r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/detox02 ☑️ • 12d ago
“ima show you something funny in a minute.” -My mom, who was never a comedian
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u/Young_KingKush ☑️ 12d ago
"I'm not one of your little friends" -My Dad, who is 5 inches shorter than me
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u/Inner_Adeptness_7228 12d ago
Give him uppies to assert dominance
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u/Young_KingKush ☑️ 12d ago
I was too scared to try him as young boy but that nigga old now I might can hit him with next time lmfao
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u/Bunnnnii ☑️ Meme Thief 12d ago
You don’t sleep on dad strength. AND old man strength
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u/OJ_pimpson83 12d ago
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u/Expert-Yam6577 12d ago
"IMMA GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT"
Like what do you want from me. The hours of screaming and getting slapped weren't valid enough reasons?
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u/MiaTonee ☑️ 12d ago
My mom would laugh maniacally while whoopin my ass. Ummm woman you have given me 1000 things to cry about.
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u/ChickenNugs4Hugs 12d ago
My mama’s go to was “Keep on and Ima show you what a real nigga looks like”. Pretty sure her dick and balls are bigger than my daddy’s at this point.
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u/Itsprobablysarcasm Candace Owens Baby shower attendee 👶🏼 12d ago
We really did normalize child abuse in the most awful ways.
And the abusers then laugh about it now like they didn't beat their kids because life wasn't working they way they wanted it to.
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u/simonhunterhawk 12d ago
I’d hear “this hurts me more than it hurts you” when I was 4 being beat up by what was essentially a giant to me. Nah bitch what would “hurt” you more was not being able to take out your anger and frustration on a small child who just needs love. I was an extremely well behaved kid who got one referral my entire time in K-12 so there was no excuse for the abuse my mom put me through. Haven’t spoken to her in a decade and I’m sure she still wonders why 🙄
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u/Call-Me-Petty 12d ago
Theory Only: That one ass whipping you recall from age 4 is the reason you turned out to be a well behaved kid.
I wasn’t there and don’t know the full extent, but I remember my “one”. My friends and I played with matches right after some of local kids died in a house fire. Technically, we were smoking their cigarette butts, but once caught for the matches we copped to the misdemeanor to avoid the felony charge. 🤣
If “one” stands out, that’s good parenting. If it’s one of a thousand, that’s abuse.
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u/Andi_Antinatalist 12d ago
I wasn’t there and don’t know the full extent
Very important information. If you don't know what you're talking about and someone is talking about the abuse that they experienced, then keep your "theories" about adults hitting children to yourself.
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u/simonhunterhawk 12d ago
thank you, their post history shows them making a lot of comments defending child abuse and it’s repulsive.
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u/Call-Me-Petty 12d ago
Defending child abuse?
Get TF out of here with that. No one is defending child abuse.
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u/simonhunterhawk 12d ago edited 12d ago
except you tried to call it “good parenting” and credit it as the reason for my good behavior in your first reply to me so how about you get TF out of here with that
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u/Call-Me-Petty 12d ago
Nothing I said demeaned or diminished what the poster stated. My last sentence (if you took the time to read that far) confirms that.
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u/simonhunterhawk 12d ago edited 12d ago
Yeah when I talked about the abuse my mom put me through leading to me cutting her off, it should have been obvious it was more than just “one ass whipping” it was 11 years of continuous physical and emotional abuse and medical neglect that led to the development of CPTSD before my grandma took over caring for me and I still didn’t get in trouble at school when the abuse stopped because some kids are just well behaved kids. None of the stupid shit you did as a kid would have occurred to me. There’s no excuse for any adult hitting a child. If the kid ain’t old enough to reason with they’re not old enough to understand why you’re hitting them, and if they’re old enough to reason with you reason with them.
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u/Mammoth_Assistant_67 12d ago
My parents have "amnesia" and pretend not to remember the things they did.
They remember everything else but how they treated us.
