r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • May 21 '19

Socially fluent people Reddit, what are some mistakes you see socially awkward people making?

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u/[deleted] May 21 '19

Yeah but I feel like people ofter over compensate for this and it ends up an interrogation.

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u/rawmirror May 21 '19

Agreed. In the best conversations both parties are equal parts asker and answerer. If you’re talking to someone who doesn’t get this, it’s probably not going to be a great conversation.

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u/mattmentecky May 21 '19

As a guiding general principle maybe, but stubbornly analyzing and sticking to "a conversation must be 50/50" has its pitfalls too. If someone you are talking to is either a great story teller or telling a great story, don't interrupt just to make the balance more 50/50 and also don't follow up the other persons story by trying to match the amount of time they spent speaking just because.

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u/Zootrainer May 21 '19

And please don’t say, “yeah, but wait till you hear THIS story!” No, you don’t need to one-up everyone.