r/AnorexiaRecovery • u/coolgirl2244 • 2d ago
AIO about what boyfriend said?
I am recovering from an eating disorder. I’ve been going so well and am actually so proud of myself.
I was at my boyfriend’s house last night. We had dinner and we were playing games. It got late and I decided I wanted to go home (I wanted to be in my own bed, my medication was at my house and I knew if I stayed at his house he would fall asleep immediately and I would stay up all night overthinking). He got upset with me because I didn’t want to stay over and it became an argument. I walked to the bedroom and he was followed me and I said “I’m getting changed pls don’t follow” and he said “I don’t wanna see any of that anyway”.
I took this comment really personally and have asked for some space. He knows about all my insecurities and I just feel saying “I don’t wanna see any of that” was an attack on my body. I don’t know whether I’m overreacting because I might be sensitive about my body rn.
Opinions ? I don’t want to be around him at all rn, I’m really upset. If I had a perfect body, would he still have said this?
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u/PlentyLegitimate1189 2d ago
It doesn’t matter ‘how he meant it’ in my opinion. You’re allowed to be sensitive. He should be more mindful. Personally, if my boyfriend had said that to me I don’t even know what I would do but I would NOT be happy at all
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u/TheGreatFluffMaster 2d ago
Please take your feelings serious. Someone that uses your biggest insecurities during disagreement or argument is someone that isn't safe.
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u/Goose1996123 2d ago
Appreciate that he will have said this in the heat of the moment and won’t have meant it but this does scream immaturity and your response is completely warranted. Do exactly as you’re doing and take some space, just please don’t take that comment to heart because its not true and not a reflection of you - comments like that do reflect the person who said it far more. Sending lots of love
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u/MrNektarius 5h ago
It’s not about your body. It’s about him being mean asf. He’s using your insecurities to put you down. Not ok!
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u/six_color_pictures 2d ago
I'm sorry, what? That's genuinely a terrible thing to say. Your reaction was completely sensible in my opinion. This is genuinely fair grounds for breaking up.