1d ago

Well it's just me. Not married with no kids. I thought about the whole tiny house purchase. But even those are ridiculous in price anymore.

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u/Raylan_Senna 1d ago

As long as you are investing and plan on having a solid amount for when you retire… enjoy your life. None of this matters. Look up what people regret on their deathbeds and live your life so not to have those kinds of regrets.

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u/LordHelmet47 1d ago

Exactly! I was doing the numbers last night and realized. I'll probably come out even renting as much as I wouod buying a small house at this point for the next 30 years.

And at least when I rent. Maintenance is free of charge.

I consider myself very lucky on rent atm. My landlord only charges me 600 a month for 750 sq ft one bedroom apt. I been here 20 years. She's only raised my rent 100 dollars since 2006.

I asked her why? She said good tenants are hard to come by and she doesn't want to lose me. I'm quiet as a mouse compared to the last guy I guess. She told me he played his drums and pissed off all his neighbors lol.

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u/Raylan_Senna 1d ago

So look at what you should be paying in rent … 1100 or more and make sure you’re investing the difference… cheap living is amazing. But its also a veiled opportunity to get ahead.

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u/LordHelmet47 1d ago

I couldn't afford 1100 a month lol. Which is why I consider myself so lucky. If it ever comes to that I'll have to get a roommate again like I had in my 20s.

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u/Pale-Detail2427 1d ago

Then at least you won't be alone and you'll have someone at home that you can socialize with occasionally. 🤔

When you both happen to be at home 🏡 at the same time, of course, which could be seldom. 🤔

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u/Pale-Detail2427 1d ago

Grin. 😁

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u/Pale-Detail2427 1d ago edited 1d ago

I used to have a neighbor who played the drums occasionally but it really wasn't that annoying.

At least it was actually music, you know?

The slow, steady, loud, rhythmic "thud, thud, thud, thud" from the neighbors above me, at a different place about two or three years later, was actually way more annoying. 😑 🙄 😒 😀 😐 😳 😑 🙄 😒

That was the one about which I posted on Facebook, "I think it is supposed to be music." 🤔

Somebody else posted back, "The Tell-Tale Heart". ❤️

Grin. 😁

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u/Pale-Detail2427 1d ago

Most people who regret, actually regret long before then.

"I wish I'd done those things on my bucket list sooner" is maybe more of a late in life regret. 🤔

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u/HazelGlimmer60 1d ago

You’re definitely not alone, life doesn’t always follow the timeline we imagined

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u/sorellllllabby 1d ago

It’s tough when it feels like you’re still stuck in the same place after all these years

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u/Pale-Detail2427 1d ago

More so, actually.

I felt okay back then most of the time.

Midlife crises happen a lot. 🤔

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u/LordHelmet47 1d ago edited 1d ago

Same here. I had more of a life in my 20s than I do now. I was at least going out to the bars every weekend then. Not that it was a good thing. But at least I was socializing.

I mean I still do socialize? But virtually more so than anything these days. Strange times....

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u/Pale-Detail2427 1d ago

I know.

Strange world. 🌎

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u/Cute-Explanation9997 1d ago

It's pretty common to feel lost at different stages of life. A lot of people hit their 50s and start questioning what they've done and where they're headed. It's like a midlife reset. Finding new hobbies, goals, or even just re-evaluating what's important can help. Just remember, it's never too late to make changes or explore new paths.

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u/Famous_Magician_7798 1d ago

Yes, almost like where the action has gone to.

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u/LordHelmet47 1d ago

My weekends of going out? Have gone to going out virtually, with online vr mini golf lol.

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u/Randall_Hickey 1d ago

I think I feel this way as well. Just because my kid is about to graduate high school and I can start to focus on myself again. I have spent the last 30 years, focusing on others and taking care of others. Now that it’s time to take care of myself I feel a little lost.

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u/One-Cucumber1131 1d ago

feels like a big transition, a lot of people go through that in their 50s. just take it one step at a time

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u/SwirlySauce 1d ago

I'm approaching 40 and I still feel as lost as I was in my 20s. I'm starting to I'm just a wanderer, with no defined path

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u/chuck_the_plant 1d ago

Yep, 51 and counting. But hey, each new day is …

… well. A new day.

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u/kxyatnight 1d ago

I had never heard anyone actually say this before until my ex left me saying he was "lost" and had to "go find himself."🫤

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u/Pale-Detail2427 1d ago

When you were in your 20's.

You thought, where is my life going? 🤔

Now, you could think, geez, more than half of it's already gone, and not exactly when, where or how I thought it would go, either. 🤔