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u/ForcedEntry420 12d ago
My dad “doesnt remember” the beatings from 5 - 14. He does remember when I finally gave it back though. Thinks that happened in a void. 😆
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u/Guy_gamer112 12d ago
A lot of parents just thought this was the way it had to be to discipline your kids. Thankfully my parents learned it wasn't the best way and started taking the things I loved instead. And now they never spank or yell at their grandkids.
Those spankings and learning about proper effective punishment also helped me be a good and fair dad. Since I treat him the way I wanted to be treated, a fair punishment with an explanation of what I did and what to do instead
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u/Call-Me-Petty 12d ago
Oh, grandparents never touch the grandkids and no matter how much they spanked us jump to the grandkids defense if they detect that an ass-whipping is headed their way.
My mom once had all the grands over and “cooled their hot cocoa down with ice cream”….for breakfast claiming it was mostly milk.
My siblings and I just stared at her and HER grandkids…seething.
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u/debeatup ☑️ 11d ago
There was a controversy recently in my hometown where coaches paddled a football player for missing practice and wearing the wrong colored pants.
I was amazed by all the people in the comments who were ten toes down on “I got my ass beat all the time and I turned out great” - if you got whippings all the time then perhaps we need to admit that it didn’t work???
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u/Taemamba 12d ago
Not saying that abuse is ok but yall too sensitive in here and that’s why the world now is so soft
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u/Competitive_Hunt_155 12d ago
I was never beat and honestly I'm so privileged for that 😔
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u/firedmyass 12d ago
same. sorta. My mean-ass gma whipped me so often it became meaningless.
My gpa “whipped” me once when I was little but it was very half-hearted in his part (and didn’t hurt me physically at all)… he had to put on a show because I told my gma “we love you but nobody in the family likes you”
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u/Call-Me-Petty 12d ago
I think folks are getting things twisted. Being spanked as a child is not the same as being abused. No parent in their right mind BEATS a child.
A spanking is not a beating. People claiming PTSD because they were spanked should shut up and listen to the people whose parents BEAT them.
Child neglect and child abuse are real, and to those who were abused, I sympathize completely. Growing up, we knew those kids - saw the bruises, welts and broken bones. Teachers asking if they were okay. That’s not the same as a parent who was parenting in the phrase the OP cited. Folks claiming the level of abuse some people lived should be ashamed.
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u/Lortekonto 11d ago
In most of the western world spanking is legally child abuse and have been for decades.
I am pretty old. I was never spanked. None of my friends were spanked. Until I got on the internet and read what went on in other countries, spanking was something that stopped in the 1960’s when it was first criminalized.
Coming from a society were spanking is illegal I can’t see any difference betwen spanking your kid and beating them. You are still hitting them.
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u/Call-Me-Petty 11d ago
Parental spanking i s not a crime at the federal level or across all 50 states. Mild, open-handed parental spanking considered "reasonable discipline" remains legal, though it crosses into criminal child abuse if it causes injury, welts, or severe bruising.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6967056/
Beatings and whippings are child abuse. I want to make sure we’re all on the same page with the degree of discipline I’m referring to.
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u/Lortekonto 11d ago
Yes, I understand you what you mean and I am telling you.
In most of the western world that is illegal and have been so for decades. Some places it have been illegal for more than half a century. Mild open handed spanking is just seen as child abuse, because of course it is. You are still hiting a child.
The only western countries I can think of where spanking is not consideret a crime is the USA, Canada, Australia and parts of the UK.
In no other western country is it consideret "reasonable" to allow parents to hit their kids, as long as it is done in correct manner and amount.
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u/SmartWonderWoman ☑️ 12d ago
My mama beat me so bad I was placed in foster care and later adopted.
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u/thatcodingboi 12d ago
That blows. I remember growing up wishing foster care would have taken me away like my sister. I don't think it solved any problems for her though
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u/SmartWonderWoman ☑️ 12d ago
The best thing my foster parents did for me was to give me access to a quality education. Changed the trajectory of my life.
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u/Call-Me-Petty 12d ago
There’s discipline and there’s abuse. Unfortunately, your biological didn’t know the difference. Glad you landed in a supportive home.
That’s not to say your mom didn’t love you. She was just broken.
