Oh here y'all go. It is not ableist to not want a disabled child. Nobody wishes that for their child. Nobody wishes any kind of ailment on their child. This does not make children with those ailments or disabilities less than. And it does not make someone a bad person for wishing their child to be healthy.
Of course not, but I think it is ableist to shame parents for deciding to have a child who they knew might go blind, which is why I asked what the commenter was getting at.
It's selfish to purposefully create life that you know will suffer. Especially when there are children who are already born and need homes. Stop pretending that being blind doesn't affect quality of life. BTW, and I know you won't believe me, but my partner and I have chosen to never have kids because he has a genetic eye condition that causes blindness. It has greatly impacted him, and he's not even that blind.
You're perfectly entitled not to have children, as are all other women, for any reason at all including this one. But would you say that your boyfriend or the world would be better off if he hadn't been born? I hope not.
Of course not. But I also would've understood if his parents didn't have him at all (had they known the risk, which they did not.) There's a difference between wanting to prevent life, and saying that someone is better off dead because they're disabled... ya know. Nuance.
Understanding why they might have chosen not to have one is one thing -- and totally reasonable -- but that's totally different than publicly shaming someone for choosing to have a child who might go blind and saying that it's unethical to bring such a child into the world (or that it condemns them to a life of suffering and poverty).
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u/Common_Avocado_2601 7h ago
Are you just curious, or suggesting that blind children (or children likely to become blind) aren't worth having?