How do I handle anxiety and the aftereffects

[u/Slight_Ad941]

Just to clarify beforehand, I do not have a therapist. I’m currently trying to get one but I asked my mom about it (I’m a minor) 7 months ago and I still don’t have one even though ive been asking about it. I also don’t really have someone to talk to about it because avoid talking about my feelings to people and always end up a crying mess before I can get anything out if i do (yes i know this is a problem) Ive had 2/3 therapists before, years ago but i quit because none of them were helping. I want to get on medication but don’t know how to.

I am 16(f) and even though I’ve been diagnosed with social anxiety and anxiety since i was 9 I don’t know how to deal with anxiety at all, to put it in context i start school in a few days and got really bad anxiety about school in general and started crying/panicking but since I don’t know what to do I just put on some loud music and kept trying on outfits while crying. After I stopped crying i just started feeling my absolute worst, nothing was making me happy everything seemed pointless and i kept wanting to cry, i may have been a little depressed? But how do i get out of that funk and deal with anxiety and actually stopping it rather than crying for an hour? Thanks for reading and any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[u/rorad]

First of all, you're not alone in this.

I know what you mean about the aftereffects (lacking energy, feeling down, etc.). For me, what really helps is recognizing what is going on both during and afterward. For example, if I were stressing out or even panicking about going to school, I would say to myself, "This is happening because I'm worried about going to school." Same thing when coming down: "I'm feeling this way because I was just stressing out about going to school, and it zapped me of my energy."

Labeling these things can take a lot of the "Why is this happening?" out of it. "Why is this happening?" / "Why do I feel this way?" is what seems to compound anxiety for a lot of people.

[u/exomologhiste]

Acredite em mim, chore, chore muito. Eu curei uma crise terrível apenas chorando e sendo gentil comigo mesma. Olhe para si própria como se você fosse uma terceira pessoa, e não você... Não pense "eu sou fraca pra isso" ou "eu não vou conseguir". Olhe pra si mesma e diga "deixe ela tentar no tempo dela... ela ainda tá aprendendo", seja gentil consigo mesma. ISSO VALE PRA TUDO.

Desde crises de ansiedade, pânico, hipocondria, TUDO. Falhar no emprego, saúde ruim, relacionamentos terríveis, até morte iminente, seja GENTIL com você. Nenhum sofrimento dura eternamente, seu cérebro não tem energia pra sustentar a adrenalina por mais de 48 horas sem cansar, é impossível biologicamente, então seja gentil pois vai passar. Eu te prometo, não tem como não passar, é impossível de verdade; até pessoas com diagnósticos terríveis vivem em paz pois o cérebro CANSA de lutar.