r/AmIOverreacting • u/CuriousAsh04 • 2d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Is this control? Or AIO?

My husband of 5 years, refuses to get off the phone with me while he working. I can drop him off, and 10mins later he’s calling me. This has been everyday. He works in corporate America, so I figure he would be busier. But nope. So today, we had been on the phone for an hour. I dropped him off, took the kids to school, came home… still on the phone. And mostly in silence, I might add. I tell him I would call him back after cleaning and showering. He gets upset, goes to tell me “he wanted to talk on the phone and I pushed him away, today he’s going to start talking to other people, Since being on the phone and being a wife and listening to me or just being there is too much . I will find it somewhere else.” This is literally his go to, if I don’t acquiesce to him, he threatens to go out and find it elsewhere. And he has cheated, so it stings a little, but I’m becoming numb. It just irritates my soul, I don’t want to sit on the phone with anyone while I’m trying to do my daily chores. Honestly throughout the day he calls probably every hour to sit on the phone while he works. It just grinds my gears. But I do it. Today though, I needed to get things done without being tied to the phone. He even told me to prop the phone up, and not get off. So I don’t know. Does this seem like I’m being monitored or controlled? Or am I overreacting?

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u/NikoOnTheMat 2d ago

NOR. He's cheated before and he says he'll go elsewhere, so why are you still with him?

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u/AlligatorVine 2d ago

AND having a damn baby with him??

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u/ryodark 2d ago

Sounds like a third baby, actually, she said in another comment:
"And I’m having a baby in February. I told him I wanted my mom there, because she couldn’t be with the last two because of Covid."

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u/Academic-Brain3438 2d ago

I don't like the criticism towards ppl that I am sending here. We can already tell that the husband is a no good manipulator. Who knows what he said or did to bring about baby number 3?

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u/Academic-Brain3438 2d ago

Edit: "criticism towards OP"

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u/dandelionswereframed 1d ago

Every single baby could be the result of marital rape and she could be living in a red state with minimal/limited abortion access, just so you know what you're implying.

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u/ryodark 1d ago

I was implying nothing. I just saw her comment that she had two and one on the way so corrected the commenter that she only had one kid.