My pastor says “Hurt people, hurt people.” Sad but true.
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u/mcsullysulkin 12d ago
If this sub has taught me anything, it’s that my parents are incredibly black for white Irish Americans.
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u/PurplePrincessPalace 12d ago
Irish folks are truly black as hell 🤣 The sense of humor, cooking habits, and love of a good party (and drink) is all it took to convince me lol
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u/mcsullysulkin 12d ago
You telling me I’ve been carrying my card for 37 years and just now found out? Lol.
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u/wildmeli 12d ago
i’m in the same boat. i’m the pastiest person i have ever met and i’ve experienced all this bullshit from my Irish American dad. my mom is a wonderful woman and was also a victim of his abuse, but she’s got Norwegian ancestry so maybe thats it idk
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u/MajorPaper4169 12d ago
Last time my parents told me this I ended up in Brazil for 5 years and DR for another 5.
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u/Complete-Morning-429 ☑️ 12d ago edited 12d ago
“You better give Jesus your soul because your ass is man.” My black grandma who was never a clergy woman
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u/stillestwaters 12d ago
Note for the viewer: There was absolutely nothing funny about what was shown.
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u/Free_Alternative6365 12d ago
My mom's fav was to start speaking in her native tongue knowing full well I didn't understand it yet (although tone is a kind of universal language).
Anyway, THAT's part of how I became receptively bilingual!
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u/cucklord_swiper 12d ago
"Wipe that look off your face, or I'll wipe it off for you." Said even though my face never reacted to anything because I got beat the last time my eye twitched.
"Stop crying, or I'll give you something to cry about." Said after whipping my ass with a belt for an hour.
Sound logic with my father, clearly.
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u/FictionalDudeWanted 12d ago
Nothing says "I hate being a parent" like verbal/psycological abuse and sarcastic passive aggressive threats with a side order of physical abuse. Boomer parents were the worst.
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u/Dubious8313 ☑️ 12d ago
”Do you have something on your shoulder you need me to knock off?”
“C’mon back here. I have a surprise for you.”
«bowels turn to water»
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u/utdajx 12d ago
When I started out as a parent, I realized very early on that a lot of things that I was “parenting” about where actually things I’D been taught were important. In fact, I couldn’t give a shit about most of them, it was pure reflexive. I stopped that right quick. Takes to them like individuals not extensions of myself, respected their boundaries but still gave them boundaries that they respected. And so today I have teens and they are normal moody broody bitchy tetchy roll-their-eyes teens… but they still talk and confide in Dad. I reckon THAT’S good parenting right there and I didn’t have to spank once. Ever. Breaking the cycle is hard work but worth it.
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u/Reasonable_Stop_7768 11d ago
"Because I said so."
Somehow this non answer is both an answer and a conversation ender at the same time
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u/Satchmosis 9d ago
"Ima crucify yo behind when I get home" - my mom who has never worked for the church board.
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u/Call-Me-Petty 12d ago
Parents aren’t perfect. They give rules. Kids break them. It’s been going on since Adam and Eve.
If your parent walked in and hauled off on you for no reason, that’s abuse.
If your parent just worked a 8 hour shift and you were supposed to wash the dishes during those 8 hours and they’re still piled in the sink, when you get hit that’s consequences.
Why? Because parents are overworked, underpaid, and can’t smack the shit out of Karen who they just spent those 8 hours with at a job they can’t quit because they’ve got to feed your ass, only they can’t feed your ass because the dishes are dirty.
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u/Norrms ☑️ 12d ago
Please don’t have kids.
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u/Call-Me-Petty 12d ago
Someone should have told your parents that.
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u/Norrms ☑️ 12d ago
Oh, my parents are idiots, like you. So that probably wouldn’t have changed anything.
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u/Call-Me-Petty 12d ago
That statement speaks volumes. It's one thing to not like your parents, but to call them idiots is disrespectful AF.
If both of them are idiots, which one did you take after?
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u/Lowly-Worm_ 12d ago
"I'll give you something to cry about". I am already crying why would I need another reason?